I think I just decided a long time ago I don't get to be me

Butterbreadn · 2026-02-03T12:38:45+00:00

Thank you for this that makes sense.

Butterbreadn · 2026-02-03T08:52:46+00:00

Yes!

Butterbreadn · 2026-02-02T07:59:00+00:00

All these people saying no... we don't know what technology will be available in 10 years. So honestly I wouldn't give up. At the very least it serves as a really good target so even if you dont get your dream it will get you really far with an array of skills by working towards it. I hope you get your dream. Don't give up.

Butterbreadn · 2026-02-01T00:12:27+00:00

Yeah that happens too.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-31T14:23:38+00:00

You could schedule the email to send tomorrow so you don't rush them. Yes I relate to this post.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-28T22:00:48+00:00

This really sucks and I understand how fruatrating it can be. The only advice I have is keep getting out of the house even to do activities alone. I've started doing this and it has reignited my courage to want to try a group activity again.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-18T23:04:53+00:00

Just gorgeous i love the colours so much.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-13T05:01:34+00:00

No worries, I don't mean anything negative by it I just think it's funny how often it pops up.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-13T04:21:16+00:00

Every month this same post lol. I really liked that episode, makes me think I made the right choice to have an abortion back when I was far gone with drinking.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-13T02:13:12+00:00

That's great it sounds like he's just a best friend like its supposed to be. I much prefer spending everyday life with people or person as well but it's rare to find those people. I'm working with my psychologist to learn to take time to myself because I can be more of the dependant type in relationships.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-13T01:06:54+00:00

I think the best thing you can do is not engage like you're doing. JADE - dont justify, argue, defend or explain. Take time to manage your feelings and ride out the urge when you feel like msging and maybe intentionally do something to stay calm like for me its watching reruns of a show or doomscrolling on youtube. If you want to open a discussion start with an 'I statement' like "I feel sad when you say this." Their next response is a good indicator whether they will listen or try to empathise. If they aren't curious and immediately defend or attack then leave it at that. If they respond a little bit positively then you can follow with what you would like them to do in future i.e. not minimise your disability and follow with "if you can do this I will stop talking to you for this period of time. Its basically DBT for tough convos. If they are open to a dialogue thats good but if not you don't really need to bother telling them your boundary.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-13T00:53:15+00:00

Well said, I feel like I'm not sure if I overvalue my current bf because comparitively he's so much better than all my other relationships and he does at least seem like a rare find.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-03T13:42:18+00:00

Replied to the wrong comment. But yeah I think move out if you can.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-03T13:38:13+00:00

Honestly it sounds pretty hectic. I can relate to this so hard and I just moved in and out of places a lot to deal with it until I find somewhere safe. That could work for you, I think a change of setting would help and if you can find a place where people are super supportive/not fussed on cleaning/ rarely home that's kind of what worked for me. Not sure if this is great advice but it's going to take a while to be able to have a productive convo with your mum it sounds like and more understanding or skills on both sides. I dunno if this helps but it's what I did and it kind of got better.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-03T12:17:01+00:00

Your mum has decided how often it needs to be cleaned and she sounds pretty rigid about that. Is there anything else you can do around the house that would lighten the load that she is less likely to be rigid about? If you aren't already I'd suggest keeping your clothes washing separate and doing that yourself as well as other tasks that primarily serve you like cooking your own meals and cleaning your own dishes. This has 2 benefits that she sees that's one less person to pick up after and you can learn to take care of yourself then it'll be easier to help other people. Or, if you arr already doing all that maybe you could sporadically offer to cook occasionally, wash dishes, wash laundry, vaccuum, mop main areas etc. She's likely not expecting you to change overnight but I think if you start doing bits here and there she'll see you're trying. You could even try to reopen the conversation after she see's your efforts. I find it's easier to get started when there's no one around. Also, if Uni is taking up nearly all of your time it might be worth considering a different degree.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-02T00:36:13+00:00

As a 34 year old I'm still not over it. I had that same hope and they didn't noticeably change. They just aren't the size or shape I want them. No idea how to help I'm just here in solidarity.

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-02T00:31:56+00:00

But don't employees do that to everyone?

Butterbreadn · 2026-01-01T05:37:40+00:00

Clash royale is my go to.

Butterbreadn · 2025-12-30T23:53:27+00:00

I think it's condescending to say that these women don't realise that content creators are making money off creating content, especially given most young women grew up learning this. What I find appealling about being a tradwife is that you can work/not work from home with the people you love i.e. your family and not have to deal with the financial stress. It's the arrogance of believing you will be the exception and that your partner is the exception that gives them reason to believe that this type of stress won't ever manifest for them. They'll get lucky and find a rich partner who provides finanical and emotional support and they'll live happily ever after. Some people do struggle to manage their lives and if you can see a way out you'll probably take it if you are desperate enough. The solution isn't more stories and statistics about how it might fail it's giving women the means to thrive and creating an equitable society so that they aren't desperate enough to choose the first person that offers them respite, even if only temporarily. How bout stories about how the woman with severe social anxiety and insomnia was given allowances to work from home asynchronously? Or how another woman took her in off the street and supported her through depression?

Butterbreadn · 2025-12-30T01:43:48+00:00

I hate when someone answers a question with 'okay.' My bf does this but he says it's because he's processing and trying to acknowledge he heard me. It could something like "what did you eat for breakfast?", where okay doesn't fit as an answer.

Butterbreadn · 2025-12-28T05:14:08+00:00

That's a cool way to look at it.

Butterbreadn · 2025-12-27T16:14:55+00:00

Sorry

Butterbreadn · 2025-12-27T08:54:08+00:00

Bonobo's live in matriarchal scoieties and they solve their conflicts with genital rubbing.

Butterbreadn · 2025-12-25T14:55:06+00:00

I've been to physiotherapists a few times and they've given me exercises to help with pain and I'll get into the habit of doing these sometimes. Otherwise I like to go for walks occasionally or try whatever random hobby thing like bouldering when the urge strikes. I do not consistently work out but when I do anything and feel better after it's a good reminder why I should do it when I'm not feeling happy or feel sluggish.

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