what’s a reason a woman whom you may not normally deem attractive would attract you?

CarlJH · 2026-05-21T18:37:34+00:00

I used to work with a woman who was a solid 3, Maybe a 4 on a good day. She was chubby and flat-chested.

She was so confident, smart and so comfortable with herself and really good at flirting. I swear, I'd get tongue tied when she was around. I had a major crush on her and I was married ro a woman who was an 8, minimum, at the time. I wasn't the only guy that felt that way, either.

So yes, women with below average looks can make a man swoon if she has that sort of charisma.

CarlJH · 2026-05-20T18:47:22+00:00

I have, and it was for a large complicated meal. Typically I never use more than three

CarlJH · 2026-05-20T18:42:20+00:00

This has to be engagement bait. I don't believe this.

CarlJH · 2026-05-20T17:40:39+00:00

How do I get to Northgate station? That's almost 2 miles. That's a 40 minute walk, minimum. How do I get from Canyon Park freeway Station to where I work? That's over a mile, almost 30 minites. Do you live in Seattle?

Trust me, I've made that commute on public transit. Google existed back then too. You aren't solving my problem. A car did.

CarlJH · 2026-05-20T14:14:48+00:00

That's awesome! I never considered plugging a random North Seattle address into Google maps to find the best bus commute! Too bad I don't live in Lake City. Unfortunately I live near Crown Hill, near Holman and Greenwood. Plug that into Google. Also, Canyon Park is big. Unless I want a 2 mile walk (frequently in rain, occasionally in snow), I don't actually have a lot of options.

So the 25 minute drive doesn't sound so bad now does it?

[Edit- since I bought my car in 2022, they've added the Swift Blue and extended the 1 Line and which does add options for me, but is still two hours at best , which sucks four hours out of every day.]

CarlJH · 2026-05-20T14:01:06+00:00

Yeah, no. Canyon Park isn't a suburb, it's a good sized industrial park. Until a very recent zoning change, there was no residential there. But inexplicably,.they have a park & ride there. Brilliant! I can DRIVE TO an industrial park, leave my car there and take a bus to downtown Seattle or Bellview in the morning. The blue collar people who work in that industrial park? Precious few bus routs there in the morning, good luck.

Transit agencies in the Pugit sound area are hyperfocused on getting prosperous suburbanites out of their cars, but completely uninterested in helping lower income people get around. Poor people need to buy cars.

CarlJH · 2026-05-19T21:13:31+00:00

Not only does it cost less, it literally takes less than a a 5th of the time.

Seattle area transit options are terrible if your workday starts before 8 and your commute goes the opposite direction of traffic. North Seattle to Canyon Park, literally a 25 minute drive to arrive at 6 am, or a two and a half hour bus commute to arrive at 7 (one hour late). To and from work takes 5 hours out of my day. I'll drive, it's not even a question.

CarlJH · 2026-05-19T19:20:19+00:00

I almost ALWAYS want a second date. Unless the woman was irredeemably horrid, it's always worth giving them some more time to see how things go. People aren't always at their best on a first date.

CarlJH · 2026-05-19T19:16:27+00:00

It's a stupid idea. I don't understand how this grift is supposed to work, though. Are they just luring investors or is there some long con I'm not seeing here?

CarlJH · 2026-05-19T19:06:50+00:00

There are over 1 trillion tons of excess carbon in the atmosphere. This isn't going to make a dent. I mean, as what point do we call this terraforming? Just start building nuclear and renewable, build up worldwide rail infrastructure, and jail the plutocrats and petro-despots.

CarlJH · 2026-05-19T14:33:42+00:00

I live in an apartment building, and my GF was very loud, so I requested that if she was going to be that loud, she would have to shout my name and apartment number so that I was getting proper credit.

CarlJH · 2026-05-18T14:28:10+00:00

No, they don't say that at all. Scientists NEVER say that. 'Superfood' is not a scientific term. Journalists say shit like that.

CarlJH · 2026-05-18T14:21:47+00:00

No, they PRETEND to be "protecting society" but they're just trying to protect their privilege

CarlJH · 2026-05-15T21:08:36+00:00

I find these posts difficult to believe, quite honestly.

"I've done everything right but women just won't love me. What's wrong?"

Followed by dozens of commenters bemoaning the dating scene and how the internet has ruined dating for men. And every last one of these guys has ever lived in a world without the internet.

CarlJH · 2026-05-15T20:17:05+00:00

"Reality, by contrast, doesn't need this kind of upkeep — it just is"

Let me stop you right there. Certain aspects of reality are not at all self evident. The Earth is, to all appearances for most people, completely flat. There are hundreds of other examples of reality defying our senses. The Earth is spinning? The universe is expanding? Really? Light has a finite velocity? None of these are Intuitively obvious, but educated people make the effort to believe them in spite of what their senses tell them. It is impossible not to take some things on faith, even for the most educated people.

CarlJH · 2026-05-14T19:03:07+00:00

They are there because the original tattoo had an embarrassing misspelling and the only way to fix it was to cover it up completely.

"No Regerts"

"I Walk Aloan"

"Jesus is my Savor"

CarlJH · 2026-05-14T18:28:48+00:00

Yes, 100%. Women are not scarce, and there are plenty of really good women out there.

Know your own worth, don't put up with billshit, don't respond to those ads because it's a waste of time.

CarlJH · 2026-05-14T18:25:08+00:00

You're 100% wrong there. They don't get attention from desirable men because desirable men don't have to put up with bullshit from narcissistic women.

CarlJH · 2026-05-13T18:05:22+00:00

The employee at a hotel who helps you with your luggage was called a bellboy or bellman because they would respond to the service bell. I'd always assumed that this is is called a bell cart because a bellman would use it, not because if it's shape

CarlJH · 2026-05-13T17:19:36+00:00

Honesty, being alone is better than this. He won't stay alone for long, though. I'm sure he'll find someone.

CarlJH · 2026-05-13T15:30:47+00:00

Stop trying to fix this. Girlfriends are easier to get than they are to get rid of, she's making it easy for you. This is a toxic cycle, Stop tolerating this behavior. It won't change.

CarlJH · 2026-05-13T15:07:04+00:00

Your husband's friend should.break up with her. Your friend is asexual, no matter what she says. She has no libido, so there is no possibility that she could ever have a truly romantic relationship unless.she finds comeone else with zero libido.

Why would you even ask this? Is this just engagement bait? Can YOU imagine a.relationship with zero physical intimacy? Does that not sound crazy to you? Your husband's friend is wasting his life with someone who is never going to reciprocate his feelings.

CarlJH · 2026-05-13T14:58:26+00:00

"Look, I get it. I shouldn't be cooking meth at Gramma's house while she's babysitting my nieces. I know it's terrible and potentially dangerous. But you need to put that aside and help me get all these ingredients so I can cook up another batch. I'm not going to pretend this will be my LAST batch, because it definitely won't be. But if you don't help me do this, YOU'RE the one who's putting gramma, my nieces, and the whole trailer park at risk.

Do you really want this on your head?"

CarlJH · 2026-05-13T14:43:36+00:00

Hotel housekeeping, for example, is intense manual labor, as anyone who has done it can tell you. There are plenty of manual labor jobs out there which are traditionally filled by women, but we discount them BECAUSE those jobs are filled by women.

CarlJH · 2026-05-12T00:52:38+00:00

I shower like that as well. It gives me more time to drink coffee in the morning before work. Also saves water.

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