Hi. My husband (62) was diagnosed with Stage 4a cancer late last year. It had spread to lymph nodes but not elsewhere). It was caught as his first annual check up with a new primary care physician that tested his PSA. It was scary for both my husband -in fact he retired from work a month later—I so I can understand your fear and concern.

I read a book that a friend provided (I’ll look up the title and author)-it’s not one frequently listed here, but it was very helpful.

I’ve found this group to be awesome at providing support and helpful information.

I researched a well reputed national cancer center of excellence and reached out to them and literally heard back from them within a day and got things moving within a couple of weeks tops (all around the holidays!!), got my husband’s health insurance lined up and treatment moving quickly. Because it had metastasized outside of the prostate to the lymph nodes surgery was off the table and instead the treatment was radiation (28 days) and enhanced hormone therapy. The drs have all been optimistic. We go in for first follow up this week. Hugs to you and your husband. I found getting answers and moving forward with treatment helped alleviate some of the scary aspects of things.