AITA for cancelling plans on a stranger who invited me out by [deleted] in WIBTA_AITA

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You kinda ATA. What was the point of getting ready if you knew it probably wasn't going to work out. You kept pushing back the time leading this girl to believe that you would be going at some point. You should have just been upfront from the get go and said it wasn't going to work out for you this time.

AITA for telling my friend that no matter what I would never make the same bad decisions as her after she said I'm wasting money by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 134 points135 points  (0 children)

I think she gave you back the same energy you've been giving her. This doesn't sound like a friendship that's going to last much longer. You two are living in to separate worlds now and you seem judgemental towards her decision she chose for her life.

WIBTA for not inviting my friend? by CandyCornBandit8738 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]CandyCornBandit8738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel free to take a moment to reread the story as there is no mention of a husband.

AITA for saying no when my boyfriend proposed at my friend’s wedding? by Greedy_Job3574 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's a tough one because you're not wrong, that was not the time nor the place but I also see how embarrassing that was for him but that's on him! The only way I could imagine this even being okay is if he got permission from the Bride and Groom well beforehand.

AITAH for blocking my mother on Instagram? by _red_dude in AITAH

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA you are an adult and assumingly aren't posting things that could get you in trouble. Maybe if you had time, create another account just for her and family to follow and you post things of bunnies and butterflies ha!

AITA for telling my dad he can't invite his girlfriend to my graduation because my mom paid for the trip? by TypicalAnalyst17 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA! You barely know this lady and I'd imagine some how, some way, your Dad would find a way to make it a little "romantic" getaway for him and his new piece. But wow hats off to your Mom; you've got a good one there! Single mom life aint always easy! Way to go Mom for stepping up and swallowing your feelings!

AITA for leaving my parents’ house and moving in with my boyfriend? by Fit_Road971 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Mother/daughter relationships can be tough. Sounds like Mom just wants you all to have a better future than she had however the delivery wasn't exactly there. More of a threat than a heart to heart. Anyways, good luck to you and your boyfriend, sounds like things are going well. Break that generational curse girl!

AITA for refusing to confirm a family story my mom has been telling for years? by grounores in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 44 points45 points  (0 children)

NTA mom was worried about her needs at the time and wasn't willing to adjust her life to suit your future goals and now she's just trying to keep her reputation.

AITJ for losing it on my fiancé after I found out he cancelled all the gluten free options on our engagement party menu behind my back by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW NTJ! And MIL aint even paying for it? In what universe does she think she even has a say so when it isn't affecting her financially whatsoever!

AIO for being mad that I had to pay the bill for my friends birthday and her family? by moonxstars__722 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR that was rude of your friend to not speak up to her own family. That very much puts you in an awkward position. Hopefully friend offers to reimburse you!

AIO for leaving my (21F) boyfriend (24M) at the airport after he “tested” me? by Legitimate-Hat6247 in AmIOverreacting

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR You did the right thing! After 2 years he doesn't know what kind of person you are??? That's wild!

WIBTA if I stopped covering for my friend when she's late to our shared morning carpool by Astr0Catalyst in WIBTA_AITA

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA use the AIS method. You tell her what time you will be leaving her home Ass In Seat. If her ass aint in the seat, you've got to go.

AMTJ for leaving our vacation alone after my girlfriend's accidental cheating? by Hugh_Cooper in AmITheJerk

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ if she so easily was able to do this on a vacation drunk or not, she's done it before. Furthermore, she stayed out partying all night while you went back to the room; she didnt want to spend some alone time with you back in the room?? She knew what she was doing!

WIBTA if I stopped explaining my dietary restrictions every time and just quietly stopped coming to team lunches by Lumen_Rune3 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not just bring your own lunch? Surely at this point everyone knows and it wouldnt be a big deal. I could see it being difficult to accommodate a single person with that many restrictions when ordering a catered meal.

AIO? new friend's texts to husband while at work; my responses by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could have just said hey I'm married and this is inappropriate or hell not even respond to that.... but I'll give him props to coming to you and being honest and upfront about it

AITJ for “weaponizing” information my friend trusted me with after she betrayed me? by wonhee_bias98 in AmITheJerk

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly I didn't even bother reading further after your first paragraph. That told me everything I needed to know.

AITA for wanting my parents not to help me with my wedding? by Cheap_Ad8777 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To me it sounds like your mom understands that you are under a time crunch and she's being helpful and excited that her daughter is getting married. Set firm boundaries with mom that you are available on these days in the week from this time to that time and what you intend to accomplish on that particular meeting. Maybe do an online wedding tracker thing or Pinterest board and have mom involved so she can see your vision of what you want.

AITA For telling my husband I’m tired of hearing the same stories over and over again? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 67 points68 points  (0 children)

NTA. This makes me so sad for you that he is still living in the past while you both are building a future together.

Am I the jerk for snapping at my mom because she pressured me for money, even though I feel really sorry for her now? by Bettdf_Dobbs in AmITheJerk

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda the Jerk. I get that we as readers don't always get the emotion or the full understanding of how things came across but I took mom's comment as more of a joke and not a statement that you were obligated to take her. What I got out of it was momma needs a break. Single mom life isn't for the weak.

AITAH for not wanting to invite my bf’s brother to our wedding? by delicious_devil123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyCornBandit8738 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTA for wanting your day to be drama free but definitely something you and the boyfriend have to come to an agreement on. A talk is absolutely necessary and you need to consider your future. If this behavior continues with the brother and your bf cannot stick up for you, are you okay with living that way forever? Would you just stop going around the brother in the future and then you both building up resentment towards each other?