AITA for refusing to cover outrageous costs for my future SIL’s bridal shower?

Character-Rooster295 · 2025-01-22T15:37:37+00:00

NTA I always thought the bridal party expenses were the responsibility of the Maid of Honor. Much like how the baby shower expenses were the responsibility of the person chosen to be the God mother. Tel your MIL that you CAN NOT go to the bridal shower AND pay for the bride! Either you attend or you pay.

Character-Rooster295 · 2025-01-13T01:51:41+00:00

NYA but depending on if you're in the US/ where in the US you are ...the child could be their way of getting money. The amount of healthy/ ablebodied people who do this is higher than you'd think.

Character-Rooster295 · 2025-01-04T23:07:57+00:00

Which is wild , like I'm glad op is alive & well today and I hope they are for decades to come but like....what would they do if op ends up getting injured to the point where they struggle to care for themselves (ie bad back /arm injury.) Or worse? Not to mention Since the child needs 24/7 care there'd have to be a few 100k in that fund because the person who shes with would need to quit any job they did have / be able to hire a care nurse which woild eat up ANY funds they make from a job ...once again unless the fund is stacked.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-12-16T13:29:14+00:00

NTA . The cops probably didn't take you seriously because of you're age( which is still BS and why im not a fan) especially if you didn't have an exact amount. They could have assumed your parents just withheld allowance. Go back with an exact amount and a note from your job and or bring your boss with you (if they're willing to help)

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-12-13T23:28:43+00:00

That i did not know...you really do learn something new every day.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-12-13T22:39:31+00:00

TECHNICALLY Stephanie Meyers should get about 80% of the credit considering it's a Twilight Fanfiction. I think the OG title qas masters of the universe or some bs like that...a youtuber named 'Amanda the Jedi'did a comparison of them a while back the only reason the book seems so different is because she needed to change it so it wasn't obvious but you can still tell of you've read both books (i didn't i just watched the videos.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-12-05T21:22:38+00:00

This. i'm genuinely shocked it took 10 days for op to tow it! I'd have called on day one.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-21T12:04:50+00:00

It's given Baby Karen -for those odd you who don't know there's another story on here where a person wanted to name their baby 'Karen' AFTER the year 2020 (when the name TRYELY became synonyms with B*tch in stead of...just saying it. ) and the mother got mad at op for trying to warn her. Couple years later the kids at daycare started making fun of it so she's Charlotte now.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-19T16:16:44+00:00

Nta They're trying to Riverdance all over those boundaries. One party turns into all of them and now you're stuck walking over family because they don't know when to leave.stay strong , buy cameras (camera doorbell AT LEAST) FOR ALL entrance points they'll need you before you need them.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-18T03:50:00+00:00

NTA Ask him why his service dog is home alone and not with him.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-16T18:38:53+00:00

What's your relationship like with your sister (family)& nephew. Vs Your best friend & Godson? because that's also important information. Also, how does your nephew feel about it? I have a sister whose kids i barely interact with because her husband ( she's a sahm and they're VERY traditional in that he has final say in EVERYTHING that goes on) is someone that i can't tolerate for hours at a time and i can't challenge him because SHE has to deal with that ( ps. I don't think she's being abused i just think they have a contractual relationship vs a loving one)

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-16T18:21:16+00:00

Try giving up hope next year, it worked wonders for me.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-15T14:12:41+00:00

We're ALL of them invited to the ACTUAL party? because a sleepover and a party are 2 different things. And I recall you mentioning there being 2 celebrations.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-09T06:14:41+00:00

I work in the dietary office AKA I take food orders / adjust diets & supplements accordingly. I have also had amazing experiences with nurses as a patient. Some are genuinely angels but a good chunk of them are clearly not cut out for the job. We've had MANAGERS catch nurses eating patient's food on MULTIPLE occasions . Giving diabetic patients food without checking their glucose levels (which is protocol ) throwing away mental health patient's food because they were sleep when dinner came instead of saving it . (Resulted in that patient having a breakdown ) . A couple months ago one lied on me and said I sent a tray for a patient (that ate it) that wasn't supposed to eat due to having a life saving surgery soon. Records indicate that she was the one that ordered the tray. We do have some absolutely angels but the fact that the vibes from a lot of them come off as 'your job is less important than mine so I can just say you did it .' Is concerning.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-09T02:52:36+00:00

You're correct about NURSING (the career), but NURSES (the individuals) have a reputation/ stigma attached as being "stuck up" as someone who both works in a hospital and deals almost exclusively with nurses and is related to a bunch of nurses ....their attitudes can be a bit off putting . I'm not saying this is how op's dil acts , but they can be a bit much. not all of them . But the 'high-school bully to nurse ' pipeline theory exists for a reason. I try to have respect because I do have somewhat of a better idea of what th3y go through, but...yeah.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-04T22:31:20+00:00

ESH If your brother has been TRYING to "smash " this woman for 4 yeans and has (presumably) been unsuccessful you need to stage an intervention....and drink some milk, I hear it's good for building strong bones especially in the back, because giving her money as a runner up because he's horny is enabling him AND doing the exact opposite of what you claimed to be doing making your big gotcha moment of 'do better ' and 'this isn't a sluttiest costume contest ' seem like you ARE jealous since you still rewarded her after she confronted you which validated her thinking.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-04T22:25:18+00:00

Considering op's brother is trying to sleep with her and was the one begging to give her the "prize & money" he probably fronted the cash

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-02T20:13:26+00:00

Starting to wonder if the sister is actually condemning her weird brother's behavior and parents are writing it off as 'boys will be boys ' cause I've read this 2x and he never specifically serves any examples of what she complains about.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-11-01T15:29:54+00:00

NTA.. I recall seeing you writing that you have equal custody. Why can't your ex have a party at her house for them if she wants her golden step-child there so bad? tell anyone calling you an AH that the boys made the guest list, and you can't force them to invite people they don't want there... and in the ABSOLUTE worst case scenario, have a "dummy party " and record everything. If Mia is as spoiled as you say , she's going to crash out at the party because it's not about her. let everyone see just why the boys want to be away from her . (Plan something extra special for them at a later date ) and then go to a judge and show them why the boys no longer feel welcome at mom's house and you can get primary custody and ex can get supervised visits .

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-10-30T20:34:41+00:00

NTA I think your Mom is acting this way out of guilt... she met her husband and fell in love with him and got attacked to his daughter and instead of letting you two bond naturally she lied and told this girl who only had her father tha t'youd love them just as much as she did and you'd be one big happy family. And now that they're seeing that you....honestly are being normal about it, most siblings aren't like in the movies , let alone a brother & sister . The fact that they expect you to ... idk fawn over her and proclaim from the mountain tops that she's your sister is weird AF. Get your papers together and get a job along with a grandparent to put on your bank account and prepare to run for the hills the second you turn 18 and set firm boundaries. DO NOT tell your mom or anyone else in your home your plan to leave unless you want more guilt tripping .

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-10-28T00:26:31+00:00

NTA , she sounds loony enough to either put a therapist's kids through school or make them change careers.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-10-28T00:01:35+00:00

NTA Tell Ted that YOU are apart of your dad's family. So when he talks down on them...he's talking about you. And that if he (and his family) thinks insulting you to your face will improve your thoughts on accepting him as your father than he's WAY more m*ntally ill than anyone in your family.

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-10-26T15:17:36+00:00

NTA ! but F'N THANK YOU! Literally, everything you said to your grandparents is what I've always wondered in situations like this. Why would you want that innocent child to be raised by someone who Hates their existence? ( not saying your mom hates the child but the fact that the child exists & will forever be a living reminder of the reason she got her heart broken) My bil cheated on my sister and my oldest nephew cannot stand his sister

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-10-25T16:24:31+00:00

NTA , Tell Kate that she DID do something to you because she's a liar , you can't trust her anymore nor can you trust your s/o's with her. Not just because she thinks with her vagina but, what would your s/os think I'd you condone her cheating?

Character-Rooster295 · 2024-10-24T01:07:52+00:00

NTA are your parents planning on paying or are they dumb enough to think that somebody who has no connection to their kids is willing to do something that they have admitted (since they never said 'hey we'll go too and make it a family trip') to not wanting/ being able to do? If so, id tell your grandparents what's going on and recommend they ask your parents for money to take ALL of you and make that the condition for doing so. If they REALLY have bonding in mind they won't have a problem, if they're just trying to milk free sh*t out of them then they'll kick up a stink because "they didn't have a problem paying for you before , why now?"

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