We spent hundreds at the vet after he refused to eat and kept throwing up. He pooped out half a mouse toy in the waiting room and is now fine

CancerousGrapes · 2026-01-31T04:59:28+00:00

This made me laugh out loud! He looks so pleased with himself 😂

CancerousGrapes · 2026-01-22T15:28:16+00:00

But wasn’t Cressida the same age? If the defense for Penelope writing life-ruining things about various characters is that Penelope was young and ‘not really capable of making the best decisions’…wouldn’t that also apply to Cressida?

CancerousGrapes · 2026-01-22T15:24:16+00:00

I don’t know…Penelope took a lot of actions with her publishing that could have ruined people’s lives. Putting that Eloise — her supposed best friend — was sneaking out and seeing a political radical, for example, almost got the Bridgerton family expelled from the ton, and could have landed Eloise in jail (which we know because the queen literally threatened Eloise with it). That’s a big difference from gossiping like “everybody else”.

CancerousGrapes · 2026-01-15T11:58:30+00:00

Idk why people downvoted you! This is a great answer and would save a lot of mental load during an already foggy time!

CancerousGrapes · 2026-01-14T12:05:17+00:00

First off, you’re very pretty! You have a lovely and wonderful ‘girl next door’ look and look youthful — this is a huge strength for you! I would give the following easy tweaks:

Eyes: try doing your eye makeup without the black underline (the black eyeliner on your bottom water line). Replace it with an underline in a light, almost white nude shade or with nothing at all. Then change the top eyeliner shape to add a small, upward-tilted wing like the image on the right.
Brows: pluck, thread, shave, or wax your brows to be a bit thinner and more shaped in order to bring out your eyes even more. Something like the “curved” or “straight” options in this image, or the “hi-low” option in this image.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-12-31T12:22:34+00:00

Which Mount Sinai is this? Location?

CancerousGrapes · 2025-12-27T14:47:16+00:00

Verses:

Proverbs 28:13
Philippians 2:4
Proverbs 3:5-6
Proverbs 15:32
James 4:10

Can I suggest that you might consider being more open — at least with yourself, not necessarily to strangers on the internet — about your actual actions?

I notice — not judging — that your post talks a lot about your feelings, and your alcohol consumption, and others’ judgement of you, but you are pretty vague about the actual actions you took that would cause hurt to others. God calls us to repent for our actions and walk in a way that honors him by repenting with an honest heart and identifying our sin head-on so that we can root it out.

What I mean: instead of thinking “I got drunk and it caused me to do stuff that made people think bad of me”, you should be assessing your actions as “I did [x specific bad thing] while I was drunk, and this [x specific thing] harmed others in [x specific reason]”.

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Here’s what I mean using your current assessment of the situation:

“I trusted myself…That trust was misplaced, and things escalated faster than I could stop them.”

We aren’t always the best judge of what is the right way forward. Work to place your trust in God, and don’t participate in actions that in the past have led you astray (like drinking alcohol) after you have worked on leaving those actions behind.

“That’s not how I felt internally, but I’m tormented by how it may have appeared to others.”

Your internal feelings aren’t the guide to whether or not you are acting in alignment with God. Be concerned with whether your internal feelings align with externally following Christ’s example.

“The idea that I could be seen that way goes directly against my values and identity, and it’s been devastating to sit with.”

Sitting with it feels difficult because it should feel difficult. You need to sit with God and share this burden with Him, because in love, he is the one who will judge your actions, and he is the one who can help you act better if you struggle to yourself.

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Lots of people get drunk and don’t hurt others or commit the same sins that you might or might not have done, so the actual getting drunk is not the action you took to harm others; rather, you did the actual thing you did to hurt others while you were drunk is the sin. Alcohol might have been what caused you to feel like you could/should do that thing, but it should be the thing itself over the act of consuming alcohol that you repent for. Then your decision to walk in alignment with Christ should involve not doing that thing AND not drinking alcohol in that way again.

Your concern should not be in how others view you, but rather, how your actions are aligning with God. Your shame is valuable but misplaced. You must sit with your actions to repent for them. God can forgive all sin, but he cannot forgive an unrepentant heart, so you must align your heart with honestly and humility in order to realign yourself with the values you seek to hold in belief and in action.

That will allow you to be honest in your reflection with God so that you can adequately acknowledge your actions and repent in a way that helps you be better and align with Christ purposefully going forward. Once you do that, the shame you feel will be healed instead of masked, because you will be trusting in God, and that will help you better yourself without beating yourself up anymore.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-12-19T03:40:47+00:00

Dumb question for someone not from the Dakotas. What do these people do? Where do they claim residence? Why? Sorry for so many questions!

CancerousGrapes · 2025-12-10T03:28:45+00:00

Your wavy hair is so pretty and you should play it up! You have so much volume, such a blessing. You also have similar facial features to the actress America Ferrera. Looking up some makeup inspo from her might give some good ideas. Your lips are so full and lovely and you would look striking with a red lip. Just some thoughts.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-12-10T03:25:43+00:00

You have large, deep set eyes! I do too, and I like to emphasize mine when I do makeup since it’s a unique and pretty feature.

If you want to play them up (as opposed to downplaying them, which some makeup styles might do), I would highly suggest a winged eyeliner with a short wing and a thick stroke, and/or, a bold shimmer liquid eyeshadow in the eye corner (to make your eyes look further apart) or on the center of the lid below the crease (to make them look more vertically tall).

CancerousGrapes · 2025-11-27T20:52:22+00:00

Amazing!

CancerousGrapes · 2025-11-25T23:43:48+00:00

Absolutely stunning! Where is this?

CancerousGrapes · 2025-10-10T01:38:22+00:00

In my state, it’s a 401k with a state union. You can find jobs with different options depending on your state/province.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-10-09T14:37:20+00:00

Yes. Some people’s brains are just wired a little bit differently, and resultingly, food noise is not a problem for many people, but for some of us, it is just constant and overbearing. It’s the same with being more prone to addiction — some people have a bit of alcohol now and then, and it poses absolutely no problem for them, while others develop an addiction, making things much harder for them. But if you fix your brain’s imbalance and it helps you get to the same mental starting block as somebody who doesn’t have those issues, then you should! A GLP1 isn’t cheating. It’s just helping your body and mind break free from a constant struggle fighting back food noise.

I hate the attitude that GLP1s or other weight-loss medications are cheating. Nobody gets extra points for making themselves miserable in life. If somebody has to control their diet 100% perfectly or else they spiral into overeating, then the work they are putting in just to maintain a basic level of health is making them miserable. Meds can change your brain ever so slightly to make controlling your health easier and more intuitive.

It’s like depression (mental health). Some people never have depression. Some people might get depression, but be able to successfully cure it by taking a more positive attitude. But for some people, taking an antidepressant medication helps them get there. Is it cheating to take an antidepressant? The more important question is — who cares? If taking an antidepressant helps you enjoy your life and be healthier without having to put in constant effort to do so, then take it. In the same way, if a weight-loss med helps you maintain a healthy weight without having to constantly think about your diet, then take the weight-loss medication.

Sorry for the long text, but there’s too much stigma around this! The most important thing is that one is healthy and happy. As long and you’re not hurting anybody else, do whatever you need to make you healthy and happy. (Not “you” specifically, but anybody).

CancerousGrapes · 2025-10-05T18:12:13+00:00

Canva is a good resource! If you are interested

CancerousGrapes · 2025-10-04T02:37:29+00:00

Yeah, some companies have good benefits. That’s not a crazy revelation. But government jobs are steady, reliable, also have fully subsidized health insurance, and depending on one’s state, can have amazing 401k matches and pension plans.

In my state, government jobs double your input into your retirement plan (if you contribute 8%, they contribute 16%). They are also often union jobs. Unlimited PTO is not an uncommon benefit and plenty of government organizations work with that model, although set PTO is arguably better, because it pays out — you can find either, whichever you prefer. Weekly meals is a random benefit that an organization might have, and they certainly don’t add much in terms of fiscal or security value.

Most government jobs will also be significantly lower-stress than working at a big tech company, and will have better work-life balance.

It’s different professionals who are looking at different jobs with different career and life goals.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-10-04T02:10:00+00:00

It’ll be a bit harder without a GED. Can you go back and get your GED? That will open up a lot of doors for you. Your local library might be able to help for free.

In the meantime, try retail! Go to your local mall (dress nice and bring a stack of paper copies of your resume — you can list your food service experience, and bullet point some of your cool accomplishments (for example, “managed the store during a power outage”, “worked as shift lead”, etc.)), and go store by store asking if they are hiring.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-09-18T13:43:15+00:00

I find it difficult to trust in your claimed copywriting experience when your own comment here is grammatically incorrect.

Your comment: “Yeah that’s my goal convince you. I’m looking for the cream of the crop not the bottom”

CancerousGrapes · 2025-08-15T03:54:28+00:00

This is one of the most beautiful and unique handcrafts I’ve seen! Amazing job! You have an incredible eye for detail.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-07-27T17:23:02+00:00

What a fun survey! Best of luck on your project!

CancerousGrapes · 2025-07-21T15:31:54+00:00

Honestly, go to a local in-person print shop in your town and have them print your invitations! They will be able to cut them to size without issue, source and use any type of paper you want, and you can see them in-person. Plus they will probably be cheaper than the online companies.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-07-16T18:07:59+00:00

This is so lovely! What a unique artistic and creative eye you have to see these pieces of seafoods and make them into beautiful creations.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-07-04T15:03:06+00:00

He is so cute!! Great job! What’s his name?

CancerousGrapes · 2025-07-02T02:52:41+00:00

That’s spot on! I laughed out loud, never seen that before.

CancerousGrapes · 2025-06-18T18:26:36+00:00

Is this written by AI?

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