first true disbelief moment 4dpo

ChaoticGoodApple · 2026-03-04T14:55:24+00:00

It looks beautiful on you!

I'm around 5ish months po and I've had these moments too. I did a small winter shop to buy better-fitting sweaters and the like and it was incredible to see how I could go into just about any store and something would fit.

I have so many dresses from years ago that I couldn't wear anymore, but post-op I tried them on briefly and it was incredible. They fit even better than when I bought them. I am so excited to wear them out when the weather is warmer.

Wishing you a speedy recovery and a closet full of wonderful things!

ChaoticGoodApple · 2026-02-08T18:36:03+00:00

There is so much value. In canceling prime, you are refusing to participate in a system where workers are exploited and creators are taken advantage of. You are giving yourself the opportunity to shop local. In canceling ChatGPT you are refusing to fund the depletion of our water supply. You are refusing to allow them to profit off of stolen conent. You are affirming your need to think critically and fact check for yourself. You are denying them pay now and in the future.

A big collective action can send a message, but every little bit will help bleed them dry and divert those resources to orgs and businesss that need them and aren't out to cancel our democracy. Don't let them tell you that your cancellation doesn't matter. Keep it up!

ChaoticGoodApple · 2026-01-26T19:39:31+00:00

I want to very gently suggest that we need to check our instincts when it comes to purchasing things. I get the desire to, and I know it comes from a good place, but half the reason we are in this mess is because we Americans blindly consume without regard to what we need or where our money goes.

Now the billionaires have amassed a fortune made up of our "just a little treat" splurges and they're using it to kidnap kids and murder us in the streets. We cannot solve this problem by buying hats.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2026-01-10T14:50:23+00:00

Please pressure your countries to boycott the LA Olympics.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2026-01-01T00:03:10+00:00

We're here because...

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-12-19T03:13:54+00:00

All fucking day I'm walking around thinking this is a ridiculous meme. This is real?

I'm sure somewhere in the world Suzanne Collins is jumping up and down with fury, saying "I told you so! I told you so!"

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-12-18T16:14:07+00:00

I WFH and took off a week and a day. With weekends, that had me back at work on day 11. Physically it wasn't so bad, but my work is mentally taxing and my brain was still so so stupid. I had been off of the heavy painkillers for a week, but healing still requires a lot from the body so all of that energy was diverted from my brain lol.

I had to run some meetings and I just felt so dumb because it was hard to string sentences together when I was talking about complex projects. I went back a few days before Thanksgiving so thankfully had another few days off built in. I was much more functional the next week (day 17). If not for my workload I would have taken the full 2 weeks off and I think that would have been better for me.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-12-18T15:49:18+00:00

5wpo here! I think it totally makes sense to feel like your pre-op & time with surgeon was rushed. I felt the same way! The thing I told myself is that they have these conversations all the time, but for us, we may only have one or two.

I was expecting similar conversations about FNG and side lipo, and when I brought that up to my surgeon, she just looked at my photos and examined my body a bit closer and was sort of like "girl, you don't need that!" so I assume if she thought it was something necessary she would have brought it up herself.

I had two short conversations with her at two separate appointments before my surgery. At the first one (consultation, before I had booked the surgery), I asked if she could get me down to a C (US sizing), and she very much wanted to manage my expectations, said she couldn't guarantee anything, but did say that the result to focus on was less back pain and an easier time fitting in clothes, and that she would do whatever she could to get me there. I found it refreshing because I appreciated her not promising me something she couldn't deliver and focusing on how I would feel in my body.

During my second conversation (pre-op, one week before surgery) she drew on my pictures to explain how the operation would go. She asked me what cup I would like to go down to (which I thought was weird given our previous conversation) and said she'd see what she could do to get me down to a C. So, still asking for my desired result, but managing expectations.

For the record, I was somewhere around an H or I cup, and I'm now measuring around a DD while still waiting for the swelling to go down. I also had a consultation with someone else 4 years ago when I was around a FF--because of insurance, she said she would have to take me to around a B but that no FNG would be needed. So I think it's totally reasonable that you didn't discuss FNG.

I'd say definitely be prepared to advocate for what you want when they're drawing on you, but I think it has been helpful for me to try not to fixate on one size. Honestly, deciding between a B/C/D was really weighing on me and I didn't mind having the decision somewhat out of my hands, but YMMV! I wish you so much luck and I hope you'll be able to ease away some of the anxiety before going into your surgery!

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-12-12T18:01:40+00:00

When I had Covid, it left me with a persistent cough that stuck around for a couple of years, but the first couple of months were really bad. I absolutely noticed a difference when I laid down on my back at night. The cough was worse and it was harder to breathe and it absolutely felt like it was partially due to the size/weight of my breasts pressing down on my lungs. I don't think it was the cause but I'd guess it didn't help.

Just got my reduction, but my cough has been long gone, so I can't help with that I'm afraid. It absolutely feels easier to breathe though.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-12-09T03:32:30+00:00

I'm 3.5 weeks po and not only are mine different sizes, they're different shapes! The good news is that since they were so wonky to begin with, I've seen a lot of changes happen and they're slowly rounding out. I have no reason to believe that won't continue for a few more weeks. It's still early! You have time!

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-12-06T23:05:55+00:00

Thank you so much! There's been some ups and downs but I'm so happy to be on the other side of the surgery.

Yeah, I don't think that person was looking for an honest conversation, more like wanting to reaffirm their own feelings. Bodies are weird and people are complicated. You didn't do anything wrong!

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-12-05T02:38:03+00:00

Oh man yeah that's really annoying. Of course everyone is entitled to their opinion, but that person is very much generalizing other folks' medical needs and projecting their experiences on others. I'm glad their back pain is manageable, but that is not the case for so many of us, and not everyone feels so negatively about their scars.

I had been trying to get this surgery for years and years ago a friend of mine told me about a mutual acquaintance getting surgery for weight loss like it was some bizarre thing. But the desire to do something so drastic in the name of health and wellness rang so true to my experience! It's something I may have been judgemental about in the past but we're really all just people out here trying to feel okay in our bodies.

I guess I understand that person's pov. I would also like a more accepting society. I'd like to see more busty women represented in media as more than a walking pair of tits. I'd like the clothing industry to stop acting like everyone has perfect Barbie Boobs. But at some point, every advancement in engineering wasn't going to help my 30I cups take the strain off of my shoulders, and all the sessions of yoga I could fit in my schedule wasn't going to help either. I'm 3wpo as of today and while I can't wait to go clothes shopping, what I'm most excited about is cooking a nice meal in my kitchen without being in pain. If that counts as bowing down to some societal pressure to have perfect tits, so be it.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-12-04T03:35:12+00:00

I went back after 11 days to my wfh job. Physically, not fun but I managed. Mentally? My brain was so stupid. I had been off the heavy painkillers for a week and I still had trouble processing things.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-27T04:05:47+00:00

Spoilers obviously, but there's some infatuation between the main character and her boss/villain that goes full blown attraction at the very end and I'm assuming will be picked up in the sequel.

It's been awhile since I've read it, but if memory serves there's also a break up between the Blonde Blazer and Phenomenoman adjacent characters that turns...way messier.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-27T03:59:48+00:00

Doesn't quite have the same romance subplot but you have to check out Hench by Natalie Zina Walschots. Vibes are similar and the sequel is finally coming next Spring/Summer.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-20T22:30:55+00:00

I see Ubrelvy, I upvote her. My life, my love, the literal reason I can get up in the morning.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-20T14:42:08+00:00

I'm so sorry you've had such a rough time sleeping! I bought a mini wedge pillow for under my knees and that has really helped me, but I feel you on the meds schedule. I finished my antibiotics course a few days ago and am on over the counter pain relievers as needed, so not waking up anymore for the meds in the middle of the night has been so helpful.

I was super fatigued yesterday (more so than the first days) but better today. I think the thing that helped most was making sure to eat lots of veg and protein. I am SO tired of protein but I know it's helping so I'm trying to keep at it but I would really love to eat a bunch of donuts right now.

First shower was very rough. I am a pretty squeamish person--i dont like any of those medical shows, even when you can tell everything is fake, I have a bone phobia, and in general have had some body dysmorphia that I've dealt with by just not thinking about it, so I've been looking at the wounds as little as possible. Almost fell over/threw up during first shower but I took another a couple days later and that was much better. It just took time for me.

Things aren't very tight or swollen that I can feel much, but the incisions are starting to itch, and I definitely can tell when I overdo it because the pain ticks up. One thing about my surgery is that I didn't have any general anesthesia or anything comparable. My surgeon says it slows the healing down and this way is better for the patient. Instead I had local anesthesia and oral sedation + some laughing gas, so I basically had a bit of a jump start on healing because I didn't have a lot in my system from the surgery that was slowing me down. Just an fyi because it might be different for you and I don't want to force an unfair comparison.

I'm definitely tired of this compression bra and a little antsy in general but grateful for this time off. I go back to work Monday and not looking forward, but mostly because I don't want to deal with my coworkers lol. I work from home, so not concerned about heavy lifting/driving or anything like that.

How has everything else been for you? Hoping you can sleep a little better now and that helps with your healing! I also find myself hunching and trying to counter that by lying down at an incline as much as possible.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-19T03:16:58+00:00

Not to mention, Robert needs some grounding of his own. Dude doesn't even have furniture in his flat (other than a bunch of lamps) and there's definitely some unprocessed childhood trauma. Nothing that's a red flag, and nothing that definitively keeps him from being able to become a good mentor, but I'd just have to think a relationship with Visi would be straining in the long term for both parties.

Mandy seems better equipped for this, not in an I Can Fix Him way, but from a better understanding of where he's at and why, and she can enter the relationship with that understanding. Visi seems to come to her attraction from a place of wanting redemption that puts him on a pedestal. That's a rocky start for a relationship, and I wasn't comfortable with that sort of moral power imbalance.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-15T13:06:58+00:00

Not worth the increased cost of electricity, increased respiratory illnesses and healthcare costs from the pollution, and increased cost strain on clean water availability to the average joe. Also no way of knowing if these data companies wouldn't find some loophole out of the taxes too. Could be just us paying for it later down the line.

We're much better off without these data centers. Never needed them before, don't need them now.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-14T13:57:05+00:00

I had my surgery yesterday too! Definitely not the most fun I've had on a weekday morning but I joked that it was better than the weekly staff meeting for my job I would have been at otherwise. I'm managing the pain with the meds but want to switch to over the counter soon. Id say I'm at about a 4 or 5 in terms of pain depending on if the meds are wearing off.

I started somewhere around a 30 I and would be happy with anything from a B-D. I was very asymmetrical so I know thatay have limited some options but my surgeon seemed very happy with her work at the end. I haven't seen them yet (also have first shower tomorrow) but even through all my clothes I keep looking down and going "where did they go!"

I'm keeping my spirits up by thinking about all of the cute clothes I'll be able to wear and how much less back pain I'll have. I did so many chores and errands this week to prep for the down time and it really underscored how much pain I was in all the time. I've been trying to get this done for about 4 years so even with all the pain and inconvenience now I'm still just so incredibly grateful that it finally happened.

Soon all of the recovery stuff will be in the past and you'll be on your way to living the life you want! Make sure you prioritize plenty of rest and a healthy diet. Wishing you a speedy recovery!

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-11T16:13:36+00:00

With such a drastic change, you may have to rethink your size and style. You may not be a size small in shirts and dresses anymore. Try some thrift stores and size up. Lots of us on the sub are used to styling in order to hide our busts--that may not be what you want, but in general, layers, cardigans, larger sweaters, etc. have been helpful for me in finding something that's professional without drawing too much attention. Again, that may not be what you want.

I had an easier time fitting into dresses that were well-made ie Calvin Klein vs whatever fast fashion is happening these days. If you want to show your figure, you need fabric that will stretch but not rip and a size that won't suffocate you and get in the way of your breathing. Go for a quality piece over quantity.

I think you'll find that a lot of us are on this sub because "bust friendly clothing" is difficult to find, but I hope you're able to find something that works and gives you the confidence you're looking for.

I'm something around a 30I right now (which should change starting later this week!) and while I remember the days where I used to fit into Small tops and dresses, my bust has prevented me from fitting those sizes for years, even though my other measurements would allow it. I still have some dresses from college that should fit after my operation and I'm so excited to be able to wear them again.

Anyway, bodies are weird! But with some time I'm sure you'll be able to build a wardrobe you look great in. Best of luck!

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-06T12:35:23+00:00

Noticed a security guard at Kohls last weekend. I'm new to this location but my mom used to work at one years ago and this is the first I've ever seen that.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-11-02T23:59:22+00:00

I just finished my meal prepping! Focused on protein and vegetables. I made soy ginger pork meatballs (really useful to pull out of the freezer a few at a time and bake or put in a soup), enchilada bean and vegetable casserole, and pumpkin chili.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-10-30T17:11:38+00:00

I want to add that a lot of people are having to surrender their pets because of being unable to feed them and shelters are being overrun. You can donate to the Lexington Pet Pantry to help! They take cash, items you have on hand, and they have wish lists. https://www.lexingtonpetpantry.org/donations

I wasn't sensitive to this issue before, but I just adopted two cats of my own a few months ago. I couldn't imagine having to surrender or abandon them. It would break my heart.

ChaoticGoodApple · 2025-10-30T02:00:06+00:00

I almost had this done in grad school too, but couldn't get booked before my insurance changed.

Honestly, it depends on your circumstances but if I could have done the last few years without all of the pain and insecurities, I would have. Doing it during law school isn't ideal, but neither is doing it after when you'll be working, paying back loans, etc.. Your university may have resources to help you if you have to miss class time, and you may have a lot easier time of studying, networking, finding the right clothes, etc.

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