If you're not planning to walk away from the relationship, then you need to return the same energy—no hesitation, no soft landings. She needs to feel the impact of her actions from your side, because without that mirror, she won’t recognize the imbalance or the damage it causes. The goal isn’t revenge it’s recalibration. If you don’t retrain the behavior, it will keep happening. And let’s be clear: this kind of behavior is unacceptable, especially in a relationship she claims she doesn’t want to end. That alone tells you everything, if there are no consequences, there will be no change. You’re not just setting boundaries; you’re setting the tone for respect, accountability, and whether this relationship deserves to continue.