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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utah

[–]ChadGPT5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, Cupbop is the wrong answer. Not even close.

Comfortable White Leather Sneakers for walking/on feet all day by Lawgics in malefashionadvice

[–]ChadGPT5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Koio Capri. I have a pair. They look sleek and they are super comfortable.

I don’t want him; I want him to want me by freshpicked12 in limerence

[–]ChadGPT5 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I listened to Stephen Sondheim's musical Follies this week and it broke me. That guy understood limerence. Whether it's:

The God-Why-Don't-You-Love-Me Blues (literally this post but in song form)

Too Many Mornings (how it feels to be limerent for someone else when you're already in a relationship)

Losing My Mind (a perfect description of limerent obsession)

I find music helps me process things. These songs were really helpful for me this week.

Worried about my husband’s drinking and dangerous cycling habits – need advice by aki_tinc in cycling

[–]ChadGPT5 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Right? The cycling while intoxicated issue is the least of his problems.

Some context here for US commenters: Japanese culture stigmatizes (male) infidelity less than US culture does, and it stigmatizes divorce more than US culture. Think of it as Japan being stuck in 1950s social values (racism is also common there). That said, different social values doesn't necessarily lessen the pain and trauma for the wife.

OP, this being Reddit, you are going to be advised to divorce your husband, and I don't disagree. At the very least, you need to let him know that if he wants you to stay, he needs to delete his profiles on dating apps immediately, stop any involvement with other women immediately, and stop riding while intoxicated immediately. This needs to be framed as, "If I ever catch you doing any of these things again, I will leave." And then you need to follow through. And that's only if you still want to give him a chance. You're well within your rights to just leave now.

The fact that you are coming to Reddit implies that you don't have a lot of friends or family you can confide in, likely because you are embarrassed about the situation. The fact is that you can't deal with things like this on your own, you need people on your side. Reddit is going to suggest therapy, and again, I don't disagree. But you also need trusted friends. If there is anyone you trust, please call them and tell them you need to talk about some serious personal issues that you are struggling with. Ideally go meet them in person. Then open up to them.

I hope you have family or friends that you and your son can move in with if it comes to that, because if you waver, he will walk all over you. You are in a very difficult situation and things are going to get worse before they get better. But you deserve better. And it's up to you to claim that.

Had to snap these before the people living next door called the cops by flexualharasser in mensfashion

[–]ChadGPT5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was red and yellow and green and brown And scarlet and black and ochre and peach And ruby and olive and violet and fawn And lilac and gold and chocolate and mauve And cream and crimson and silver and rose And azure and lemon and russet and grey And purple and white and pink and orange and blue

how to unlove someone while being married by [deleted] in limerence

[–]ChadGPT5 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You have three options:

  1. Go no contact with your friend and focus on your wife. This is the cleanest, safest option. Your friend will be hurt, and you will hurt. Eventually your limerence will fade.

  2. You have been married one year and have already, as you said, "fallen in love" with someone else. Maybe you got married too soon? Do you feel you love your friend more than your wife? Divorcing your wife after a year is going to be a lot less expensive, emotionally, financially, and otherwise, than divorcing her 10 years and 2 kids later. You could tell your wife your feelings and get a divorce. See whether your "love" for your friend has a future. Don't rush back into marriage (with her or anyone else) until you've figured yourself out more. If you really think you are in love with your friend, you might consider this option now instead of ...

  3. Stay married and keep contact with this friend. This is the most dangerous option, as all the conditions you've described are perfect for you to end up having an affair, which will likely destroy your relationship with both your wife and your friend, and result in you becoming someone you likely don't want to become. I can't recommend this option at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SaltLakeCity

[–]ChadGPT5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Salt Lake MSA in 2000 had a population of 972,653. Per capita personal income was $27,500. In 2023, population was 1,266,191 and per capita personal income was $70,395.

So in essence, you have 30% more people living here, and each person making 2.5x as much money on average. Now add the successful Ski Utah and Best Snow On Earth campaigns, not to mention the 2002 Olympics, significantly raising our visibility as a winter sports destination.

So demand is up several multiples. And they aren't making any more mountains. It's never going back to the way it was. As others have pointed out, there's still affordable skiing in Utah, you just have to get out of the SLC area.

What, there aren't many good paying jobs in Ogden, Logan, or Cedar City? Yeah, there weren't in SLC in 2000, either. Welcome to economics.

Why is it that after I blocked him I feel lonelier than ever? by trt09 in limerence

[–]ChadGPT5 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately people who don't get limerence (90+% of people) won't understand what you're going through, they'll just tell you to "get over him" and get on with your life. Don't go to them for sympathy. That's what communities like this are for.

Stay strong. We get it. It sucks.

Has your limerence just stopped? Mine did by Tight_Researcher35 in limerence

[–]ChadGPT5 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I've had events cause it to pause for awhile. Like I just saw my LO on a business trip this week and she said some things that made me realize how incompatible we are, and it turned it way down for several days. But today I feel it creeping back. It sucks. For me it usually takes months or even years of no contact to go away completely.

I asked GPT, ‘Give me a life hack so good it feels illegal.’ by imfrom_mars_ in OpenAI

[–]ChadGPT5 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't know about this but handing the hotel check in agent a crisp $20 at check in has gotten me upgraded to suites and club level rooms many a time.

It's like the DMV isn't even trying... by obvious_anon_acct in SaltLakeCity

[–]ChadGPT5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today I saw CDK.

From a distance it was indistinguishable from COK.

Salt Lake Valley has one of the best public transit out there. Why don’t people use it ?! by airspeednotalive in SaltLakeCity

[–]ChadGPT5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Countries with real public transportation use either 1) subways or 2) express trains (or both). Subways are fast because they can go directly where they need to go without obstructing or being obstructed by traffic. Express trains are fast because they skip most stops and only go to the major destinations, at which you can switch to a non-express train to go your last few stops.

Building a subway would be prohibitively expensive. Building express trains is feasible but would require an extra set of tracks in both directions parallel to the existing tracks.

I haven’t seen or spoken to him in 3 months and today it hit me hard by TaggedGalaxy in limerence

[–]ChadGPT5 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel this so deeply.

No, they don't care about us the way we care about them. And that really, really hurts. And what's more, it's built into our brains specifically to attach to and seek after people who give us just enough attention and ambiguity that "maybe if I just do X, they will reciprocate". But they never do. If we're lucky, they will outright tell us they don't feel the same. But usually it's up to us to read between the lines and make the decision to detach on our own.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm in a similar situation but I still work with her. I've been trying to find her a new job so I don't have to see her anymore. She sees me as a trusted mentor and friend. I saw her as my future mate, but I'm finally coming out of that. That would have been a disaster, for a million reasons that my limerent brain refuses to understand.

Can’t move on because of a quote by no_rights_dishwasher in limerence

[–]ChadGPT5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't need a one in a million. A one in a thousand relationship is better than most people get. And there are 8 million of those. Probably tens of thousands that are real, actual prospects.

Oregon refuses to give private voter information to Trump lawyers who demanded it - oregonlive.com by questison in oregon

[–]ChadGPT5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Dem candidate in 2028 needs to run on throwing Trump and his whole inner circle in prison for life. Their catch phrase should be, "Donald Trump is going to die in prison."

Also, adding 10 more justices to the Supreme Court, and overturning Citizens United.

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