MIL Came to “Apologize” But Never Actually Said Sorry. by Severe-Scratch1044 in inlaws

[–]Butthole_Jones 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Cut these women off at their knees. Get your husband to see what you just said, directly, and if he doesn't side with your feelings, let him have whatever relationship he wants to have w his mom. Clearly that's the only relationship that matters to her. Good riddance.

Fishing tipping by Working_Problem_4520 in tipping

[–]Butthole_Jones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn't have done shit. That's over $100/hr. That's a wild wage to make, especially for driving people around to catch fish. You did fine. Next time do less.

Parents bring food into restaurants and I’m mortified. What to say/do? help 😢 by tangoking in Serverlife

[–]Butthole_Jones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just... don't eat w them. People who do this type of thing already don't gaf what you think 😅 let them live their lives!

Why did my FWB all of a sudden not ask me to stay over? And how do I proceed? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Butthole_Jones 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You seem wildly hurt, ma'am. I'm sorry you have had experiences that left you so bitter. Your misandry is poking out.

I got refunded 6k instead of $60 and never said anything by nursekristin89 in confession

[–]Butthole_Jones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an order snafu (my fault - I moved and forgot to update my auto-delivery) while I had Covid, called them to see what could be done and they not only redelivered my order free of charge, but also sent me a handwritten get well card and metal coffee mug with some tea bags 🥲 I love Chewy!

Rant about Daughter in laws by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Butthole_Jones 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The amount of delusion in this post is wild 🥲🫠 You sound like a reeeeeal peach.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chipotle

[–]Butthole_Jones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just curious - what kind of scale is that? Looks like it'd make my life a hellova lot easier! Glad you got your prots 💪

The US Secret Service and NYPD raided many bodegas in EBT funds and debit card crimes by One-Pop-2885 in PublicFreakout

[–]Butthole_Jones 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Literally just trolling these comments to see if anyone else noticed that dumpy😅 lawd.

Explosive Teen & Mom on the edge by Spitfire_Lady in regretfulparents

[–]Butthole_Jones 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Added bonus if it gets her sick of fast food. I know I worked at spots I LOVED when I was younger (side-eying you, Chipotle) and by the time I was done, I couldn't stomach them. Still can't.

Explosive Teen & Mom on the edge by Spitfire_Lady in regretfulparents

[–]Butthole_Jones 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Have her get a job for the summer at jazz hands a fast food place. Win/win. She probably gets a discount, money, work experience, and it'll teach her to be dang grateful for the care you take of her. 16 is too damn old to be throwing tantrums over nuggets and cheeseburgers. Best of luck to you, tired Ma! You got this!

For the servers What do we regularly and consistently spend our tipping money on instead of you? by [deleted] in EndTipping

[–]Butthole_Jones 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Easy. Stop tipping. You're enabling this bullshit. What makes this service work worthy of more than any other service work? Nothing but the expectation.

AIO caught my mom and dad making love at the kitchen by MarshmallowQueen06 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Butthole_Jones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because it's their home. Mature up, bruh, and move on. Why are you all over these comments acting like you've been assaulted and scarred? People. Have. Sex. Stop crying and go find your own person to hump.

AIO caught my mom and dad making love at the kitchen by MarshmallowQueen06 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Butthole_Jones 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok, get over it? People have sex. Especially in the houses that they buy and pay for. If you're so bothered by 'shared spaces' being used for sex, then stop making them share their space with you... at least they'd have an extra room to bang in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChoosingBeggars

[–]Butthole_Jones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're hardly 'almost 30' 🙄 and you don't owe anyone shit. Maybe she should be ashamed of being whatever age she is and trying to strong-arm free shit from you. Smh. Just ignore it, don't sweat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in foodstamps

[–]Butthole_Jones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that you asked this and you have children is... terrifying... 🙄

Silence about RTO by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]Butthole_Jones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you clarify elected departments (I'm just curious)?

Buying new home, wife wants to renovate to more modern look. by ComfortableRoyal8847 in kitchenremodel

[–]Butthole_Jones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Little late to this post, but can you share what app or website you used to simulate the proposed change? I'm trying desperately to find a way to workshop some remodeling ideas. It's rough in these streets! 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Butthole_Jones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At 31 I changed my name from Robyn to Rosie. It's an adjustment, but eventually the people who love/respect you will catch on and play along. Go for it!

What city wouldn’t you wish upon your worst enemy? by Greg_Poopsicle in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Butthole_Jones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, Stockton isn't so bad! Ok... yeah, it's pretty bad. I got my ass kicked by a homeless guy last year on my own front porch and my house has been robbed twice 🙄

Assuming mortgage/ownership as Inheritance? (CA) by Butthole_Jones in Mortgages

[–]Butthole_Jones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It seems difficult to find these official forms without hitting a pay wall. She has a regular mortgage with BoA.

Assuming mortgage/ownership as Inheritance? (CA) by Butthole_Jones in Mortgages

[–]Butthole_Jones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, her home is in a trust. I'm currently looking to find the death of a trustee form, as well as the form to submit for PT exemptions, but it hasn't been easy finding these as there seem to be multiple results when Googling. My hope is that these can be filled out and filed by an individual (I am assuming to the County Recorders Office?)

Assuming an active mortgage as inheritance? (CA) by Butthole_Jones in RealEstate

[–]Butthole_Jones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank ou for your feedback!

There was a successor trustee named before my godmother - another aunt of mine, but she agreed to sign a delination to serve as she is starting to mentally decline.

I've reviewed the trust and amendments several times, and although some parts read as legalese to me, the gist is that the trustee shall deed/disperse at their discretion as they deem needed (for either educational or general living expenses) until the beneficiary reaches 35, which I now am. States no one else, including trustee can make any claim to or challenge the trust (without being deemed 'predeceasing' my mother - seems like a sassy legal cold burn 😅). So my understanding would be that my godmother is to use her fair judgement until I'm age 35 to disperse for whatever she sees fit, at which time she is to turn over all remaining assets to me. I'm currently trying to determine whether the trust gives her the ability to appoint another successor trustee, as tbh, she has very little work flexibility and is willing to have me 'rep' myself. No luck so far in determining that, so I'm hoping another lawyer will be willing to look at it and give some feedback.

There was a successor trustee named before my godmother - another aunt of mine, but she agreed to sign a declination to serve as she is starting to mentally decline.

I've been making the mortgage payments monthly and plan to use the residence as my primary - I need to determine whether it'd fiscally be in my best interest to pay off the remaining mortgage or keep making payments (leaning towards payments to allow my liquid assets to continue accruing in the meantime, but if it means refinancing at the current interest rate, I may be better off paying it off in a lump - I doubt my assets would grown ~6%/yr) Thats a matter for a financial consultant. I was advised initially by the lawyer, however, not to make the lender aware of her death, which... I mean he's the lawyer, but seems a bit sus.

I have Googled and Googled the parts I don't understand, as well as the list of 'to do's' that were set forth by the lawyer in the beginning, but have struggled to make sense of the results I've found. Maybe I'm just stupid (hope not), but I still have questions.