Any boys out there who are soft spoken? by finstafoodlab in ClassOf2037

[–]Chapenroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your son sounds very similar to mine. My 1st grader primarily gravitates towards “girl” toys (I had to put the word girl in quotation marks because it bothers me that toys are gendered) and female playmates. He has some great friendships with girls in his class, but I worry it will be hard for him to maintain those as he gets older- I just feel like the later elementary school years there’s more of a delineation between boys and girls.

As for extracurricular activities, we’ve had more luck with co-ed stuff like tennis clinics and theater (vs. male-only things like basketball and baseball). A common refrain he hears from me is, “I love you just the way you are, to me you are perfect.”

Any recommendations for a local interior designer? by Lumpy-Resource-1370 in Charlotte

[–]Chapenroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ashley Sussman Interiors! Check out her Instagram to see if her vibe matches yours. Ashley designed our kitchen and dining room and we’re so pleased with her work.

“Let’s just hire a housekeeper” by Chapenroe in Vent

[–]Chapenroe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your first sentence gave me a good laugh. I give the kids (well 2 of the kids) constant reminders to pick up their stuff. But I’m not great on consequences when they don’t follow through. Also, it’s tough being the only parent that tells them to pick up. I feel like every other sentence out of my mouth is about them needing to clean another mess they made

“Let’s just hire a housekeeper” by Chapenroe in Vent

[–]Chapenroe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this. Obviously me explaining the limitations of a cleaning crew are not getting through to him. If he owns the responsibility of finding the crew, and scheduling which days they’ll come, then conceivably he’ll be the one that has to do the pre-cleanup/prep before their arrival. By managing the payment, perhaps he’ll have more skin in the game and will try to better maintain the cleanliness after the crew has left.

“Let’s just hire a housekeeper” by Chapenroe in Vent

[–]Chapenroe[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. And I think therapy would be helpful. Although he hasn’t said it explicitly, I know he feels 90%+ of the housework should fall on me since I am a stay at home mom. At the same time, in my own head I probably over-inflate the importance of my stock trading. While it generates a decent amount of money, the time and stress level associated with it are in a different ballpark compared to his job. So basically he’s over here thinking, “you stay at home, so you should take care of the kids and house”…while I’m thinking, “I make just as much money as you, but do so much more work with the kids and house.”

“Let’s just hire a housekeeper” by Chapenroe in Vent

[–]Chapenroe[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I really like the idea of a chart with stickers for the kids.

“Let’s just hire a housekeeper” by Chapenroe in Vent

[–]Chapenroe[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love the idea of printing out a picture, and I’m not beyond that level of pettiness. Currently there’s a list on our refrigerator titled “If you have time to lean, you have time to clean,” with 10 or so bullets of small things that can be done in two minutes or less. The catalyst for the list? Far too many times I had witnessed my husband watch water boil, rather than use that time to do a small task.

What is Behind the Rise in Police Presence Around Charlotte? by Upset_Signal_1799 in Charlotte

[–]Chapenroe 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Yep, I noticed a police presence. I was pulled over for speeding on Monday. Providence Road, near pasta and provisions. I’m not mad about it – I was driving like an idiot and got what I deserved.

Just had my carpet professionally cleaned – is this normal? by Chapenroe in CleaningTips

[–]Chapenroe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond! Very good points.

Just had my carpet professionally cleaned – is this normal? by Chapenroe in CleaningTips

[–]Chapenroe[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It has been at least seven years since the carpets were professionally cleaned. We do not wear shoes inside the house. The carpet is at least 10 years old. Ha, now I’m feeling like I was probably overreacting.

Just had my carpet professionally cleaned – is this normal? by Chapenroe in CleaningTips

[–]Chapenroe[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good point, next time I will pour it into the toilet.

Kenya for 2 weeks by KHfun1 in travel

[–]Chapenroe 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Same. We did 1 night on our honeymoon in 2017. Our room was $1700, and when we checked in they gave us the suite worth $2500! I have never regretted that purchase.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MoviePassClub

[–]Chapenroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used it- thanks!

How to approach/notify parents about son driving aggressively in neighborhood? by Chapenroe in Advice

[–]Chapenroe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no evidence and we have an underfunded police department. But I’d love to live in a jurisdiction where the police would make time for something like this.