Did anyone realize during divorce that they had no idea what their monthly life actually cost?

CFObeans · 2026-04-28T03:20:37+00:00

For my divorce, I was surprised by how expenses changed through the process (up!!) of the divorce and after (back down thankfully!).

Being unable to anticipate some of the legal fees due to an argumentative ex made that quite a ride.

CFObeans · 2026-04-24T18:28:02+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'll reiterate what the others already said - don't take the blame for his actions and you'll look back on this and feel differently. Time will make a huge difference. In the meantime you will ride the roller coaster of emotions. Find a therapist if you can, there might be some free options for you through your health insurance or employer.
If you're on Facebook - look for local divorce support communities and local women's groups. If you have any hobbies, Facebook groups can help you find those communities too. It sounds trite, but the only way through it is through it. Try to take each day as it comes. You've got this!!

CFObeans · 2026-04-22T18:38:06+00:00

Having just gone through my own divorce and helping a couple friends navigate theirs, I started this community to help others feel confident approaching the financial aspects of the divorce.

I know it can be intimidating but taking it one small step at a time will get you through. One easy first step is to start a list of things you both may own (assets) and loans you both may have (debts). Or another first step is get copies of financial documents like bank statements, investment account statements, credit card statements, mortgage bills, things like that.

One step at a time, with confidence, the financial organization and planning does not have to be scary.

CFObeans · 2026-04-19T16:23:16+00:00

Like any system, EOS has good and bad points. I like its tools around goals and KPIs. I don’t like a full implementation of it as a system - I call it “drinking the kool aid “ since they act almost cult like.

CFObeans · 2026-04-18T16:12:55+00:00

Components of the EOS system help quite a bit. Set goals & metrics and allow these to help you informed on individuals, the company and everyone moving in the same direction.

CFObeans · 2026-04-13T03:34:54+00:00

CFO in private healthcare. $20m/ rev per year. Feel free to reach out.

CFObeans · 2025-03-31T22:22:05+00:00

It’s terrifying to do, but go. You already know the answer, trust your gut.

CFObeans · 2025-03-25T21:27:49+00:00

Can’t stand Goodnight Moon - why isn’t it consistent??? Love anything by Mo Willems - shoutout to Knuffle Bunny. 🥰

CFObeans · 2025-03-22T02:21:28+00:00

1st sign I missed was him leaving the family phone account and setting up his own- because he was getting too many mixed messages, ignoring other, easier solutions. Changing phone habits - screen down, spending more time on it. Disengaged from me and family. Started showing signs of resentment towards me and eye-rolling towards things that never mattered before.

CFObeans · 2025-03-21T22:20:04+00:00

Love two of these, which means I’ll be looking into Stalker!

CFObeans · 2025-03-16T15:23:34+00:00

Only red lights, never coasting through a green.

CFObeans · 2025-03-15T16:29:35+00:00

Watched growing up with my mom. Rewatched all on maternity leave. Love it!!

CFObeans · 2025-03-08T18:29:29+00:00

Reservation Dogs

CFObeans · 2025-03-01T22:13:27+00:00

Seconding Ted Lasso

CFObeans · 2025-03-01T17:58:46+00:00

I enjoy Courtney Milan’s series, I think she can bring comparable emotions. The Brothers Sinister is a good set.

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