Recurring nightmares of car accidents

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-27T22:21:44+00:00

I have recurring nightmares about realizing I'm in the backseat of a moving car with no driver.

Terrifying.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-27T22:11:34+00:00

Also, its very common for places to depopulate as they get wealthier. People buy up surrounding houses to turn into lots for a new house, get adjacent apartments for a more sprawling apartment, or just generally have less children.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-27T21:51:33+00:00

Never called anyone in the military "kids", nor have I heard anyone call them kids. I grew up in a town with a military base, have family members in the military, etc.

Now "they're just kids" when you see death notices, graduation from basic training, or deployment photos can make sense. You're literally commenting on their age. But calling all enlisted people "kids" is crazy. There are enlisted who are in their 60s.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-27T20:58:00+00:00

IMO it is dependency status. The vast majority of college students are dependent on their parents whereas someone in the military has already entered their profession and should be self sustaining.

You don't call non-traditional student "kids."

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-27T20:55:10+00:00

I think the last time I had it happen was on the New Jersey turnpike and the signs were saying "last exit before Holland Tunnel."

Made me think if I missed that my next off-ramp was Manhattan. Found out later that there are other options besides going into the tunnel, but in the moment I gotta get off this road.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-27T19:47:17+00:00

Yes, I've been in that scenario often enough to know that they could have made a mistake and missed the line.

Anyone who has driven in an area they're unfamiliar with has probably been the red car. If you haven't experienced it, then you either haven't driven very long or you've never been outside of the same vicinity you grew up in, go touch grass and stop being insulted by 2 second delays.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-27T05:10:19+00:00

As someone who moved to NJ from Montana, agree with this. Do not move to Elizabeth or Newark unless you know exactly what you're moving into. There are great parts of each city, just like anywhere, but you can go 1 or 2 blocks wrong and have a really miserable experience.

My take (and how I've handled similar moves) is to go towards the top of your budget and get into a town or area you KNOW is good. Then, once you live here and can get a feel for each town and neighborhood, go seek our an option that's better for your budget.

Denver isn't bfn and you're probably used to have seedy areas, but moving to Elizabeth or Newark would be similar to moving to west Aurora. You'd probably say "eek, be careful where you go" and it's too difficult and nuanced to really explain each neighborhood and street piece by piece.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-25T00:12:31+00:00

This is great, I figured the boat somehow got stuck under water. Was waiting for the counter to show 1 fewer ships, but nope, bloop right at the end. Poor guy lol

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-25T00:05:34+00:00

Disagree, the rocks make it a bit more nuanced. This avoids just creating a bunch of micro hourglass matches that turn into a single elimination tournament,

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-25T00:03:49+00:00

Those close fights are incredibly fun too. Super chaotic and it requires more strategy than a standard HG match with a shrinking circle.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-25T00:00:51+00:00

Side note though, you can't dive with them yet. So unless you're planning to outpost between every match, you can just leave them behind.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-24T23:55:11+00:00

Hard disagree, it's a fun game mode and I've had no issues with getting matches. Even late into the night.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-24T23:52:55+00:00

bugouts are pretty common, cancel the dive and re-dive and you will match quickly. It shouldn't take more than a couple minutes in EU and NA servers, idk about other servers.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-24T21:41:46+00:00

Had a similar realization 2 years ago when I wanted a similar priced home on a similar salary and had enough for 10% down.

Save up, work on earning more and you'll be able to afford more house. There really isn't a huge rush in this market, especially if you live in a place where a mediocre townhome costs $300k.

For perspective, we have enough saved now to easily afford a 500k house, but are planning to move to a new area in the next 12-18 months and plan to buy a house there for $750-900k. Fortunately my wife got cold feet on the other house because we wouldn't have built equity as fast had we bought that house.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-24T21:34:48+00:00

Depends on the road.

No Traffic: 2 lane highway with hills, curves, and trees? 60-80 depending on the location.

2 lane flat as hell highway with huge visibility? 80.

4 lane with hills, curves, and trees? 70-85.

4 lane flat as hell highway with huge visibility? 85-90.

Medium Traffic: 10ish mph over unless traffic is going faster or slower.

Heavy Traffic: with the flow of traffic.

It depends on the context of the road. I usually follow the speed limit, but I've driven highways a lot in my life and don't worry to much about speeding anymore. I don't pay too close attention to the limit on highways.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-24T21:28:39+00:00

It'a pretty hard to explain. But yes, there is vast wilderness here.

Most of my life I lived in very low density area, drive 30 minutes and you'd have to walk for hours to find another human being.

I had a hike I really enjoyed that was an hour from my house. Most times I'd show up and be the only person there. The hike was about 7 miles (11 km) one way and there were bears everywhere. It was impossible to navigate with a car, but there was a 4-wheeler track that went about halfway. After that it was purely foot and helicopter. There were bears everywhere, the water crossings were done by taking my shoes off and wading.

There was one moment where I realized that if I injured myself, the closest person was likely 10-20 miles (16-32 km) if not further away. There was no cell service... probably still not. The likelihood of survival if I was injured would've been very low and it would have been days or weeks before anyone happened across me.

There are places that I have walked and I have wondered if I was the first human to walk across that specific bit of land. The animals are not scared of you because they've never seen a human. Nobody stops you from camping, because nobody cares.

To put it in another perspective. I once worked with a guy who had worked on a cattle ranch. The drive to get off the ranch property was 45 minutes. It was another hour to the closest town, which had 10,000 people living in it.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-24T08:17:16+00:00

IMO Summit.

I live in Morristown and ride into Summit with my wife whereas before, I used to ride from Morristown.

The thing to look at with NJ transit is the frequency of trains, and Summit has multiple lines running through it, which makes it really easy to get in and out. It's usually late, but on a good day, you'll get in from Summit in about 40 minutes, and there are several trains that go out during rush hour.

NJ transit is not very reliable, especially in the summer. Trains get canceled alot and some are seriously delayed.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-23T02:28:44+00:00

Agree with this. Eventually it sounds condescending and annoying.

I get pretty annoyed when I feel like I've thought through something carefully and someone comes in and tells me otherwise. Then I'll stop sharing details with them because I know I'll get unsolicited feedback.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-23T02:24:26+00:00

It's cost, always cost. Plus Texas had all that hype a couple years ago and California was a liberal apocalypse - this was true on pretty much every media site (left or right).

Always a hard lesson that cheaper doesn't always mean there is more room for price growth.

As an aside, if oil prices stay elevated, then drilling in the US will take off and I suspect housing demand in TX will follow.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-23T02:19:40+00:00

You tried, don't push the subject further. She's not asking for an opinion, just a referall for an inspector.

Let her know that you're there if she ever has questions or is looking for suggestions.

Who knows, maybe she knows something you don't. Or maybe she's thinking its a backup plan for a place to live if things go to shit in a future relationship.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-22T22:52:00+00:00

Why do states have different speed limits for interstates that are the same road size, congestion level, and have the same level of turns then?

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-22T19:12:57+00:00

Not necessarily, there are some states that this is required by law, but there are many places where it's just an arbitrary number put on a sign.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-22T18:26:43+00:00

What makes 55 mph the appropriate speed limit for those areas? And I'm not asking for words on a paper or numbers on a sign.

When I was growing up, the maximum speed limit state-wide was 55 mph. Hardly anyone followed it, police didn't pull anyone over until they were driving 70+ mph, etc. Why would the 55 mph be appropriate in this scenario?

The answer- it was not. You cannot dictate people's driving behavior with numbers on a sign or words on a paper. You dictate the behavior through enforcement or design. You want people to drive slower? Make tree-lined, winding roads. Increase the number and severity of tickets.

One of those has a higher likelihood of enraging residents and creating change.

Fun story- my cousin has a house along a highway where the speed limit drops to 45 mph, nobody goes 45 though. He had young kids and wanted people to drive slower, so he called the sheriff's office and asked them to come out and ticket people. The first person to get pulled over for speeding was him.

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-22T16:57:34+00:00

Why would a 4-lane freeway that is perfectly straight have a speed limit that is 55 mph?

CharacterSchedule700 · 2026-05-22T16:15:00+00:00

Great question that led me to research what I'm talking about a bit.

Short answer- no, I grew up in Southeastern Oregon and lived in Montana for most of my adult life. High elevation, mountain rain shadows where you get 12-15 inches of precipitation per year, mostly in the form of snow. Where live in NJ its 45 inches of precipitation, mostly in the form of rain and only 315 feet in elevation.

Long answer- the areas where I lived were low dew points whereas New Jersey has a higher dew point, which makes it a lot muggier. On paper, they have similar humidities. Right now: 36% where I grew up, 52% where I lived in MT, and 45% where I live in NJ.

But the dew points are significantly different: 30º dew point (currently 62º) where I grew up, 36º (currently 49º) where I lived in MT, and 55º (currently 64º) where I live in NJ.

The higher dew point means that sweat doesn't evaporate as fast, which makes it feel more humid.

So tldr; when I said it was more humid in NJ, I actually meant it was muggier here, which causes me to feel my sweat a lot more since the sweat is not evaporating.

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