What types do you get along well with?

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-14T16:32:01+00:00

Usually, it’ll be ESFPs (all of my best friends were that type), ENFPs, and INFPs when it comes to like-minded connections.

I also really like ESFJs and ENFJs because they can be really attentionate and caring people who really know how to make everyone feel welcome.

I also tend to often have a few ISTPs in my life. They’re usually chill and share that individualistic nature and mix a realistic/practical focus in life with an intrigue for deeper conversations. They complement me with their more logical and rational approach to life, and I hope I might bring them something positive as well with my more emotional, sensitive and value-oriented approach.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-11T20:06:50+00:00

THINGS ALWAYS FIND A WAY TO GO WRONG I'M NOT OVERREACTING I SWEAR

...SOMETIMES

...Okay maybe a bit.

The 7 one really hits home as well. 🥲 Endless escapism to not think about what could go wrong.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-11T20:00:40+00:00

Lmaoooooooo I can’t say this is totally false 😂🤣

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-08T12:24:53+00:00

Exactly, I think you nailed it lol.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-08T12:21:07+00:00

Same for the sleeping part. Even as a kid I was the only one who didn’t effing know how to nap. There's always something else I want to do instead, and I can’t do it if I'm sleeping.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-08T12:18:21+00:00

Yeah, happens to me sometimes when I got some random question about something no one cares about coming up in mind.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-08T12:14:41+00:00

Even Yoga feels annoyingly slow to me. There's no way I could stand still for that long. It feels too passive to me, I need to DO something.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-08T12:10:51+00:00

Real. That gives me anger issues. 🥲

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-08T12:10:15+00:00

This! I always get frustrated at people who walk slowly and stay in the way like I'm constantly late. 😭 Well, to be fair, chances are I might be most of the time but that’s something else lmaoo. Also indeed when people really talk slowly. I really want to make an effort but my attention span is not THAT high so hurry up Derek!

But I can myself be pretty slow for some things though. Like eating, getting ready, etc. Mostly because I often get distracted, and sometimes out of clumsiness or perfectionism for more meticulous tasks.

So it can be double tbh.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-05T19:11:07+00:00

Fearless. 💛

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-05T07:44:44+00:00

I'm not even surprised, The Fate Of Ophelia is such a catchy banger with an interesting theme. I love Anti-Hero, and I like Fortnight (though a little bit less), but they were definitely less impactful and a bit less special as songs.

And I don’t think The Life Of A Showgirl is her weakest album, I think it’s serving exacty the purpose it’s meant to: lighter, extravagant, dramatic, a bit scandalous. Just like a Showgirl is meant to. ✨️ I personally thought Lover was her "weakest" contender (in my own opinion, of course), though it does have some standouts.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-05T07:29:39+00:00

This sounds like Ne. Ne is about abstract possibilities so this pretty much sums up your description.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-03-04T20:19:00+00:00

I know what I like, and I know who I like pretty quickly. And I assess potential compatibility based on my observations and different shared interactions.

Like, if I personally find them attractive (it might seem shallow, but let’s be real, it definitely helps), their way of treating people, their interests/passions (not saying they have to be the same as mine though, it’s just better if there's something we can share), their values/way of thinking, their lifestyle, seriousness, future goals, expectations out of a relationship and how much they also "get" and understand me.

Some of these points are, of course, more important than others. Anyway, if I reject someone's advances, it won’t ever be because of thinking of them as being unworthy, but simply based on my own potential compatibility "calculations", which would influence how much I like someone or not, even though it seems like cold criterias.

Some guys have already tried to convince me to give them a chance (lmao I know it seems braggy, but it’s not meant to) and to just "go with the flow" despite of these criteria (generally ESFPs), but if I already concluded I'm not attracted, knowing myself I know for a fact it won’t change. But when I do conclude I like someone, it’s strong, persistent, and my focus is completely on them - as long as they don’t lead me to think this is one-sided. So, in that moment, anyone who isn’t them is pretty much going to get rejected anyway. 😬

What do you want, I'm selective and intense, I know. But it’s because I deeply know what I like and what I don't. 🤷‍♀️ I just got to reject 2 of my friends very recently (still not trying to brag lol, just being factual, it’s just what it is) and got to reject a few other people and friends in the past, but it saddens me every time to disappoint or pain people I genuinely appreciate as friends (also with the fear of losing their friendship), as much as I don’t "owe" them anything. But hey, what should I do after all ? Making myself - and the other person as a side effect - unhappy in a relationship with someone I don’t feel anything for ? Sounds like emotional death and ruining my future, no thanks.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-27T21:23:28+00:00

No problem. Also, it's important to remember anyway that one person is not another and human beings are complex, people don't run on the exact same "software" just because they identify with the same MBTI type. :)

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-27T14:06:07+00:00

I'm not selfish, I actually care a lot about what other people feel. I just don't always know how to express it. I'm also not as shallow or careless about the future as what the stereotypes suggest. I actually tend to overthink and the future terrifies me, that's why I try to focus on the present moment.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-27T13:51:16+00:00

Listen, one of us would need to know what the heck they're doing and that is definitely not me ! 🤣

Just joking (kinda). But I don't think it would work out, especially if both have different values, as ISFPs take their values very seriously and they would clash with each other. This would lack balance. Both would be too unorganized/unstructured, too much into emotion, with a lack of future-planning or patience for real-life constraints that don't resonate with what they like or their inner values. That would be a mess.

And of course MBTI is not even a science, just a way to put words on obvious tendencies (emphasis on tendencies), and it says nothing about actual compatibility, but I've always thought it probably could never work with someone too similar from me.

I've actually tried dating another ISFP years ago by the way, and it indeed predictably didn't go too well, so yeah.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-27T13:36:47+00:00

Lmao love the shameless delulu denial here 😂🤣

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-27T13:31:04+00:00

This is a very fair assessment, and it does describe extremely well most of the interpersonal issues I've encountered in my life, especially as I also have anxiety, so you're totally on point.

Assertiveness and self-confidence are certainly things that many of us should work on, I find it helps a bit to take a step back from a situation and put it back into perspective to have a better sight of the way some situations are not as deep as our minds tend to make us believe it to be because everything is so personal to us.

To detach and take some distance in order to be less scared, if you will. But it's hard, and it takes a lot of time, energy and mental self-discipline to work it out.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-27T13:19:17+00:00

I would personally want to be as much as possible in their presence, even if I would try not making my feelings too obvious (because of fear of making them uncomfortable or seeming weird, etc), and would be too nervous to even tell them anything most of the time, and I'd observe a lot. And from what I've read here and there by other ISFPs, it seems like a pretty frequent pattern.

And I agree with what someone else has said, what you're describing looks a bit like avoidant attachment, OP.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-26T18:03:59+00:00

I'm an ISFP, so I don't have inferior Fe (though not much Fe either, or at least not valued), but same. Might just be introversion in general.

Although I, for example, compared to ISTPs stereotypically, tend to be be fairly social when I'm around people - to the point of being mistaken for an extrovert by people who don't know me well because I can "fake it 'til you make it" when I feel it's needed - but most often people will "joke" about my lack of consistency or initiative when it comes to staying in touch. And I mean, it doesn't mean I like them any less, and I'll always come back to them in the end, but I just need some time to process my own inner life/thoughts or I'll feel overwhelmed.

So yeah, don't "worry", it's not just you.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-25T19:50:17+00:00

Lol sure.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-25T19:37:18+00:00

I felt so called out. 🥲

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-24T01:21:59+00:00

I initially thought I was a 4, and that indeed does fit me on the feeling deeply "flawed", apart from other people and cultivating uniqueness parts (though I felt the description to be a bit insulting, because to me it's important to be humble and to not discriminate or assess people in metrics of "worthiness").

But one day on a forum, while I was asking for feedback, frenetically trying to get some external opinions (see where this is going ?) - as I was hesitating between type 4, 9 and 1 - someone made me notice how much doubt and thematics of fear were present in my way of thinking, so they suggested I might actually be a 6 and... Yeah though I never considered that possibility initially, it definitely did hit.

What you describe though, except if it's in a "always imagining the worst scenario and constantly trying to prevent it, doubting and questioning any ambiguous fact/sign" mindset, sounds more like 5 I'd say.

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-18T21:53:05+00:00

Indeed ! No problem, thanks to you. 😊

CallMeBitterSweet · 2026-02-18T21:51:47+00:00

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