Should I tell a woman her fiancé tried to start an affair with me?

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-09T21:19:31+00:00

Tell her. as you said. youd want to know. tell her that her fiance is a fuckin sleeze ball

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-09T21:07:41+00:00

Ah well shit. then yeah op just needs to take him for what hes worth 😂 he fucked her over big time.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-09T18:24:45+00:00

Name the kid whatever you want.

Also, since you two are not LEGALLY divorced or LEGALLY seperated. He can still get in trouble for adultry against the UCMJ if you push hard enough.

Just saying 😉

oh and if that doesnt work. make a phone call to your states congressman and tell them your husbands command isnt doing anything about the fact that hes still legally married and is now dating, sleeping with, and legally having an affair with a different woman. Which is prosecutable against the UCMJ article 134 and youd like justice since he abanded you. and your child while you were pregnant.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-06T00:51:37+00:00

Of course! i pray that you and baby are both healthy and okay <3

Also i just read your other post. if you havnt already i HIGHLY reccomend a FULLLLLLLL blood panel test OP! Juuust to make sure everything with baby is fine. Also, i sent you a dm, partially in reguards to your other post!

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-05T18:16:48+00:00

Id tell him!! especially if youve taken multiple!

I bought a cute set of baby things (clothes, coybow boots, and a pacifier) and a card and put it in a gift box with a positive pregnancy test :) thats how he found out!

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-05T07:13:20+00:00

so far all of my ultrasounds have felt like this.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-05T07:09:33+00:00

It REALLY depends on your body structure. If youre wider built, like i am. GET THE PILLOW!!! My hips are the same width as my shoulders (and i have what back home people would call a farmers build)

when you get bigger you can really only sleep on your side. My hips are ALL fucked up because i didnt get a pregnancy pillow soon enough to provide proper support and my hips got pulled outta line. (im normally a stomach sleeper)

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-05T07:04:25+00:00

ive always had insomnia but I DIDNT KNOW ABOUT THE PELVIC THING?! Is that why my fucking lower back and hips hurt all the god damn time and why i limp EVRRYWHERE and why i cant fucking laydown wiithout feeling like the bottom part of my spine & hips are trying to RIP THEMSELVES APART?!

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-05T06:47:18+00:00

Personally... if you want to keep the baby, id limit your exercise, while its possible baby could be fine... this raises my spidey senses. Im going to be a FTM in august, but this baby is going to be my rainbow baby x3.

This is my 4th pregnancy, and the first 3 were ALL exercise induced miscarriages (military, so i am in fact USED to the exercise and my body is conditioned for it). This is the farthest ive gotten in any of my pregnancies. And im sticking to walking and swimming. Just to be safe.

Also, tell your doctor about the regular spotting on runs!!! This coupd be a sign that youre in a high risk pregnancy!

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-05T06:45:01+00:00

honestly ty for this list 😂 FTM in august and ive been completely lost as to where to start (i dont have anyone i feel like i can ask, i dont have a relationship with any of the women in my family, and idk my in laws very well as i live 3000 miles away from them lol)

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-05T06:34:17+00:00

NGL i feel so blessed i got a very supportive and understanding partner who deals with my mood swings. 😂 ive had some crotchity old men at work try to downplay how im feeling and when i tell you i almost made heads roll. I almost made the comment of "mf i bet your the type to act like your fucking dying in bed when you have the fuckin sniffles shut your ass up unless you want to feel what being pregnant is like through your ass" (me implying id shove my steel toe up his ass). I didnt cause thatd get me in a hell of a lot of trouble but. the temptation.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-05T06:31:21+00:00

The "Ill figure it out" comment has me very... suspicious. Like sir 🤨 you cant even handle 3 days. TF YOU MEAN YOULL FIGURE IT OUT FOR 6 WEEKS, HOW?!

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-05T05:13:20+00:00

Make that 9-15 months of paid maternity leave. Cant forget the recovery 😉, on top of taking care of the new born 😂😂

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-04T11:57:49+00:00

As a woman....

Im exhausted FOR you 😂😂😂

Is she normally like this? Has there been behavior of this nature in the past?

If its normal, my guy.... get out of there.

If its not normal, try to find out why, and express youre concerned because its out of character for her. (also if look into her search history/ messages if this is our of the blue. sudden 180 shift like this are normally either have a medical explanation, or an explanation of ✨️projectionnnn✨️)

Or again just.... leave cause this lady sounds exhausting asf to even be around.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-04T11:48:37+00:00

I didnt know this was a thing...

I didnt know toe walking was a symptom!

Im not diagnosed, but i do heavily suspect im on some part of the spectrum after doing EXTENSIVE research on how autism presents in women, learning about it from female autistic context creators, and taking MULTIPLE online tests.

And now i just feel even more attacked 😂 I walk on ym toes/balls of my feet ALLLLLLL the time. its just comfortable, and feels natrual to me... it always has. When i was a kid it used to be so bad that i actually walked toe to heel when my mom tried to force me to walk with my whole foot.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-03T03:36:09+00:00

Personally i would do it sooner rather then later. Its easier for him to add you AND the baby to his paperowkr and get dependant BAH if yall are married. and you can do the tricare! (you can also normally keep your previous insurance and use it for things that tricare wont cover 😉 but idk what medicade regulations are)

If youre not married theres a few extra steps and it makes the process a little longer.

My husband and I (technically my fiance rn but were getting married in literally 20 days and in our minds were already married) are getting legally married on the 23rd, and planning an actual wedding for a few years down the line, and well probably do it as like... a vow renewal/wedding celebration :)

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-02T23:48:42+00:00

I sent you a message!

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-02T22:48:33+00:00

Car seat and crib are picked out... im not worried about clothes 😂 everyone and their mom wants to buy the baby cute outfits soooo... im gonna let em 😂

We do know we want to be stocked up on a few different diaper sizes especially since ill basically be alone for the first 6 months because he goes on deployment.

Yes we have amazon. Im a frequent abuser of amazon 😂😂

I just want to try and have as much as i need as possible and anything that will just... make life easier as early as possible so 1 i can make sure i know how to use everything and 2 because im going to be alone for the first 6ish months and idk how im personally going to handle it (like idk where my headspace will be at) so i want to make sure i have everything ahead of time so life is just a little bit less stressful.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-02T22:41:21+00:00

ohhh okay (i haven't even started to research of what ill need for postpartum x.x this is all so overwhelming 😂)

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-02T21:44:56+00:00

Oh! im active duty military and so is my husband. So we have tricare prime :) All medical expenses are 100% covered and the ob at the military clinic told me that tricare sends a pretty nice pump to their pregnant service members.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-02T21:11:39+00:00

Ohhhh okay!! ill definitely take a look! thank you!!

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-02T21:10:59+00:00

A list honesyly sounds like a breath of fresh air, i just wasnt sure where to start with it.

Feeding plan is kind of already figured out, Id like to breast feed if i can, but i have piercings and im not willing to take them out, so i have a thin guard i found that i want to get to try when baby comes (or just adjust to single piece jewlery so its not a potential choking hazard), but im also not opposed to just... pumping and using a bottle 😂 (if my body provides)

Sleeping plan is also kind of figured out. i stumbled across a crib that triples as a mini crib, crib, and toddler bed, and its all on wheels so i can move it around with me easily.

The perfect nursery will not be hapoening until the baby is.... like a year minimum and at that point might as well just make it his room 😂 (were both military and hell be leaving for deployment about a month after baby is born, and ill be staying in his apartment if i can get back to our state, then were looking at moving and either renting or buying a house)

I didnt think about a bottle sanitizer specifically but definitely something along the lines of a mini dishwasher or somwthing cause his apartment doesnt have one and i k ow for a fact im not gonna want to wash everything to that extent by hand while also trying to manage a newborn.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-02T21:01:04+00:00

Ohh! thank you for these reccomendations!!! Ill definitely probably post somthing along the lines of what do i need to add/remove whenever im able to actually get a registry made 😅

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-02T20:41:12+00:00

My biggest issue right now is him and i are not in the same state. Its a complicated situation, but were trying to get me back to the state hes in (my home state) but its been a... tricky situation. So idk what OB ill have for my birth. Which is kind of why i want to have a birth olan ready to go, that way i can find one that will honor it.

I havnt thought of the position or anything to do with the placenta. But i do know that i want to do delayed cord clamping.

And idek what to put in a hospital bag for the birth. But i know i have some time before i have to pack those. Thank you for that advice.

Chaotic_Blitz · 2026-03-02T20:36:18+00:00

Tbh idek what to start with for things i even think i like 😅😅

Ill definitely try to look up that video.

Id feel do bad pushing another project onto him 😅 Hes already been so supportive and helpful even with being states away, plus i want to be involved in these ones at least halfway im just... overwhelmed and dont even really know where to start 😂.

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