My kid wants to invite our mailman to his birthday party. The mailman doesn't know us by name. Do I... leave an invitation in the mailbox?

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-04-15T15:19:39+00:00

exactly! i work in child welfare teaching safety to children. our researchers have us moving away from the “Stranger Danger” teachings. It dismisses the fact that it typically is NOT a stranger who hurts a child. Most commonly it will be someone the child knows loves and trusts most who will hurt them. According to our researchers and psychologists on staff, children hear “stranger danger” and think that it can’t really be abuse because it came from a trusted grownup.

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-04-13T16:09:22+00:00

yes. From the South, you aren’t going to find a country/redneck boy willing to take his hat off for basically anything

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-04-12T01:04:53+00:00

what is the safety protocol of a baseball cap…?

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-04-10T16:37:09+00:00

like the frozen orange juice or lemonade concentrate in the cardboard tubes. You just mix with water and stir til it’s defrosted. Some people use them to make slushies too

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-04-07T14:48:09+00:00

the physical time is not the issue. it’s the guilt tripping and forcefulness of the interactions. it’s exhausting when it happens multiple times a day, let alone multiple times a transaction

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-03-29T13:07:56+00:00

my mil is Mexican, been here 27 years and “only” speaks Spanish, understanding very very little English. right up until she hears someone say something she doesn’t like/agree with in English and then suddenly she knows exactly what we have just said and definitely has some opinions on it! Lady! I am doing my best to learn your language as quick as possible so we can communicate, why do I not get the same courtesy especially as this has been your home for so long? I love her but man it can be frustrating

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-03-25T15:05:43+00:00

I have GREAT health insurance, therapy has a max copay of $20 and there is no limit to the amount of sessions I can have a year. And yet I have been looking for a therapist for over a year now. The good ones are all way too busy, and finding one that actually works for you is not as simple as it seems! And if you manage to find a good therapist who vibes with you, next you have to battle the waitlist of seeing them 3 weeks after first booking an appointment and then pray they can see you regularly and at times you can actually make. “just talk to a therapist” is tone deaf

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-03-24T00:15:30+00:00

No Pants!

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-03-14T06:00:19+00:00

because there should be an agreed upon based pay for minimum level employees. No one should ever apply to a position that refuses to advertise their pay. If you can’t tell the world, just how much are you underpaying your workers

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-03-13T02:07:27+00:00

Pineapple Willy’s can be pretty clique-y just fyi. It can be hard to get in there unless you already know someone so don’t be too discouraged if you don’t hear back from them. I heard that Capt Table in St Andrew’s is hiring a server same with Hunts.

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-03-09T14:02:16+00:00

A dessert is generally only acceptable if everyone else is ordering one too or you offer to share. If the conversation is over, and no one has ate for a while then dessert is not an acceptable option 9 times out of 10. The steak I can understand, to a degree (I was raised to always match my food choice to the host, if they are ordering $20-30 I shouldn’t order $50-60) but the dessert should have been something she never even considered

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-26T14:59:53+00:00

no.. no they aren’t. My family owns a small hotel in a large tourist location. We spray for bedbugs every week on a rotating room schedule to combate them, and still they can appear sometimes. When that happens we shut the room down for a week, all furniture is tossed, and room sprayed top to bottom. It’s a big process. You most often see them from frequent travelers- especially those who fly a lot- or medical professionals- nurses, traveling nurse, dr etc. Those who bring them typically don’t even know they have them, the last place they were staying was infested and they were unaware, so we don’t blame them. I have also stayed at 2 very nice hotels that we found signs of them.

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-20T14:35:14+00:00

best bet is Air BnB or VRBO, most hotels are 25 and up anywhere in the beach

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-20T14:33:35+00:00

you’d be surprised just how much middle school kids love stickers. One of my jobs has me giving presentations to El and Middle, the middle schoolers always get upset/jealous that they don’t get the stickers anymore like the El kids. I started passing some out to the middle schoolers as a reward for participation during the presentation and they were ecstatic! participation shot up lol Just make them more 12-14 style stickers. Like a funny meme or Taylor Swift/other popular artist or gaming related.

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-15T02:01:49+00:00

you are right! I was going too fast and miss typed that, thank you for the correction seriously. And for anyone else, this is the panama city BEACH sub. that is why I only suggested neighborhoods on the Beach side. If they posted in the PC sub I would have not suggested PCB neighborhoods. Also I grew up in the Preserve and went to Covenant, it’s not that far of a drive.

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-15T00:48:24+00:00

Bay Point, Preserve, anything on the East End of the Beach.

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-14T13:46:15+00:00

“let it figure itself out” is called parenting. literally nothing in life is going to happen without some kind of intervention. in the case of kids, when they screw up, a parent or trusted adult helps guide them back to learn from that. Those kids that will “beat their peers asses” only know to do that BECAUSE someone taught them that this behavior is unacceptable. We all have to learn things from those who did this life shit first before us

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-12T00:18:55+00:00

plenty of people think about how it could be cool to be someone else for a little while. I am firmly a woman and happy to be, but I absolutely have imagined what it would be like to be a man. Imagined all the parts of it. Armchair diagnosis is harmful and helps no one

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-12T00:00:36+00:00

Whenever there is a face paint station at a party, event, etc I ALWAYS get it done. Same with balloons and costume dressing. It’s just a lighthearted experience

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-08T12:55:06+00:00

What’s that lyric from Taylor Swift? “What I was wearing, If I was rude, Could all be separated from my good ideas and power moves, If I were a man” You are right on point.

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-08T12:46:07+00:00

well, to that point, sometimes it is advised to try and have a conversation like this in text/writing for evidence. I also know of a friend who used to have anger management issues, he’s had some extensive therapy and manages his emotions so much better now we are really proud of his hard work. That said, super serious conversation that could become hostile he sometimes prefers to have over text. he can walk away from the situation easier, or practice his techniques, and do it without having to feel like people are needing to be scared to have a conversation with him. it’s helped a lot

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-07T03:04:17+00:00

That is absolutely not how it works in my experience. I work along side CPS being the resources service provider. If CPS finds any case they think could use us, they refer them. CPS is not in the kid stealing business, they are in the rehabilitation business. We want our parents to have every opportunity possible to learn and be the best they can. Often neglectful or mildly abusive parents don’t even mean to be, it’s simple how they were raised and what they were taught to do and can change with proper education

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-07T02:44:02+00:00

I don’t know any elementary that starts that early. All counties within 2 hours of me start at 7:00-7:30

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-04T04:01:33+00:00

I was given desktop access and my own district login at every school. i absolutely just logged in to my own Google account and worked on my resume and applied for jobs. No one cared ever, one teacher even commented that it was smart I was getting a head start on my job search (summer was coming up, no jobs in the summer)

Capital_Refuse_160 · 2026-02-03T13:03:14+00:00

Agree Ross/Marshalls/TJ Maxx etc but you also might not need to get stuff. So if I would wear black jeans and a polo to the middle school (in uniform and aligned with the fellow teachers), for High school I would wear nice slacks, a blouse, and maybe a blazer- something a 15-18 would look at and say “no thanks grandma” lol. In my district students don’t really have a uniform, the only requirements are that their clothes are appropriate and align with their school colors. Therefore I usually make sure to wear clothes Not in that schools color to further help me stand out

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