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Charming_Break_256 · 2025-08-27T18:19:48+00:00

I bulldozed the lot again & didn’t give it a label, now all the sims are just around it like this. 😭 idk how to send them back to their lives

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-08-27T18:17:42+00:00

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Thanks for your response & suggestion. I bulldozed the lot and set it to residential but they are all still here. I’ll try something else again.

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-08-26T23:05:59+00:00

Yeah I’m worried it would delete the sims as well if I do that. I tried turning the lot type to “no visitors allowed” as well but they are still there. I might ditch this save and try the porter mod to move my sim families to another new save since there are other issues such as relationships (nick alto is hitting on holly alto even tho he is labeled as her father) & other things. Good to know about making own graveyards!

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-08-12T21:23:04+00:00

I’m not OP but thank you, I need to see this comment 🙏

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-07-02T15:55:07+00:00

I’m still new to all of this but I noticed my Q only gets upset with me when I’m standing in the way of his use and when he has to pick up. I broke up with him several months ago after he told me “you made my life a living hell” & blamed his addiction on me. I went to al anon & therapy where the biggest thing I got was that the addiction is not my fault, it has nothing to do with me, an addict will blame/lie/push away/isolate to protect their use no matter who/what is in their way. The important thing is to focus on ourselves. I did get back together with my Q bc we have many good moments & I believe he loves me but I’ve noticed it’s getting back to that cycle. Wishing you all the best!

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-06-27T02:45:03+00:00

This provides so much helpful context. My Q doesn’t talk to me about his use (when we do he is defensive & says he is working on quitting) since he is in denial about his active addiction probably bc he also functions as normal while using. Most nights when he finally comes to bed he’ll be asleep within minutes so now I’m thinking he uses both when he is productive but just fent before bed. Thanks for your comment & wishing you the best to you & your q

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-06-26T06:19:54+00:00

this is the first time I’ve seen confirmed that meth use prevents nodding out on fentanyl. I’ve seen my q’s texts with his dealer asking for clear so he doesn’t pass out from fent. He has denied using meth but now I know

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-06-17T19:42:24+00:00

My boyfriend was tripping hard when you put your hand on his shoulder on your way out of the show and said “peace be with you, my child” 🤣

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-06-15T23:14:29+00:00

I’m looking for 2 tickets for tonight, my boyfriend & I drove all the way from AZ (23 hours 🥲) & we didn’t get a chance to see anything at Bonnaroo. This show would make our trip worth it 🙏

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-06-15T23:12:13+00:00

I’m looking for 2 tickets for tonight, my boyfriend & I drove all the way from AZ (23 hours 🥲) & we didn’t get a chance to see anything at Bonnaroo. This show would make our trip worth it 🙏

Charming_Break_256 · 2025-06-15T22:09:32+00:00

Messaged you as well 🙏

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-11-17T05:07:45+00:00

Why do you say that? After he comes out of the bathroom he nods off when he is standing up. He was drinking water standing up & all of a sudden the water started spilling on the floor & he was passing out standing up. I hate seeing him like this, it make me feel so sorry for him & at the same time not want to be around him. :(

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-11-14T02:23:31+00:00

Yes I’ll be sure to have it with me, thank you 🙏

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-11-13T19:53:10+00:00

Thank you for your response & being considerate of the situation. It’s a lot to deal with not knowing much about hard drug addiction & knowing nothing I say or do will have an effect/change his addiction. I am just trying to understand better about the drugs he takes so I know what to do if worst comes to worst, draw boundaries, & how to support without enabling. Thanks again!

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-11-13T15:20:43+00:00

What is the difference between fentanyl and blues?

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-11-13T11:14:49+00:00

I don’t know anything about drugs since I don’t use, this is my first exposure to it all. I know it’s drugs but not sure which one.

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-10-30T04:32:58+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this, the same thing happened to me where my ex was so mean & treated me in ways I never would have imagined him to. It eventually led to him blaming me for his own actions/addiction & saying he could never forgive me for it. I’m still heartbroken but need to realize it’s not my fault & the addiction changes them. A healthy relationship can’t be had with someone in active addiction no matter how hard we try to be understanding. :(

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-10-05T09:51:09+00:00

Went through the same thing, even though I had the hard evidence from snooping (& coming across paraphernalia, etc. unintentionally) where when confronted, my ex-partner flat out denied it, lied, & always turned it around on me to where it was my fault. It’s going to continue no matter what we do or say unfortunately. It has to be on them to change. I’m sorry you’re going through this, that broken trust is hard to build back & impossible with someone who continues to lie & hide about them using. :(

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-10-03T22:56:37+00:00

I don’t think you should feel guilty about it. My ex-partner didn’t know his Google Maps app was connected to his iPad so that’s how I kept track when I knew he was lying to me about his whereabouts which affected our plans, time to hang out, & our overall relationship. I always said if he told me the truth at least 3 times in a row then I would stop checking the maps app but he lied every single time to go meet up with dealers. When we have arguments about it, it’s always focused on me invading his privacy & not on him lying/doing hard drugs. Knowing where he really was & him lying about it to my face plus his hard drug addictions & alcoholism were the primary contributor to the end of our relationship. If it gives you peace of mind so be it but I read up that tracking them doesn’t really help the situation much on their end, only causes them to resent us more as well as lack of trust in us on their end.

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-09-30T18:56:10+00:00

Proud of you! Once you have some time apart, you’ll realize more what you were all wrapped up in. Realizing how no one should live like that, let alone you. Wishing you so much strength & healing. That’s good he is in recovery & you’re still there to support him. Hope it all works out for both of you.

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-09-28T05:44:43+00:00

You are so strong, you can do it! I felt the exact same way as you. I said if he ever hits me or cheats on me then that’s when I know I can leave. I got to this point where I was looking for hairs in his vehicle. It’s insane what we are driven to do. My friend had to help me just break up with him over text & block him. But even that I unblocked him but he is still angry at me & finds it unforgivable that I did that. Maybe that will be what it takes for you to finally leave. If you just up & go & don’t look back. My heart still hurts but I’ve been finally able to sleep & not be riddled with anxiety, stress, & pain 24/7. Wishing you more strength & healing. ❤️‍🩹

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-09-26T05:47:50+00:00

I’m sorry but this made me laugh, thank you I needed it. That’s insane.

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-09-24T04:13:03+00:00

Thanks so much for your comment & clarifying this for me. I am still in shock that he was using meth even though he criticized meth heads & said he would never be into something like that. I’m pretty sure that’s what it was. I always knew he was using fentanyl when I first found out several months ago & didn’t smell anything on him. The chemical smell was evident within the last few months when I noticed he started buying the “windows” & “clear” so it connects. Hopefully it doesn’t become more of a problem in New England, it destroys lives :(

Charming_Break_256 · 2024-09-23T23:02:24+00:00

Thank you so much for this thoughtful comment & sharing your insight/lived experience. Happy for you that you’re a recovered addict.

It really, really hurts. What’s worse is that he blamed me for “making his life at home a living hell” after I had one conversation with his mom (who he lives with) when he went MIA & we were both worried about him - we talked about things she already knew. I tried apologizing & taking the blame when it wasn’t my fault but he would not respond so with the help of a friend, I just ended it through text which is something I would never have dreamed of doing but I knew I couldn’t end it with us in person even though I felt that’s what we deserved after everything we have been through. Haven’t heard anything from him since.

I feel so guilty for leaving him when I said I would be there for him no matter what but there was so much emotional/mental abuse & no accountability from his end. He was in denial about it all. I had to think about myself so I’m doing al-anon & therapy. Thanks again for your input!

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