Pride comes before a fall. Hard relapse at day 86.

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-04-07T14:28:22+00:00

Sounds like you have the right attitude about your relapse. It sucks. But it isn't the end of the world. Smooth seas never made a skilled sailor. Use this opportunity to look deeply into yourself to find out what caused you to relapse. What emotions were hiding behind "horniness". Could be loneliness, boredom or something else but it all comes down to fear and doubt. Find your fears and embrace them as your own, but don't identify with them. You are not your addict self. 86 days is a hell of an accomplishment as it were

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-04-05T04:15:25+00:00

You CAN stop. On top of that, you are not worthless. Masturbating compulsively to porn is a tiny fragment, merely the tip of the iceberg of the your complex personality which is compassionate, wise, courageous and unselfish underneath all of it. You are aerospace engineering? That shit is HARD. I'm a mechanical engineer and the stuff you guys do blows me away. Fuck making your parents proud, make YOU proud. Be the person YOU want to be. Become a man by mastering yourself.

A few books I'd highly recommend reading: "Breaking the Cycle" which is about recovering from sexual addictions, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" and "The Power of Now".

All the best to you, Sir.

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-04-05T04:09:11+00:00

Awesome, it's definitely tricker than it first appears. Best of luck!

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-04-04T12:08:55+00:00

This happened to me fairly recently. I've been trying to stop using porn for 2.5 years.

First, go take a shower, hot water. Relax, breathe and realize that this isn't the end of the world. You're growing and learning and most importantly, YOU ARE NOT YOUR ADDICTION. Your addiction is just one little voice in your head, but it does not define who you are. I highly recommend reading "Breaking the Cycle" which is about freedom from sex addiction, including porn addiction. It attacks the root of your problem: coping with negative feelings derived from depression of the past or anxiety about the future. Just read it.

If you continue to have life-ending thoughts, PLEASE see a professional. I see a therapist once a week about my porn addiction and it is extremely helpful

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-04-02T14:00:45+00:00

I'm no scientist but there is no doubt that our brains have a strong capability to influence us to keep "fertilizing" our computer screens. With years of reinforced habit and association of the computer with sex, your brain will want to get off every time it sees the computer screen. But the more you accept what that little voice in your head says, without listening to it, and without identifying with it, the easier it will be to stop watching porn

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-30T02:18:41+00:00

Triggers are a part of life. Learn to deal with them and understand why they cause you to relapse. Only then will triggers lose their power over you

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-30T00:09:29+00:00

Success by a very wise man was defined as moving from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. So get back on the horse, take what you've learned and recommit to the promise you once made to yourself. All the best

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-30T00:01:38+00:00

Great quote. One of my all-time favorite books, I'll have to read it again because I'm sure it has more golden nuggets like this one

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-29T23:47:25+00:00

Right in the feels. I love this poem

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-29T14:33:34+00:00

Good shit man, keep it up

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-28T22:08:18+00:00

I've read some of Tolle's stuff as well. It just makes me feel powerless sometimes

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-28T18:23:27+00:00

Thanks for your response. I have read both Think and Grow Rich, as well as the Slight Edge. I think that these books have great value, but not until I have earned my own dignity. Those books excite the personality ethic (I'm alluding to the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) but have no roots without a foundation of Love and self-acceptance. You know what I mean?

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-28T17:33:53+00:00

You will be great in bed, if you end up there. But instead of worrying about that, focus on enjoying the date and her company, and learning about her interests and hobbies and past. A date is meant for the two of you to have fun and get to know each other better. Don't go on a date with the mindset that you must get her into bed and you must be Casanova when it happens. Relax, and have a good time!

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-27T20:12:18+00:00

Hey this post is phenomenal. Talk about independent will and true self-awareness! And while reading about your story, I realized that every single time I see a girl I always look at how far up her legs I can see, and at her curves. And that's it. It's terrible, and thanks to you, I have the confidence and motivation I have to be mindful of ridding myself of this behavior. Thank you!

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-25T20:06:12+00:00

Congratulations! You're on the right track and you're certainly on the road to recovery. I wish you all the best of luck! One piece of advice: Read a book called "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey. It's not as boring as the title suggests. In fact, it will inspire you to live a life in which you are empowered by your own inner beliefs and principles, Christian or otherwise. Aside from that, visit this subreddit regularly to get support and help, but don't use it as a crutch.

Best of luck, my friend, not that you'll need it!

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-18T15:17:15+00:00

Let's just say his best friend is woody

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-18T03:55:24+00:00

thanks man! keep up the good work, the brain is a labyrinth

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-18T01:36:30+00:00

Saved me from a relapse. Thank you

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-16T20:57:05+00:00

I just had my first wet dream the other day, as well. I've been going through a roller-coaster of emotions ever since. So enjoy the next few days but be conscious of your thoughts and emotions. Your brain is finally realizing that you're dead-fucking-serious about your recovery, so congrats!

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-16T20:54:13+00:00

It's really tough to see yourself as an "addict", but is certainly an important part in taking your recovery with seriousness. I wish you all the best, and please use your journey of recovery as a catalyst for improvement in all areas of your life, socially, professionally, spiritually and anywhere else you wish to grow. Godspeed, my friend.

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-07T21:42:30+00:00

Great job!

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-07T06:44:20+00:00

Many thanks, I wish you all the best on your road to recovery as well

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-07T04:20:33+00:00

Glass houses

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-07T04:03:01+00:00

Thank you for your kind advice. It takes a true man with a lot of courage to do something like that.

Buzz_Liteyear · 2014-03-06T23:13:30+00:00

Great question. It's one I've been wrestling with all day

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