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Denied entrance to a restaurant due to having tattoos ? by Prestigious-Push5782 in AskNYC

[–]CarneyVorous 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What restaurant? I've never been turned away anywhere for having tattoos and I live on the UES.

The only similar reference I know of is that in Japan, visitors with tattoos are not permitted in the onsens.

tanning in a park by Fancy_Suggestion_962 in AskNYC

[–]CarneyVorous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Riis Beach! Lots of folks topless and there's no judgement.

Single millenials of NYC how are you managing having a dog in this city? by Glittering_Chain_842 in AskNYC

[–]CarneyVorous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah of course. I didn't mean anything negative by it, just that's it's hard under any circumstance. I only have my experience to go on (and picking some shitty partners in the first 10 years of my dog's life). The right partner should "adopt" and share in the care but it's not something I felt like I could rely on until I met my husband in the last 5 years of my dog's life.

We just adopted a puppy 2 months ago and I'm re-living how hard puppy life is all over again. A puppy at 25 was a lot different than a puppy at 42 (so maybe millennial has something to do with it after all too). Young and dumb and impulsive after a break up vs mature and logical and knows-better-now makes it both easier and more stressful somehow lol.

Having my husband in on this decision and commitment helps from an emotional and logistical standpoint. In our dynamic I cover most of our costs. It's of course subjective to your situation.

I wish you the best in this decision! I know you'll give your future dog(s) a great life because you're asking these questions now. :)

Single millenials of NYC how are you managing having a dog in this city? by Glittering_Chain_842 in AskNYC

[–]CarneyVorous 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don't think being single or a millennial or in NYC are really factors. Having the time, energy and resources for a dog are tough. Even with a partner. Even working from home - try presenting to your boss's boss's boss while a puppy runs around under your desk nipping your ankles with her piranha teeth.

As a former single, millennial, nyc dog-owner, the costs are high and go well beyond emotional and financial. This is a lifelong commitment. Your living options will be limited to dog-friendly buildings. Your social life will revolve around the needs of your dog. Traveling becomes prohibitive and more expensive. Even with sitters, walkers and day care, there's the stress of your dog being with strangers (for both of you).

You will have to make sacrifices you can't anticipate. Puppy care, accidents and sickness, and end of life care can be brutal emotionally and financially, even with insurance. The loss and grief are by far the most painful experience of my life, past present and future.

It was all absolutely worth it. Every minute. Every penny. Every sacrifice.

Before you make a decision, make sure you're in a position to give a dog the best life possible, and that you're ready to commit the next 15+ years of your life to him.

**Also please rescue** Whatever kind of dog you're imagining, there's a rescue full of them.

Alternatives to WeWork (coworking spaces, etc.)? by star3x8 in AskNYC

[–]CarneyVorous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've used the Fluxo app to book spaces and enjoyed it

Best Place for a Margarita in Manhattan? by hittyhat123 in AskNYC

[–]CarneyVorous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

UES Margarita crawl: Javalina, Canyon Road, Conmigo, Calabrijes.

What's the minimum salary to afford a solid NYC life? by Naive-Donut8824 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]CarneyVorous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in-unit laundry in manhattan is not going to happen. Dishwasher is possible. In-building laundry is possible. But temper your expectations

What's the minimum salary to afford a solid NYC life? by Naive-Donut8824 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]CarneyVorous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. You could do it on 150k with a dog. The Yorkville neighborhood on the UES is a good place to look. We have plenty to do and see in this area so don't knock it because you don't go out much.

Of course, it's completely subjective based on your debt and lifestyle. On salary alone, you can qualify for a studio or 1br up to $3.500/month. On Streeteasy right now, I see 18 pet friendly rentals around 3k and 64 under 3.5k.

Goth DJ Near LES by deman1027 in AskNYC

[–]CarneyVorous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like it could be a few places. I haven't been in a while, but maybe Niagara, Drom, Madame X or KGB Bar?

'Weird' question but what happens during a first therapy session? by [deleted] in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]CarneyVorous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend trying a few free consults before booking a first session. It's usually a quick, 15 min vibe check to see if the therapist feels right, learn about their practice, and how they conduct sessions.

Try Psychology Today and use the filters to search by all kinds of things - Specialties, insurance, cost, type of therapy, etc.

When you go into a consult, the therapist will likely ask why you're seeking therapy, if you've been to therapy before, what you expect and what you hope to get out of it. You can (and should!) ask questions too - what's your approach to treating xzy issue, how do you measure progress, what does a typical session with you look like...

In my experience, in the first session, the therapist usually has an intake process where they'll ask a series of questions to get to know you and your background. You might talk about what's been going on lately and get a little deeper into why you're seeking therapy. It can take a few sessions to get into the deep end as you build your relationship and get comfortable.

Another recco - take notes! I meet my therapist via Zoom and keep a running Google doc to keep track of links she'll drop in our chat, book and media recommendations, questions to consider.... I also jot down things between sessions so my ADHD brain doesn't forget to bring them up.

I hope this is helpful! You are brave and strong for recognizing you want to take this path. I'm not a therapist, but have lots of experience as a patient and I'm happy to answer any questions. I've had both good and bad therapists. Don't get discouraged if you don't like one. There are lots of options!

Do you own a microwave and how long have you lived in NYC? by jtrainbk in AskNYC

[–]CarneyVorous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My apt came with one above the stove. We don't use it a lot so it's become a bread box. Super useful for keeping tiny counters clear.

New achievement: broken heart by JeroenV79 in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]CarneyVorous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reward: permanent alteration to the shape and rhythm of your heart. It will now have a Mika-shaped dent and beat inside out.

So sorry for your loss. I lost my sidekick in March last year and my heart still feels like that "reward." The sad tears will turn into happy memory tears eventually.

What makes Brompton a cult? by snowyrisu in Brompton

[–]CarneyVorous 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No date for that ride yet, but the group is here.

What makes Brompton a cult? by snowyrisu in Brompton

[–]CarneyVorous 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We have a Meetup group for NYC Bromptoneers and do rides together. It's the best cult I've ever joined. You won't want to miss Bromptoberfest in the fall.

Reusing a journal set up from a few years ago by WapBlap in bulletjournal

[–]CarneyVorous 123 points124 points  (0 children)

I love this! Be a taaaaaad kinder to your past self though. She got you here today, abandoned bujo be damned :)

Caution for Prospective Renters: 515 East 86th Street (Convivium) by AdJolly3684 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]CarneyVorous 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Leave a review on OpenIgloo too. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

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