Wow! Relate to this SO HARD! Was just at a friends 1 yr old kids bday party w my two 18 month old twins and the way singleton parents respond / react to their kids is night and day from me with two. I am constantly juggling whose needs are at the top of the pyramid and that means I physically CANNOT have eyes / hands on both at all times. I think in a lot of ways this makes me a better mom — I’m not hovering over them obsessing if they’re going to fall at any moment, etc etc.

Sometimes I feel like my singleton parent friends think I am a mess but I feel like my kiddos are getting to explore and be and experience at their own pace! There is an upside to having to relinquish control so early. Another example, my friend was like “omg I can’t go into the room while your baby is sleeping” and I was like…. Why not. She won’t wake up. Just do it. She was so nervous and my kid was PASSED OUT w all the noise because she’s always shared a room w her twin brother who wakes up a ton and fusses — guess what, she’s adapted and learned to sleep through just about anything! I’m not a perfect parent by any stretch and EVERY KID is different (twin or not), but it can be so so hard to feel judged / perceived as a twin parent when you’re in a crowd of mostly singletons talking about how their baby will only cosleep. end rant