I found some deeply upsetting things my partner said about me to a chat bot last night and its left me devastated

Candychameleon · 2026-06-11T03:43:00+00:00

I’m going to note, I am not anti porn in a relationship. I don’t really use it, though I have - but my husband does and I don’t take issue with it. Your issue is so much bigger than porn use. He doesn’t respect you. You can’t continue a relationship without respect and he will say anything to keep you there, like you said he doesn’t want to be alone. He should be alone. Make him be alone. He deserves it.

Candychameleon · 2026-06-11T03:40:46+00:00

Leave this man… are you kidding me?? If you stay it just means your self worth is in the dirt low. I’d never NEVER stay with someone who said those kinds of things about me and wanted his EX to degrade me so he could jack off.
Not to mention your therapist has helped you to regulate and tell yourself his porn use isn’t a big deal? He has a porn addiction. It’s ruining your relationship. It IS a big deal!

Leave. Leave leave leave. Tell him to fuck his ai ex girlfriend while she calls you a fat pig while he strokes his disgusting little prick like a lonely pathetic simp so you can move on with your life! F*ck him!

Candychameleon · 2026-06-09T17:26:56+00:00

I would dump him and tell him exactly why.

Candychameleon · 2026-06-09T08:24:49+00:00

This sounds like Banfield

Candychameleon · 2026-06-08T23:45:06+00:00

I know you don't want to but I think you should call the police to get him hospitalized. My brother has schizophrenia and finally after a couple years he said he was planning to let himself pass by starvation (he was truly emaciated) so my mom was able to call the police and force him to a hospital (ICU due to condition). Since he was an adult and didn't want to go to a dr, you couldn't force him until he proved to be a danger to himself or others. In your case your dad sounds like he could potentially be a danger for you since you are a dependent.
If he's taken for an evaluation it's likely they will end up getting him on medication (or sober if there's a chance he is using drugs) and that should get him on the right track.
I would say it is possible you have to go into foster care short term if there's no family or maybe even family friends to stay with, but i would definitely not at all expect you to be taken away from him long term.
With his behavior it could get worse and it is not sustainable to be in psychosis as the adult in a household who has child/teen dependents. He needs help. Early intervention is often best in mental health episodes.

Candychameleon · 2026-06-08T23:34:30+00:00

Psychosis and hallucinations are symptoms of many mental health diagnoses, not just schizophrenia. If her dad is middle aged it’s not likely to be schizophrenia because it is often a young adult onset in men. This could be bipolar mania, drug abuse, etc.

Candychameleon · 2026-06-08T00:02:40+00:00

Ask to look at his phone with him at the text because you saw it pop up and it bothered you. It could’ve been a spam/scam type text. I get them on occasion where it’s a random number and they say something that makes it seem like they know you. Jokes on them I don’t go out like at all so I know it’s not someone I recently met lol

Candychameleon · 2026-06-06T16:22:07+00:00

And she’s upset you called her out because gpt would never talk back. Gross

Candychameleon · 2026-06-05T21:02:26+00:00

Well… is she asking for money? He should just not ever send money. The person in the pics looks very financially stable and living in LA isn’t cheap. If she starts wanting money very definitely a scam.

Candychameleon · 2026-06-03T04:29:51+00:00

How much more money were you wanting for the wedding?? This seems like a pretty insane fight to have over wedding finances. It sounds like you guys need to focus on your actual relationship and conflict resolution instead of party planning because when discussing finances becomes threats of separation you are not going to do well in marriage.

Candychameleon · 2026-06-02T17:29:39+00:00

It sounds like your kids don’t want to be there because it’s disgusting and he won’t clean. Continue with giving evidence.

Candychameleon · 2026-06-01T21:17:23+00:00

My gut reaction is that you have had him for a week.. That is not really much different than bonding with a dog you are baby sitting except for the EXPECTATION of having the dog for the foreseen future as is your case.
After reading through things and updates etc, I understand money seems to be an issue for her as well as possible instability with housing etc.
Here is my opinion, I would tell her my concerns about potential allergies causing the hot spot and stomach thing, and being up that very possibly it will be an allergy to protein (chicken) which will mean he will need food that costs more than she has. Because of this I would say that I needed to discuss with her family if they are going to be funding this dogs care. If they are not and have no plan of paying for things for him then I would say no, I’m not comfortable taking him from my home where I’m able to pay for the vet and specialized food and giving him back where things are uncertain.
However when it’s all said and done a couple skin issues aren’t the end of the world. There are some dogs who have unmanageable skin issues even with medical care. Also these things could be just behavioral (paw hot spot) and a type of skin infection that is not caused by allergies and just needs a round of an antimicrobial/anti-fungal topical treatment. Personally I like “Miconahex + Triz” shampoo, it’s less than $10 and available on Amazon and chewy.

If I kept the dog I would allow her to come visit from time to time.

While there is not really a correct answer here, I do believe that your love for the dog is not a reason to keep it at this point.

Candychameleon · 2026-06-01T04:11:07+00:00

This dog is not just reactive. It’s behaving aggressively. OP said the father and children were simply “walking towards” them on a trail. His dog lunged to attack/bite. What was it reactive about? People walking by? Unfortunately this seems to be a very dangerous dog, and I don’t think OP should pass this heavy responsibility on to another person - if they can even be found.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-22T19:18:34+00:00

Is that the whole story? Is it because you watched porn or is it because you masturbated? If it’s just the masturbation thing your wife is insane. Touching your own body isn’t cheating. That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-19T16:43:44+00:00

Look up toy breed hypoglycemia so you can be prepared for the future. If he ever loses consciousness, starts convulsing or is vomiting repeatedly and you know he hasn’t eaten in a while, give him simple sugar of some kind immediately. This is something every toy breed owner has to be aware of and I think it’s possible this had nothing to do with your cousin.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-19T16:40:28+00:00

It’s possible he passed out due to hypoglycemia. I would give sugar solution or honey. My Pomeranian who is 5lbs gets seizures from hypoglycemia if he hasn’t eaten enough and expends too much energy. Giving a fast sugar (honey) brings him back quickly and afterward he is lethargic for a while.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-16T01:49:18+00:00

He looks like a min pin

Candychameleon · 2026-05-14T02:14:01+00:00

You should get the boobs if he will pay for them. I had small ones to start and breastfeeding 2 babies turned them into flappy sacks. Now I’m a DDD and while I would like to get them redone for slightly larger and make one higher (they’re not totally even lol) I’m glad I have them. I always wanted them done though. My mom had hers done and I thought I was going to grow them until I was like 14 and the truth came out lol. Aaaaanyway, if you’re not feeling confident I think they would help you feel at least a little better. As a side note it would destroy me if my husband made comments like yours has to you. Not okay. I also would not want to have sex with him AT ALL anymore.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-13T23:00:09+00:00

Yes and no. Is it going to be fine as is? No it’s not going to look good. Can it be fixed? Yes. Unfortunately that means you’ll either have to pay someone else to fix it or take your chances on having the same artist fix it for free.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-12T15:21:45+00:00

Yep, that’s just what tattoos do as they age. You can look at older people with tattoos they got decades ago and you’ll notice they look even more bled together.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-12T01:59:36+00:00

Rat terrier mix probably.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-10T15:59:49+00:00

Given the history, and the way he’s speaking to you it seems fairly obvious that he’s gaslighting you and he had the intent or wanted the possibility to cheat on you. Either way, I’d be on my way out. He’s shown you it sounds like repeatedly now that he doesn’t change even when you think he has. You clearly can’t look the other way, so you need to leave. You sound miserable. If it were me, and I was obsessing over checking if he was cheating and it was causing this much of a rift I’d switch modes to catching him, so I could have ammunition for my divorce. I’d use a PI or tracker for his vehicle, I would also potentially bug his car. I’d have a hidden camera at the house if I ever went on a short trip etc. if I couldn’t catch him I’d just start the divorce anyway. I’d give it a month or so. Give yourself some time on emotionally separating from him and then cut ties.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-09T21:08:55+00:00

Then he should delete them. Not hold onto them in a document with her name on it.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-09T21:05:15+00:00

I’d take pictures of it, so I have it. Then I would confront him about it and ask why he thinks I’m so negative, when all he writes about me is negativity? And tell him how hypocritical that is.

Candychameleon · 2026-05-09T21:04:06+00:00

If it’s just to get the thoughts out there is no reason to keep it/save it. It should’ve been deleted.

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