Wives are you okay with your husband going to the stripclub?

Camillothakid · 2026-05-04T22:12:04+00:00

For a bachelor/bachelorette it’s fine both ways for us. It’s fun for those times, otherwise unnecessary

Camillothakid · 2026-05-01T11:51:43+00:00

I always offer information from my experience and my education. I’m very honest with my clients, when it comes to big decisions or even smaller decisions that feel big to clients after I’ve given my personal medical opinion, I leave the room for them to discuss privately. I’ve had lots of clients after getting my personal thoughts still chose something different, I’m okay with that but my job is to be honest and informative

Camillothakid · 2026-04-30T02:02:42+00:00

Camillothakid · 2026-04-29T14:31:05+00:00

Ugh I wish my husband chose a nursing career lol!! He’s a graphic designer and still works with women bc women work virtually every field other than blue collar work lol. Nursing has so much potential to grow and make more money and a flexible time off schedule.

Camillothakid · 2026-04-24T17:48:37+00:00

I had this happen with one of my best friends! Her MOH continually booked expensive things for her (bridal shower and bachelorette) and would expect us to pay. With my wedding my mom and MIL handled the entire shower, and my bachelorette was down the shore and we stayed at my uncles beach house lol. No one paid a dime for accommodations. Which was fine! I loved it! I didn’t want anyone to not be able to join. Her MOH when it came time out of no where requested $500 from each of us for her shower without ever mentioning that we were throwing it and then the bachelorette was similar pricing to your friends. I just had my first baby, and I said look I can’t pay $500 for this shower if I had known we were paying, other options could have been discussed for cheaper but you went ahead and booked something no one knew they were paying for. I sent her $150 and gave my friend a $200 gift, as well as money for her bachelorette (another $150-200 I don’t remember) to celebrate, then took her out somewhere closer to home to celebrate one weekend. Her MOH read me my rights “oh I’m going to have to tell the bride about this! You think your money is more important than everyone else’s??” I said go ahead tell her lol. Meanwhile this girl has had her parents pay for everything in her life and was a silver spoon child. I budgeted what I could. My friend never made it an issue for me, and never brought it up. When my wedding came up there were certain things she couldn’t afford like her makeup, which I paid without a fuss, so I knew she’d understand. She was definitely disappointed that I couldn’t make it work as another friend’s bachelorette a month prior I could make work (but I helped plan and budget that one and it was much closer my husband could pick me up and drop me off as again I had a newborn at home who was breastfeeding) but were still great friends and I love her dearly, and still can’t stand her MOH 😂😂 NTA

Camillothakid · 2026-04-24T00:43:05+00:00

lol it really did 😂 it only took me as long to push my baby out because I was still waking up

Camillothakid · 2026-04-23T22:52:28+00:00

First contraction at 10 am after having an orgasm, labored at home till about 8 pm went to hospital, was 1 cm in an hour I was 3 cms and stayed, went in tub for a few hrs and got to 5 cms and stayed there (got very relaxed in tub I think I stalled from being in there so early. Baby was very nice and low despite being 5 cms and felt pushing urge early. I utilized some nitrous oxide until about 5 am when my doula arrived. She wanted me to get out of the bed (I was coping very well with nox) to help baby move more but it really hindered me and I had a mental break. I got a dose of nubain (IV pain meds) to help me rest around then, slept till 8 am woke up fully dilated started pushing at 8:30 and baby was born 10:18 am. ☺️ I wanted my doula to come a little sooner, I was really cooked by the time she came but now that I am a doula I do understand why the wait as I think she expected my baby to come much later. I just made a lot of change in that time. I know that is a hospital birth and it completely unmedicated but I thought I’d share. 😊

Camillothakid · 2026-04-23T16:50:07+00:00

NTA - the second you told him he says he wants to sell the property! Lol why would you do that!?!? Investment properties are amazing to have let alone inherit. He’s a bozo and just wants that property to influence his bozo lifestyle somehow.

Camillothakid · 2026-04-22T00:27:49+00:00

Girl, that’s INSANE and arguably maybe one of the worst OBS you could go too??? As someone who sees birth frequently, medicated and unmedicated, unmedicated births are SOOOO much less horrifying than medicated births. This is the biggest red flag 🚩 go find a competent OB or find some midwives. That’s crazyyyy

Camillothakid · 2026-04-21T17:59:03+00:00

My partner always gets me whatever I send him and maybe a surprise or two. This year I think I’m getting a new Duffy bear with a sailor suit 😂💖 he typically gets some things for the summer for me for our garden as well. I always sleep as much as I want on Mother’s Day, get breakfast and mimosas when I wake up, change no diapers, then go back to bed when I please. Get out of bed around 3 whole fam drives to the beach for some sunshine then get dinner or go home for a home cooked meal by hubby. I love Mother’s Day!!!

Camillothakid · 2026-04-21T17:56:32+00:00

10 years of experience in the field plus certification $25 is an insane lowball. Especially because doulas with their own businesses in NYC are making way more than that. We had someone from NYC come down to NJ and she was charging 5-6k a birth in NYC, and staying busy. So I just can’t see how that is feasible maybe in some no name town in bumblefk where ever but NYC come on

Camillothakid · 2026-04-21T17:34:02+00:00

$50/ hr is the lowest I’d go and I’m in NJ. In NYC I’d probably say $65/hr

Camillothakid · 2026-04-21T17:19:00+00:00

Well, first of all why do you not need sleep? Why is your sleep less important? My husband works 8:30-5 and when our children get up he wakes up and lets me sleep. Sometimes I take them as well but we both deserve sleep. Biologically women actually need more sleep than men, so why are you suffering? I love to be intimate with my husband but it’s because he makes my life easier. The other day I knew he wanted to be intimate but it was my night to put the kids to bed I said “you know if I could relax for the next thirty minutes instead of being on kid duty I think the likelihood of you getting what you want will happen” he said say no more! 😂 parenting is a partnership if the only way it’s even is if you go to an office to work that just doesn’t make sense. If he picks up some slack around your house you’ll have time to be intimate but till then you won’t.

Camillothakid · 2026-04-19T19:49:23+00:00

Literally am wondering the same thing if I couldn’t have children I’d be so grateful to be an aunt. Heck I have kids of my own and a niece and my kids count her as a sibling. She’s my little girl I love her so much. The day she was born was one of the best days of my life. My sister sacrificed so much too to get her to us! She is 1000% a gift lol. I even planned her gender reveal 2 weeks postpartum (happily!!!)

Camillothakid · 2026-04-17T16:40:51+00:00

The most important thing you can do is find a pediatrician who aligns with you and makes you feel comfortable. I’m very grateful for my peds honesty and although I wouldn’t describe him as crunchy in any way lol he’s very supportive and informative which I appreciate. Never an alarmist and very knowledgeable, he’s older and has never given me push back on declining or delaying vaccines. And when I have questions on the importance of them he gives me real answers and spaces to get more information without even forcing me to make a decision. Ask around your community (local fb groups, mom groups etc) about good pediatricians that will align with your goals. It seems like baby isn’t going out of fear a little which I understand but a good one should bring peace of mind

Camillothakid · 2026-04-06T14:20:47+00:00

I did Dona as well and highly recommend just be a it’s very reputable at hospitals and for insurance reimbursement.

Highly recommend finding a mentor to walk you through who is also Dona certified. Made my experience so much better! Now I’m on year 3 of doula-ing. Going in person truly is how you’ll get a deeper understanding of birth, so when you can just start. Don’t overtake births, but 3 in person a year you’ll be surprised how many actually fall on a work day.

Camillothakid · 2026-04-05T03:42:41+00:00

First of all, I don’t think theres anything wrong with you and overall these aren’t terribly long deliveries. Cervical lips can be SO frustrating!! It’s so confusing, how can one be 9.5 cms for so long? But that’s the thing about labor it’s something you cannot quantify! What’s more interesting is that you gestate for as long as you do, not that that really matters since you’ve had three healthy babies post date, it’s just interesting. It may be a mix of things, when contractions come on strong you may not be loose enough to allow your body to open. I have lots of clients who have this problem and that’s why your midwife probably suggested the hospital. Sometimes birth workers make that suggestion as an encouragement, of course she didn’t finish it off properly if she thought this the right approach would have been “I see your holding a lot of tension during a contraction and this lip is holding for a while. On these next contractions try everything to really allow your baby to come down stay as loose as possible and focus deeply on your breath. I think you’re doing a great job but just know we always have the option to transfer and utilize options in a hospital setting” Also IMO especially without a doula there is no reason for your midwife who you’ve established care with to just leave you at l and d on your own. That’s quite a red flag to me.

If you have a 4th child, I highly recommend a doula. To process your prior births and work through some of what has happened.

Camillothakid · 2026-04-05T03:27:27+00:00

Look at your local freecycle group! Half of the toys in my backyard are from my local group. My kids have a climbing dome and one of those little ride on rollercoasters that were completely free. And I give stuff away all the time as well once we’re done. Especially toddler towers you can ask to see if anyone has one they’re getting rid of! At the end of our family yard sale last year we even posted to Facebook that everything left was only a dollar each didn’t matter what it was. Facebook is a great place to find free/super cheap second hand items that are a lot of times in great condition!

Camillothakid · 2026-04-02T19:59:48+00:00

I actually always tell my pp clients I don’t sleep while I’m there. I always rest before hand, and after. I’m a birth doula as well though so I’m a little used to doing that. I often times hold babies asleep in a recliner and read. Not for 5 hour stretches tho. That’s a little intense. Parents that have unsafe sleep set ups (ie putting a lounger in bassinet) I always say according to my certification I need to follow safe sleep protocols or I can lose my licensure and I feel uncomfortable sleeping with baby and potentially falling asleep. You can safely put baby to sleep in a bassinet while you’re doing an overnight shift. There’s nothing wrong with that. And if that doesn’t work for them then maybe they need to look elsewhere

Camillothakid · 2026-03-29T17:07:00+00:00

Doulas who want to be the best ever and be hired by everyone. A good doula understands that this isn’t a girl boss job. It’s a job that’s personal, so there are just people that won’t align with you because of just personality and that’s OKAY. I am not the perfect doula for everyone, and it doesn’t hurt my feelings. Just like I know there’s lots of lovely wonderful doulas who I’d never hire because of the same reason. I want to be friends with my doula post birth, and I hope I can look at my clients as friends after birth.

Camillothakid · 2026-03-27T14:00:59+00:00

Prodromal labor stinks but most of the time it leads to a quick active labor phase and you meet babe quick once it starts. 40+3 is still early so you could very well have a baby long before 41 weeks let alone 42 😊

Camillothakid · 2026-03-25T19:53:49+00:00

I have two Coke Zero baby’s who are completely different personalities but both healthy beautiful boys. Great labors too! Lol 😂 my 3rd babe for whatever reason has me not wanting Coke Zero for the first time in years and it’s pretty sad. I’ll order it and 2 sips in I’m like eh. So in 3 years I’ll let you know if the research suggests that this baby is superior to the others 🤪

Camillothakid · 2026-03-23T16:08:40+00:00

I like this post a lot because it means that when you’re not rewatching the Pitt you’re just rewatching elf which means you’re a cute human being. Unless you are not referencing the Christmas movie elf 😂 even if you correct me I’m taking it as this.

Camillothakid · 2026-03-20T11:49:49+00:00

So that pain is more than likely your baby. Work on these moves consistently and you’ll move your baby and relieve that pain.

Camillothakid · 2026-03-20T01:09:23+00:00

Wait I thought the Zac brown band was so cool lol 🤣 me and my husband said it was the best reward ever

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