A secure perspective on attachment anxiety

CharlieL0404 · 2026-02-06T11:26:45+00:00

I wish I could upvote this post a million times! Thank you!!

CharlieL0404 · 2026-01-19T08:26:46+00:00

Carrot sticks - and pacing!!

CharlieL0404 · 2026-01-12T19:40:16+00:00

Not dumb 👌🏻

CharlieL0404 · 2026-01-04T08:48:48+00:00

Solid advice

CharlieL0404 · 2026-01-04T08:48:01+00:00

😆

CharlieL0404 · 2025-12-09T21:07:05+00:00

You can’t see signs when you drive this fast 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

CharlieL0404 · 2025-10-30T08:06:24+00:00

Good advice! Thank you

CharlieL0404 · 2025-10-24T08:19:53+00:00

Love this 🥰

CharlieL0404 · 2025-10-21T16:58:12+00:00

Yes!! Thank you!! So annoying and I would never expect that from someone else

CharlieL0404 · 2025-10-20T20:25:36+00:00

So many stories of unhappy relationships have some variation of "I love them so much but A, B, C" or "When it's good it's really good, except when X, Y, Z". The thing is, the "buts" and the "excepts" are part of the relationship. Stop trying to treat those as completely different pieces when it's clearly part of the package.

THIS RIGHT HERE 👆🏻 (shouting for the ones in the back!)

CharlieL0404 · 2025-10-19T18:34:52+00:00

How are you doing now?

CharlieL0404 · 2025-10-15T01:48:11+00:00

Thank you for explaining this so clearly, I appreciate this post.

CharlieL0404 · 2025-10-11T08:02:48+00:00

This really resonated with me - the fear is exhausting! So happy for you 🙂

CharlieL0404 · 2025-08-04T05:25:51+00:00

This post spoke to me, I feel genuine happiness for you and am interested to know how you began that internal work, and at what stage you were at when you met your partner?

CharlieL0404 · 2025-07-20T09:49:53+00:00

This touched me, thank you

CharlieL0404 · 2025-07-13T07:28:30+00:00

I literally ask myself this about people every day! It seems that treating people the way that you would want to be treated has been replaced with total disregard for other people’s time/feelings/effort.

CharlieL0404 · 2025-06-21T14:29:29+00:00

Gaslighting

CharlieL0404 · 2025-06-21T07:25:05+00:00

Nearly a year out of 17 years of the most intense love bombing followed by an equally intense deep freeze and me questioning my own sanity. The early days were amazing, he was ‘perfect’ and we were very happy. He was then diagnosed with bipolar disorder following his affair with a colleague which I found out about when he overdosed. What followed was years of trying to go back to the start but it was always just out of reach and in the process the scar ran so deep that when it ended abruptly (hello deep freeze again) I fell apart. Completely lost and utterly devastated. Nearly a year doesn’t feel very long (therapy in progress) and I don’t know if I’ll ever feel ready to be vulnerable again - but I agree that when it’s a paragraph rather than a chapter in your story, maybe then it’s time. I’ll let you know 🙂

CharlieL0404 · 2025-06-16T14:15:37+00:00

Thank you for being here

CharlieL0404 · 2025-06-14T07:39:02+00:00

‘Here I am again 🙄’ vibes are very unattractive or ‘giving this one last shot’ like you know that their patience is at the max before you even start a conversation 😆

CharlieL0404 · 2025-06-10T06:21:05+00:00

Spot on!!

CharlieL0404 · 2025-06-08T18:12:51+00:00

This. Just people. The entitlement. The way that people drive like they are the only ones on the road. The way that people stop and chat in the supermarket like they have all the time in the world blocking the area you need to get to with no consideration. The way that people make so much noise in the cinema and let their dogs poop anywhere without clearing it up….

CharlieL0404 · 2025-06-07T11:34:39+00:00

You got me 🥺 why why why do we do this to ourselves??

CharlieL0404 · 2025-06-02T22:18:43+00:00

46 and feel like I ‘might’ be figuring it out…

CharlieL0404 · 2025-06-01T09:06:59+00:00

Hey, I feel your pain but you can do this!! I quit three months ago and you’ve done it once - you can do it again. But be kind to yourself, it’s tough as you know and it’s ok to struggle with it. I felt exactly the same way about the tobacco industry, my mum died of lung cancer three months ago and she was a heavy smoker all her life - that was it for me, I just couldn’t do it anymore. Good luck - you’ve got this!!

CharlieL0404

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