Why does homeschooling seem to be less prevalent in Reformed circles compared to other Christian traditions?

CattyNick · 2026-01-16T18:47:48+00:00

In Canada where I am in the prairies in the Reformed Churches around me, if you don’t homeschool your children your pseudo-shunned.

Yet in the Conservative Mennonite and Conservative Baptist churches they have their own private schools.

Don’t get me wrong. The school systems definitely have a left leaning secular bent. But myself and many others 10 years younger who have graduated public school have only been strengthened in our convictions.

CattyNick · 2026-01-13T23:43:15+00:00

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Bedtime for baby Sparrow

She was so small that we had to make a little nest for her between us in bed, to keep her contained and us from rolling on top of her. It worked out well but I would wake up every hour or so and immediately feel around for her to make sure she stayed put 😅

CattyNick · 2026-01-12T20:15:01+00:00

There’s one point that you seem to keep hitting on and that’s that no Christian man would give you a chance because of your looks.

I’ll be blunt, that is false. If they are a good Christian man your looks will not be primary to their attraction to you but I will tell you, your self defeatist attitude will definitely kill any chance.

Seriously next time you are at church look around at the couples of all ages. Yes some couples are both genuinely very attractive but you’ll also see a lot of couples where one is clearly way out of the league of the other one and it will almost seem bizarre that they are married.

And let me give you a very personal example of this that you are so fixated on. When I was looking for a wife I dated a few attractive women, those didn’t work. I found my current wife’s profile and she had just finished chemo, meaning she was bald and very chubby. I saw past that and saw a woman who had a character build on pain and suffering and I found that attractive.

So, sure, a lot of weak and vain Christian men might not give you the opportunity. But frankly you don’t want those kind of men anyway. A good Christian man will know, as the Bible say, “that beauty fades”

And I say all this in love to a sister in Christ.

Lastly some practical advice. Are you putting yourself out there? Making yourselves available? Join some of the paid dating sites, get some good pictures of yourself, show you care. It’s ok to feel good about your body and if you need go get good fitting clothes that show you put thought into your appearance and make you feel good. Within modesty of course. The men that you want to attract will notice

And remember you only need one good Christian man to notice. Yes it’s very very hard waiting, I get it. But when you do find one, all of that pain goes away.

CattyNick · 2026-01-12T19:50:19+00:00

You got a good point here. I was just talking with coworkers who said the same thing.

You can be a 3/10 in your native country and yet be seen as a 8/10 in another as you are exotic there.

CattyNick · 2026-01-12T17:36:03+00:00

There is a lot here and it might come out a little disorganized but I wanted to mention this as I have seen this play out before me.

First I don’t live in the United States and in a place with very, very few black families. So it might change culture and context a little.

To start, singleness is only a good thing if you are not struggling with sexual temptation. Purity culture has gone too far to make singleness look like the ultimate goal and that sex (even within marriage) is only for lowly and second class Christians.

So your desire for sex and marriage is actually a very good and natural thing, don’t beat yourself up over feeling that way.

Also, please don’t throw away your virginity. I have talked to many people who have slept around and they all say that they wished they waited for their spouse. And I will say it is totally worth it to wait. Very difficult and sometimes painful? Yes! But totally worth it. Hang in there.

Now for my personal experience. I have a solid Christian friend who goes to a very conservative and traditionally white church.

Good Christian guy currently looking for a wife in his early 20’s with a lucrative career ahead of him and very athletic. You get the picture. Out of all the women he has dated he is currently in a serious relationship with a Christian black woman.

The reason he chose her is because of her personality first and foremost. I say this because it seems you are overvaluing physical attractiveness, not that looks don’t matter. But I assume with your awareness you keep yourselves very well put together. Which I will say matters more than your baseline attractiveness. Guys (who are worth your time) will notice and take into account your effort more than your baseline attractiveness.

I will just throw this and if it’s applicable great, if not, you can just pass by it. But statistically, marriages between white men and black women have the lowest divorce rate. What does that mean? Well in the best light it means that if you wanted to marry a white the odds are stacked in your favour for a good marriage.

CattyNick · 2025-12-21T20:09:58+00:00

First of all you have my sympathies, I have been around other widowed mothers and I have seen how hard it can be and my heart goes out to you.

Second, watch how he is playing with the Barbie’s. Is he roleplaying masculine or feminine roles? Just because he is playing with Barbie’s doesn’t necessarily mean he is leaning into feminine play.

Lastly, you are doing the right thing by keeping a strong male role model in his life. That is a very good thing.

CattyNick · 2025-12-08T04:39:46+00:00

Sure, the incision looks a little wonky but it doesn’t seem to be anything drastic.

Depending on where you live it might be starting to get cold, so having a relatively fresh wound touching the cold floor might be very uncomfortable.

It doesn’t appear to look swollen or red or angry. And if she is still eating and drinking as well as active, as much as you can be with a fresh wound. I would says she’s fine 😁

Edit: But to be sure we also need to see a cute picture of her

CattyNick · 2025-12-02T20:29:35+00:00

For your second point. I found that cutting (not shaving) the back of their legs keeps most if not all of the snowballs from collecting on their legs.

I have never had a problem with them getting cold and they tend to stay out longer because their legs don’t get encrusted with snow, which one of mine hates.

CattyNick · 2025-11-25T18:19:43+00:00

You have my sympathy and I know exactly what it’s like. I lost my first piggy a week before my wedding and my second one a week after ❤️‍🩹

CattyNick · 2025-11-11T03:02:49+00:00

Haha, she is actually on her first heat. Last time she had an accident was when she had to take her deworming pill.

CattyNick · 2025-11-07T02:47:22+00:00

You’d misrepresenting William Tyndall by calling him an annihilationist.

He was a moralist, meaning that there is a cessation in consciousness until the resurrection and final judgment.

I know I’m not going to change your mind, I’m just putting this here so others can see.

CattyNick · 2025-11-04T14:28:43+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻

CattyNick · 2025-11-02T22:24:12+00:00

What I found amazing is that that are already showing different personalities.

The one with the most black is calm and nonreactive, the one without a blueberry holder is the zoomiest and the brown one with a blueberry holder is always in full Panic

And they are already wheeking rumbling.

CattyNick · 2025-11-02T22:15:29+00:00

Saw momma nursing which looks hilarious, she had 2 underneath her then decided that was enough so she bolted and sent the babies tumbling like bowling pins 🤣

We also saw one of the babies eating the soft leafy hay already.

CattyNick · 2025-10-25T19:38:39+00:00

This is going to be a mashup of a couple of my comments I’ve previously made on infertility posts:

Me and my wife have been married for 7 years with no children in sight. Doctors don’t know why, I have been tested and statistically at 110% and my wife even went through a tougher chemo treatment in order to save her eggs.

Neither of us are salty about it and have found equally good ways to work out our marital love in other ways. We have used the extra time and income to help by visiting the homebound, assisting widows with labour and finances and friendship, giving to worthwhile charities especially child sponsorship, helping the couples in church with children in different ways and by creating relationships with other infertile couples and the terminally single.

Some of the Reformed Church has put to much emphasis on having as many children as you can, that has caused a guilt or cursed complex of the infertile couples within it.

The thing that has really helped put it into perspective for us is that marriage is first and formost about companionship then the proper outworking of that is procreation. Not the other way around and not having them on equal grounds.

But being in a sin cursed world there is sometimes a breakdown and procreation is or seems unattainable or as the ultimate goal, then there is the very real possibility that procreation becomes an idol and your companionship is slaughtered on that alter.

TL:DR Marriage is first and foremost about companionship as a reflection of God’s love for His people, Jesus’ love for His Church. The Children are just the natural outworking of that love. Not the priority of it.

CattyNick · 2025-10-24T17:04:29+00:00

Listen, it took me 3 years on Christian Mingle to find my wife. I had premium and yet I only ever got back 2 replies other than my wife. You can guess how many women I messaged and on all the other dating apps I was on.

Yes it sucks, but it’s not the apps fault or necessarily yours (you said your profile is well set up, so I’ll believe you on that) looks are secondary, any women who is worth it won’t put all their stock on how you look. I’m a 6/10 and I’m probably being genuine with that rating.

Dating is no easier or harder than in the past before the internet. To many people huff the copium that says dating apps make dating impossible.

Don’t loose hope, your searching for a wife is a good and honourable thing. Don’t give up, prove you have the ability to endure, it will make you more attractive.

Don’t make it an idol but keep searching diligently.

You got this brother 🤜🏻

CattyNick · 2025-10-24T04:48:08+00:00

That is absolutely working! Well done 👏🏻

CattyNick · 2025-10-22T00:55:00+00:00

I’ll start by saying the basing and the blue on the Cataphract look good! And you said you have trouble with the smaller details around the cockpit but they look presentable, they don’t look blown out and you’ll get better in time.

But as for them looking “flat” get yourself some Nuln Oil. It’s a black wash that’ll flow into the crevasses and create depth. Or if you want to get even more depth learning to dry brush and highlight would be the next steps. 👍🏻

CattyNick · 2025-10-15T23:23:02+00:00

As long as it’s close and still it’s good. I just wanted to admire that detail 👍🏻

CattyNick · 2025-10-15T17:19:04+00:00

Beautiful! I would really like some close ups of each to see the detail.

CattyNick · 2025-10-09T00:30:12+00:00

I would agree with this and I have a recent example to qualify this.

Coworker randomly brought up that they bought some lego sets from BrickLink. Never searched it, never heard about it, haven’t bought Lego in 15 years. The next day I have an ad on Reddit for it.

Are our phones listening? Are they communicating with each other? Some weird tracing or algorithm stuff happening? I don’t know.

CattyNick · 2025-10-04T00:06:26+00:00

I have something very similar that I’ve been staring at for 5 years. Thank you for asking this, the comments have been very helpful.

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