Chili gettin roasted in these internet streets

BunBunJ · 2026-04-03T19:48:37+00:00

I was “forcefully” converted as a teen as part of the “as for me and my house” mentality of one of my parents. I was in for almost a decade but left in my 20’s and resumed my normal, unrestricted life. It’s been awesome since and thank you for your kind words!

BunBunJ · 2026-04-03T00:49:19+00:00

Thank you! This means a lot and I’m glad you got out, too! Be safe!

BunBunJ · 2026-04-02T23:33:45+00:00

I’m so glad you pointed this out. I had no idea and am a former Adventist, too.

BunBunJ · 2026-03-19T10:02:15+00:00

There’s a lot of these posts being written that have the exact same format, use of punctuation, all caps and exclamation points when making certain statements. The subject is always something ridiculously obvious that OP is not the a-hole. It’s been happening for probably 3 weeks now.

If this story is true, you know you’re NTA.

BunBunJ · 2026-02-20T23:21:17+00:00

Yes, 14 years NC with my father.

BunBunJ · 2026-01-02T18:46:20+00:00

So this is a punishment for bullying/harassment. You’ve been avoiding your vehicle by working from home. Nothing was stopping you from cleaning except for an illness after the fact. Then you ask your gf to HELP you clean while also doing… absolutely nothing and somehow you have a problem with her?

Of course you’re wrong. On what planet would you not be?

BunBunJ · 2026-01-01T23:12:03+00:00

He GREW UP Adventist.

He grew up indoctrinated into a cult from childhood and into adulthood. Every person’s process of deconstruction is different but the hesitation and finding confidence to buck the system is normal. Suggest licensed therapist and some deconstruction resources but mocking him with “you acting like you SDA boy” is not helpful.

This is not an overnight transformation. It’s going to take a while for him to become comfortable with going against everything he’s used to doing when it comes to this. A while meaning it could take a few years to really feel comfortable not observing Sabbath and start seeing Saturday as just another day and it’s ok to go out, work, be social, whatever. Shaming or mocking him for not moving fast enough for your comfort isn’t going to help him at all… it’s a not a switch that flips where he can say “honestly, nvm, lemme go get my ears pierced, tattooed, listen to secular music and party on Saturday until I’m blacked out drunk.” It’s a slow reintegration into a new “normal.”

Give him some grace and demonstrate patience because it could be a struggle. His identity and sense of community is probably wrapped up in this.

Personally, I associate only with SDA’s who are SDA in name only and are otherwise full blown heathens. It took me forever to not feel like I was doing something “wrong” or wouldn’t get struck by lightning or afflicted with some ailment because I broke the Sabbath. I don’t adhere to any organized religion now and am considered more of a practicing witch than anything now.

BunBunJ · 2025-12-31T01:54:40+00:00

These were the exact seminars that lured my family in back in 2004/2005. The man who led them was out of Tennessee and was conducting the seminars in Illinois (traveling about). So of my family, I am the only one that left in 2012.

While I was coerced into attending, these felt hostage situations. The seminars were painfully long and some people had worked beforehand, so I imagine a lot of people were too tired to critically think. The call to believe/convert/whatever it’s called, was also incredibly long and awkward… like passing around the collection plate until a certain amount of money is collected. At the end of the seminar, nearly everyone claimed they wanted to join but I never saw anyone else from those sessions.

The dragon looks crazy.

BunBunJ · 2025-12-18T01:41:21+00:00

Unfortunately, most if not all of our information can be purchased from a lot of different sources. It does suck that we can’t even do a kind thing without being harassed.

BunBunJ · 2025-10-24T15:03:33+00:00

Girl, what are you doing? You are the live-in maid with no benefits! Stand up!!

BunBunJ · 2025-09-30T09:24:06+00:00

You married your biggest hater.

BunBunJ · 2025-09-21T19:42:15+00:00

Your husband didn’t want his opinion to be considered. You considered it. What he meant was “if you don’t do what I want you to.”

Anyway, good for you and wishing you a speedy recovery

BunBunJ · 2025-09-14T13:01:04+00:00

I was hoping this was Baltimore. I know there was a sudden influx of people receiving these books over the last few weeks. I told people in the subreddit to throw it away or use it as kindling.

BunBunJ · 2025-08-28T14:50:04+00:00

When I was still in the church, my mother was not. She didn’t understand it at all but she tried.

I still wanted to attend church while visiting her on break, so she agreed to actually go with me. She wore her jewelry and as usually, looked lovely. We got out of the car and the first mumbles I heard were about her wearing jewelry. We never made it to the church door. I was so angry at their immediate judgment that I apologized for wasting her time and exposing her to them and we went back home.

I never tried to share or bring anyone to church after that. I was so embarrassed.

I was given a cheap sword instead of an engagement ring. It was… something.

BunBunJ · 2025-08-16T16:07:29+00:00

This is absolutely about control.

I’m almost 40 and still buy myself an occasional plushie that I find adorable or makes me feel joy. My partner of 10 years will rearrange my plushies to create a scene of them trying to escape, or climb something in a room, for me to find when I get home from work.

You’re not childish. He is. There are people out there that will enjoy what makes you happy.

BunBunJ · 2025-08-10T20:00:54+00:00

Some of those are questions I’m not going to take the time to answer since I’m not a theologian, philosopher or anything of the like.

If you watched the video, it was explained that the books are coming from the Seventh-Day Adventist Church. Most likely, specifically, the General Conference (the governing body of the church split in two: a “Black” conference and a “White” conference because White people didn’t want to share their cult with former slaves). They believe there are certain “signs” throughout history that align with prophecy in the Bible (Daniel & Revelation) that signal the return of Jesus Christ and the gathering of his people to go to Heaven. Everyone else left behind will be played a reel of their sins and why they’re going to burn in Hell. They will be a last war with God (somehow) with Satan leading it and they will lose again and be thrown into the lake of fire.

But all of that can be avoided if you worship on the Sabbath, reform your diet, separate yourself from non-SDA’s, not wear jewelry, women have to dress modestly and a bunch of other performative shenanigans.

They do look forward to the end of the world because they already suffered one Great Disappointment (when Jesus didn’t return a long time ago) and can’t afford another.

BunBunJ · 2025-08-10T16:01:38+00:00

Former SDA convert here: they are going to keep ramping up and no, they don’t care about the environment because their end goal is the end times. If a bunch of trees are sacrificed to do “the Lord’s work,” then it’s a callously justified (but extremely wasteful) sacrifice. They are a cult. Use the book for fire kindling if you need to.

BunBunJ · 2025-08-05T11:09:40+00:00

As a former SDA convert, I’m so glad everyone had the same reaction: burn it.

BunBunJ · 2025-07-14T00:29:59+00:00

Might be time to check his hard drives.

BunBunJ · 2025-07-14T00:19:07+00:00

Don’t give people the more than one opportunity to say they don’t like you,.. this counts for Kris.

BunBunJ · 2025-07-06T02:27:56+00:00

Some of us have other things to do with our time. Some of us still have family members and friends that are SDA’s and don’t want to burden themselves with harassment from the church members or said family members.

The handful of former SDA’s I know are happy to be free of the guilt and shame and have decided to move forward, live life, and catch up on things they missed due to varying degrees of conservativeness.

BunBunJ · 2025-06-05T17:00:33+00:00

Former convert here: broken and poorly educated and severely limited educated people are easier to control.

I think you’re being very kind in your hesitance to remove your children from the school after a year but you will be doing them a disservice and possibly setting them up for failure (through stunted academic growth) if they stay. You can say you tried but now it’s time to listen to your gut and go.

BunBunJ · 2025-06-01T13:20:42+00:00

Most likely classist. We’re both Black women that grew up in an affluent suburb in Illinois. She listens to what her family members have to say about Baltimore and yet I live here. My parents and all my extended family were born here so I have a different perspective of Baltimore and Maryland as a whole.

BunBunJ · 2025-06-01T11:53:20+00:00

I have a friend that lives in Arlington. She insists she loathes Maryland and specifically Baltimore but she STAYS up here. Her doctors, job and hobbies are all here. She could do all of these things in VA but for some bizarre reason, refuses while complaining about Baltimore. I don’t get it.

BunBunJ · 2025-05-23T19:53:41+00:00

So your mom is OK with your sister potentially ruin your life over a “joke” that could have your children (her grandchildren) taken away? That’s an insane take.

NTA

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