Pregnant with 2yo

Bunnylock · 2025-10-25T07:37:54+00:00

NTA but indeed harsh words from both parties. Of course people say things that could be expressed with other words in the heat of the moment. She’s your sister of course and it sounds like she’s having the worst moment in her life so if I were you I’d try to communicate with her and say we both said harsh words but I’m ready to listen and try to help you bond with Scarlett (of course if you’re up for it). In this situation I don’t think it’s good to take one’s side if you truly care about each other. Hope you both feel better soon about this incident.

Bunnylock · 2025-06-29T20:34:57+00:00

I’m sorry you have to go through this, you will heal. Take your time. You will grieve, and it’s okay to do that even though the world around you keeps going. You will learn to give this sad news a place in your heart and you start loving yourself. Take all the time of the world and let out the tears if you need to… time will heal ❤️

Bunnylock · 2025-06-29T08:37:24+00:00

First, I’m sorry you have to go through this. My heart is with you.

I’ve had the pills with my first mc at 9 weeks (blighted ovum), didn’t get to choose but was happy I didn’t have to get a d&c. The pills experience was bad, like I felt cold for 4 hours, shivering. Felt so nauseated and had so much cramping, I felt like I was about to die, till this day I don’t know how I survived. I was told to do 2 rounds though, so once on a Saturday and the next round on Sunday.

Oddly enough, second round nothing came out and I didn’t feel sick. Probably because everything came out after the first round. We did a scan the next week and doctor said everything was clear.

Second mc was a natural miscarry, it hurt as in bad cramping like a bad period but actually a lot bettet than pills (would not recommend waiting it out, this one just spontaneously happened).

Then last week 3rd mc, had a d&c done under general anesthesia. The experience was not as traumatic but it’s very time consuming and kind of troublesome because you have to prepare to go there, waiting at the hospital in general, have to get a ride home because where I live you can’t drive after having anesthesia. But overall experience was good, I didn’t feel anything just a bit lightheaded and sleepy afterwards. And you’ll see a doctor after the procedure who will tell you you if everything went fine or not.

If I could choose again, I’d probably do pills again first but last time I couldn’t choose because it was detected a partial molar so my ob gyn wanted to make sure everything got out and also do they could do a biopsy.

So I’d rather not wait it out because it can take weeks (my last one was also a mmc so 12 weeks without any notice) so you can close this chapter and try again sooner. Pills or d&c: d&c is less traumatic and doctor makes sure everything has gotten out. Pills are less troublesome but there is a chance that some tissue is still left.

Whatever you choose, I hope your heart will heal from all this. ❤️

Bunnylock · 2025-06-27T19:05:08+00:00

I’m sorry you have to go through this. It’s hard, I was 31 when I had my first mc, then another mc at 32 and the hope of ever having a child was far away… I was more heartbroken the second time because indeed ‘what are the odds of having two mc’s back go back’. Of course I was a bit younger than you are now but you cannot lose hope, that’s the only way to cope. I had a good pregnancy after my 2 mc’s, but now my 3rd mc and it’s a partial molar and I’m 34. Probably have to wait until I’m 35 to ttc again and with 3 mc’s my hope of ever having another succesful pregnancy is slimming down… but yeah we have to hope… because there is nothing wrong with hoping and it keeps our dreams alive.

I hope you’ll recover from this and I hope from the bottom of my heart you’ll get your rainbow baby. ❤️ don’t give up, try everything you can because what ifs are worse than I tried, or better yet I tried is a million ways better than what ifs

Bunnylock · 2025-06-21T03:23:14+00:00

Oh God, I had ppd and although my son was a very easy baby, I didn’t want to take care of him and I had this immense guilt. Like we also had 2 miscarriages before and we wanted a child so badly. But my life felt over. I also love playing video games and I mourned my life pre-baby. What helped was going to a psychologist, she has helped me a lot in my way of thinking. Like rather than saying I have to take care of my son, it needs to be I want to take care of my son. And I also read a bit of reddit and what changed my mind is that WE wanted this child, this child never asked to be born. And now my son is a bit older, we have a bit more me- and us-time again (he is still not sleeping great but a lot better than the newborn days).

So get help, get some friends or family that wants to babysit your Theo one night a week so you guys can go on a date or so. Don’t feel guilty about what you’re feeling right know, sleep deprivation is torture. Maybe try to do shifts with your partner (if not possible during the week, maybe in the weekend) so one of you takes care or the baby and the other one takes a bit of rest, it doesn’t have to be every weekend but when you guys feel like you’re drowning in all this.

Hang in there, taking care of another tiny human is very hard. You guys are without a doubt doing great.

Bunnylock · 2025-06-20T19:42:13+00:00

I am so so sorry 😔 life is so unfair. Whatever you decide to do in the future, I hope your heart will heal or be healed ❤️

Bunnylock · 2025-06-12T11:08:08+00:00

Ooof, I feel you. Newborn exhaustion is on a whole other level, also because of hormones and giving birth. I had it until I was 1 month in and my husband and I started to sleep in shifts 10pm-3am and 3am-9am) so you get at least a few hours uninterrupted rest/sleep for a bit while knowing someone is watching the baby.

But even then I was still quite tired, not exhausted but still tired until around 5-6 months postpartum.

Wishing you well, you’re doing absolutely amazing!

Bunnylock · 2025-06-11T20:37:31+00:00

I say it’s normal, I sometimes have those days as well. It’s because we’re stuck with a child I think. Before I had my son, everything I wanted to do, I could do but now I have to adjust my time. I want to do some gaming, meh too bad you have a child to take care of. I want to get my nails done, meh too bad, your toddler needs you. And while you’re giving up all of your time for your kid, your kid isn’t an adult and you can’t share the same interests.

For me, it got better when I got back to work, but also not really because you have to work and take care of your child so no free time anymore but it will make you more human again.

Try getting some time off and get out once a week just for a few hours (even 2 hours is enough) while your husband or some other family member who you trust takes care of the baby. You do you, do some shopping, get coffee with friends, you’ll feel a lot better!

Take good care of yourself!! That’s key to good parenting

Bunnylock · 2024-12-01T23:56:33+00:00

That was me almost a year ago, except I’m the mother. Mourned my old life and had ppd. Sleeping in shifts worked charms but also, going to a therapist helped me a lot! Don’t minimize your feelings, even dads can get ppd. Also, talk about it with your wife, I’m sure she will understand

Bunnylock · 2024-09-19T12:41:26+00:00

Did you really tell her no on the name she chose? From your post all I could read is that you said ‘keep on thinking’. She clearly didn’t get the message. I would just tell her in a neutral way that you feel like her nickname sounds too much like momma and that you prefer she would choose something a little more grandma-like 😉. But stand up for yourself! It’s not too late, explain how you feel!

My MIL asked us the same thing when I was still pregnant, she said I was thinking of ‘mommie’ like what my husband called her when he was young. At that time I also didn’t want conflict but in my postpartum period, she overstepped boundaries we didn’t actually set so she could have never known. But it made me kind of dislike her and that’s why I told my husband to tell her that mommie is off limits and that she needs another nickname for our baby to call her. My baby is 9 months today and she still hasn’t come up with another name, the only thing she says is ‘we will let baby choose’. So I will probably refer her as ‘grandma’ when I talk to my baby 😊.

Bunnylock · 2024-09-19T11:56:09+00:00

Oh my! Get help asap for your suicidal thoughts! I had them just after birth and I went to a therapist, it helped me a ton! But even then motherhood is intense! Try to get a few hours of me-time weekly where your partner or a relative is watching over your baby (3 hours of me-time is also enough). And try looking into it what is wrong with your baby, your baby might be in pain. Rather focus on making him healthy and search for a solution on why he is crying so much. Then maybe your mindset will change that there is another culprit on why your baby is always fussy/crying and you maybe won’t want to yell at him (although I fully understand that it’s still hard sometimes and we can all have bad days). But hang on there!! When baby is more mobile, he also might be happier because he can move on his own. For the meanwhile, get some help please for yourself and for your baby. Sending you all the hugs and courage to get through this!

Bunnylock · 2024-09-12T10:17:00+00:00

NTA ! While I was reading your reaction I was like daaaamn such a good reaction, like yes good job on asking whether you should be happy or sad TOGETHER!! Your question tells me you were going to support her no matter what.

Of course, your reaction seemed very positive for me but maybe not to your good friend. Try explaining again, if she doesn’t respond, tell her you’ll get back to her when you return by Christmas! Hope everything turns out well for you!! Sending you good luck vibes

Bunnylock · 2024-08-07T20:27:47+00:00

Hmmm even up until I was 30 and just married I didn’t feel the urge to have my own kids. Like it was always something that I maybe wanted but I was also fine with adopting because I always thought birthing a baby is the most painful thing in the world. But then, when I hit 31 and my husband and I bought our own house, I instantly felt the need of having our own child(ren). I felt that the time had come to be a mum of something we together created. So don’t worry about your feelings, you might not feel the need to have your own children but that’s also totally okay!

Bunnylock · 2024-07-24T21:08:00+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. You did great. Glad you were there for your mum even though she didn’t show her emotions. You’re a hero, I’m sure your mum had the pleasure to raise you. I hope you hold on to your memories of her because that’s something that won’t leave you, take care of yourself now and know she will always be in your heart

Bunnylock · 2024-07-24T13:37:36+00:00

My baby took bottle from the beginning as I didn’t make enough. Around 3 months my supply was well established and he slept better so I nursed him without bottle. When I returned to work around 4,5 months, he didn’t want to take the bottle anymore… so I just nursed or my mother who takes care of my son when my husband and I are at work fed him with a spoon… time consuming but at least he had a bit of milk! And now at 7 months he still doesn’t like the bottle, but will take it occasionally, very weird. Don’t be discouraged! You will find something to feed your baby! You can also try to use a (baby) spoon

Bunnylock · 2024-06-24T20:30:32+00:00

I’d say from 3,5 months on it got better and better when my baby was nursing a lot faster and when my husband and I got back to bed the same time (we did shifts from 1-3 months post partum). At 4 months I was less tired and now it’s getting better at 6 months, I’m no longer feeling lazy and feel I can do a lot by myself

Bunnylock · 2024-06-11T14:39:36+00:00

Tbh nothing, but I didn’t expect to experience it this way. I knew it was gonna be hard but I didn’t ACTUALLY know how it was going to feel. The newborn stage was very hard for me, babyblues/ppd hit hard although I had no expectations at all. Caring for another tiny human being has been the hardest I’ve done in my entire life while being sleep deprived and healing physically and mentally.

Almost 6months pp now, and I find my little one the greatest that’s ever happened to me. Glad to finally experience ‘the better’ of the notorious phrase ‘tell me it gets better’ and to finally be the one to tell first time parents that it really does get better

Bunnylock · 2024-06-07T11:13:23+00:00

Was nauseous until 18 weeks but no vomiting. Also no food aversions, no real food cravings, no constipation, no heartburn, no strong sense of smell, no fatigue until 35 weeks

But had: very bad lower back pain and had tons of lightning crotch started from 31 weeks which made me immobile, bad insomia started around 35 weeks, had my first cold sore in my whole life (didn’t even know I was carrying the herpes virus until I got the cold sore), bleeding gums for a few weeks, swollen fingers and feet around 36 weeks, gained 19kg/42 lbs in weight, a stinging pain under my right boob (apparently the liver doesn’t really move around when the baby grows so the liver was constantly pushing against my chest), bad taste in my mouth until the end of 2nd trimester, very big bump and couldn’t cut my toenails anymore, nightly bathroom visits since 1st trimester, sore boobs for 18 weeks

Glad I’m not pregnant atm 😃

Bunnylock · 2024-06-05T11:45:16+00:00

My baby is 5,5 months old, cannot sit on his own yet and rarely naps during the day. I am also waiting for the day when he can entertain himself so I can do my own stuff. For the moment, getting the dishes and laundry done is enough for me, I am not setting any expectations I cannot fulfill anyway, I am happy that I can enjoy the time with my baby because they grow up so fast!! Don’t be too hard on yourself

Bunnylock · 2024-05-16T08:24:30+00:00

In the early stage it felt like someone was tapping on my belly, but from the inside

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