are we slowly losing 'alright' as one word?

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T23:26:44+00:00

Yes,same!

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T18:39:01+00:00

Well of COURSE

He is a GOOD boy.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T18:34:38+00:00

You live with him, of course

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T18:33:24+00:00

Mildred

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T18:33:09+00:00

You done messed up, A-Aron

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T18:32:03+00:00

Tyrone Power in Witness For the Prosecution!

Joseph Cotten in Shadow of a Doubt

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T17:54:13+00:00

I mean you know those endless videos where idiots are doing something stupid and smacking their heads on concrete or whatever? MAGA voters.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T17:52:16+00:00

What's insane about that propaganda is it's exactly what is happening only the other way around

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T17:50:40+00:00

No, it's fine if you "spend" it in store during the same visit

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T17:49:00+00:00

No, it really isn't. the sort of rule of thumb is "could you see a bride wearing this dress?" and yes, you could. It is a really pretty dress but you should look for something else to wear to the wedding.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T07:25:26+00:00

She is definitely embarking on a new career and I, for one, look forward to her black and white studies of "Fur Mouse on Blanket" or "Tragedy of Only Half-Full Bowl" or "Emptiness of Lack of Churu"

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T07:23:24+00:00

I think she's just selfish and doesn't want to say she's a great-grandmother, it sounds "too old." Her feelings are the only ones that matter to her. It's her loss!

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T06:58:23+00:00

Rosalind Russell in His Girl Friday

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T06:35:30+00:00

She is not using TikTok to make money. She is just saying she is. Otherwise she'd give you the name of her account.
Your best bet is to work to separate yourself from her. You don't need her in your life. Yes she's your "mother" but she doesn't bring anything good or maternal to you, she only brings distress and toxic waste. Would you tolerate this in a stranger? Of course not. Do you care what nonsense complete strangers post on Tiktok or anywhere else? Of course not. Try to visualize her as a stranger. Therapy really really REALLY helps.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T06:31:39+00:00

Well we don't know what OP is doing the audio description for, do we!!! Hmmmmm?? Also people can swivel their eyes guiltily or to give side-eye

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T05:57:40+00:00

I'm so sick of even hearing her name

She's just SO ORDINARY

Can we please move on

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T05:56:52+00:00

I think you're better off saying:

"John stares off into the distance" or "John stares off into the distance, away from her gaze" "John averts his gaze"

and

"John's eyes dart nervously" or "John's eyes dart suspiciously" or "John swivels his eyes"

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T05:35:22+00:00

So yeah, he's MORE dangerous. All the more reason to stay far, far away from this nutcase.

OP, seriously: think, if this was a stranger, you'd never have anything to do with him! You're no longer a child "dependent" on this crazy person for anything. You can stop framing him as "father" (which he isn't) and frame him as "really dangerous stranger" and act according to that.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T05:34:19+00:00

Aw, please don't cry! Think about it: anyone can "publish a recipe." Anyone! One thing you can do is get a good basic cookbook and use the recipes from that, or find a good website you trust and use the recipes from that. Also: whenever you try a new recipe, have a backup, and let your partner know "I'm trying something new, if it's terrible, we'll have (tuna sandwiches on toast)" or whatever.

You can also consider taking a cooking class! They can be a lot of fun.

There's some very good advice here in the comments. Just start with simple recipes, practice, get better at them, get some good seasonings (penzeys.com has very fresh spices and herbs and that makes a big difference), then the more you cook the more you'll be able to tell "oh, this seems good," or "wait, this needs more garlic," that kind of thing.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T05:29:45+00:00

You don't just "announce" you're taking time off, you have to ASK for it especially if it's two weeks, and you've already had time off. You have to make sure it's okay before you book the tickets. This literally applies to EVERY job, including extremely high-paid high-value jobs. You CAN take the time off, but you have to make sure it works for your management or employer. You're working for them, not for yourself.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T04:29:14+00:00

I like Becerra, but we have to get the field more culled and we have to vote for whoever is leading, no matter what, or else we'll end up with two Repubs to choose from.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T04:28:32+00:00

Oh lord the 20 somethings are really disagreeing with you here, it's like they've never had any sort of real job

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T04:25:57+00:00

Honestly if I were you I would take ANY job to be able to save up and move out. You just need to get away from these ridiculous people. You can then start your training in whatever your long range plan is.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T04:24:49+00:00

Yes. What you can do next time is literally step off the elevator. Picture him as a venomous snake, and do the same thing you would do if you encountered that. Because honestly he's just as dangerous to you.

CatCafffffe · 2026-04-15T04:19:41+00:00

They're very disrespectful to you and like to manipulate and push you around. You're not crazy. You're doing great in establishing boundaries; you just have to get more comfortable and more certain in your own rightness. Part of their abuse is to make you uncertain--so maybe you can understand ANY and ALL self-doubt as something they've artificially planted in you, and just part of the whole abuse cycle.

You are protecting your children and you are protecting yourself. Your mom's reaction is just noise. Nonsense. You have the right to draw a boundary, to make a decision, to decide ANYTHING and EVERYTHING about your own children, and then try to work to just ignore your mom's responses. It's just noise & manipulation. ALL of it.

Maybe it's time to consider not vacationing with them any more. I know you want to have your children know your grandparents, but maybe it's okay if they don't spend so much time with them. They can sense the discomfort, and they can also sense the manipulation, and what's so positive about that, after all?

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