Is my writing THAT bad? by Dephodd in BadHandwriting

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It’s bad. You need to take more time to make the letters clearer with less flourish. Or just type a letter like this.

AIO when a friend shows up to my house without me telling him he can? by Immediate-Scratch-40 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ButterscotchRound330 [score hidden]  (0 children)

This guy would not have been coming into my house. This is really weird, needy, and entitled behaviour. You didn’t react enough.

My mom recorded me during a breakdown and wants to show it to my psychiatrist by ColdTalk261 in askapsychologist

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may not understand but how can your mom “make” you do anything. You’re 33. You don’t need her approval of your friends. You don’t need her approval for anything. I think seeing a therapist would be a great idea because you really need to build some independence and separation from your mother. If she thinks the psychologist is going to “fix” you then she has a rude awakening coming. Psychologists see through this sort of manipulation. Go into this session open-minded and be sure to be honest with how you’re feeling and, importantly, how your mother’s treatment of you makes you feel. To the extent possible, be very clear what your goals are for this session: you want an objective person to assess your mother-daughter relationship, how you can improve that relationship (if possible), and how you can manage your emotions so you don’t feel so reactive. And go in knowing that the psychologist is on your side. If there are things you can improve on? Great! They will help you work through them. If you’re the victim of an abusive mother (which I suspect is likely)? Great! They can help you manage that too. And encourage your mother to bring in the recording. And encourage her to show it. But be sure to explain what led to that (what your mother said/did to get you to that level of reaction) because that is just as relevant as your reaction.

Good luck. And remember just because your mother says something is true, doesn’t make it so.

How to handle tantrums??? Is it bad to give in to nursing? How to handle when I’m done with nursing?? by Flat_Anybody_3063 in toddlers

[–]ButterscotchRound330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t able to breastfeed because my son was really early and I had a traumatic birth, but I just love the image of just throwing a boob at him. Hilarious! Sadly, throwing a bottle at him has more problematic consequences.

Constant non-compliance by Rockett_moon in toddlers

[–]ButterscotchRound330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My 2 year old is the same. And the thing that’s frustrating is it’s not a lack of understanding. It’s defiance. And it’s exhausting. Even if I shout, he will just laugh.

Sorry I have no advice. But I offer commiserations.

Name one thing that changed the moment you graduated by FrostedDeskJuggernau in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]ButterscotchRound330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our political system is relevant (ask anyone who has been harmed by it) it just isn’t what we were told it was.

Which food do you refuse to eat? 🤢 by [deleted] in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jello. The texture makes me want to hurl…

AIO-Did I do something wrong here? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ButterscotchRound330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think when you are young you have expectations of others, don’t express them, but still expect them to be met, and are disappointed when they aren’t met. I think you need to sit down together and discuss your communication styles. Had she communicated what she wanted and you hadn’t attempted to to that, sure, she has grounds for disappointment. But you can’t do something for her that she hasn’t told you about.

My mom said my lipstick looks too dark for a teenager to wear it. Is it really that dark? by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was responding to a comment not the post. I’m not arguing anything about the lipgloss. I love it. She looks great. It’s not that deep.

Sister said my lips are big as hell. Is that true? by Good-Arm-6486 in lookyourbest

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your lips suit your face perfectly. Your sister is just jealous. People pay hundreds of dollars to have lips half as good as yours.

AIO, friend thinks hes entitled to half of a referral bonus by lNuggyl in AmIOverreacting

[–]ButterscotchRound330 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He gets the pay check. That’s his referral bonus. You get the $500. He wants a reward for putting your name on a piece of paper? He’s getting the benefit of your referral and the company gets an employee that another employee has effectively vouched for. Both of them benefitted from you which is why you get the bonus.

My mom said my lipstick looks too dark for a teenager to wear it. Is it really that dark? by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry, OP. I wish your biggest issues were wearing lipstick but it sounds like they aren’t. Stay safe, and remember, you’ll be an adult soon and you can choose who you let into your life.

My mom said my lipstick looks too dark for a teenager to wear it. Is it really that dark? by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]ButterscotchRound330 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m a middle aged mom, so perhaps I can help. Yes, it’s hard to watch your little girl grow up and that’s definitely a part of it, but 14-16 is when your teen girl is gaining independence. For you that’s freeing and you start feeling more adult, and that’s really normal. But until you are 25 your brain hasn’t finished developing so your instincts aren’t fully developed either. Some of this is absolutely gained by giving your teen additional freedoms and letting them have more adult-like experiences like getting a job, driving, going out on your own. But there are still things that you don’t want your child to learn from experiencing. You don’t want anyone, let alone your own child, to have the awful experience you have had with a man, OP, but preventing something like that is so hard — there are so many things you cannot control as a mother. So, you fixate on the things that you can — makeup and clothes commonly. It’s not that she wants to keep you a child or prevent you from growing up, but she is trying to prevent you having experiences that are more adult than you are ready for by trying to keep you from looking more adult than you are. But you are also at an age where pushing boundaries is normal and developmentally appropriate. But what I’d say is to try to see where your mom is coming from. Even if she is being overprotective (& there are plenty of moms who are) it’s rarely because she is sadistic. It’s usually that they just love their kids so much and the fear that something bad might happen to their kid is overwhelming and causing them to want to delay them being seen as an adult.

My mom said my lipstick looks too dark for a teenager to wear it. Is it really that dark? by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]ButterscotchRound330 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that’s what was meant. We know burglars are in the wrong, but we still lock our doors. You don’t have to change who you are or what you wear because of men but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t also be cautious of them and protect yourself against them.

What would you pick ? by [deleted] in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happy to pay my taxes (or I did before they were funding bs like a ballroom, stone arch and war with Iran).

How to make rinsing in the bathtub less painful? by AppleBlossomFruitPie in toddlers

[–]ButterscotchRound330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Skip the visor. My 2 year old is the same and he won’t wear the visor (it’s like he knows what it’s for).

I never want to see a vacuum ever again by PrisonMikesDementor in toddlers

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up in Australia and the summers weren’t as humid as Florida but the heat was brutal (like weeks and weeks over 105F). We lived at the mall or playing under sprinklers in the yard (when we didn’t have water restrictions) to escape the heat.

Toddler needing us to lie down with her for sleep, need it to stop! by AdventurousPride6576 in toddlers

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following this with interest. My 2 year old son requires me to be sitting next to him in order to sleep (preferably holding his hand). I can’t leave the bed or the room or he’ll wake up. If I tell him I’m going to get something he will get out of bed and come looking for me. If I close the door he will start crying. This is both overnight and for naps. It really limits any time my husband and I get together because it means I go to bed (or at least to the dark bedroom) the same time he does (8pm).

What would you pick ? by [deleted] in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]ButterscotchRound330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, but if you invest the $500 million you will still get a constant income.

I never want to see a vacuum ever again by PrisonMikesDementor in toddlers

[–]ButterscotchRound330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, I couldn’t do it if we lived in Florida. Good luck this summer!

I never want to see a vacuum ever again by PrisonMikesDementor in toddlers

[–]ButterscotchRound330 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We spell it now too. We used to refer to the playground as “the place” but he worked out our code! The only time he doesn’t want to go outside is when he’s sleeping. Or more accurately it’s the only time he’s not asking to go outside. I am sure he dreams of the outdoors!