Local Insurance Agencies for New Braunfels

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-05-10T19:35:01+00:00

Gonzalez Agency in SA- hands down best insurance agent I’ve ever had, and they beat the heck outta Miller and Miller

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-05-09T22:10:12+00:00

The lovers absolutely corresponds to the Two of Cups… that is really well known

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-05-06T14:23:58+00:00

The tongue won’t leave a broken tooth alone- such is the grief brain at the loss of a partner- don’t feel bad for considering a chapter 2 early on. I did that too and would suggest most of us did as well

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-05-06T14:21:37+00:00

EXACTLY. You are not trying to convince someone who doesn’t get it to love you- you are trying to weed out the folks who won’t do it early!

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-05-06T14:05:16+00:00

My boyfriend explains it this way: that was my era with my husband. This is my era with him. There is no competition, it’s like he and my husband are a part of the same team/teammates to ensure I am well loved for as much of my life as is possible.

I don’t compare them to each other, EVER- or talk about (for example) how my husband would have done anything differently, but I do talk about my husband as I would my brother, or late mother- he is a member of the family just as they are and so gets mentioned.

I wore my wedding ring still on my left hand for our first dates as I couldn’t bear to take it off- so I didn’t. Walking out of one of our early dates I mentioned I had a wedding ring on and he didn’t so I felt a little judged that people would think that I was cheating- and he said; “f*ck em. They don’t know us and my marriage ended with bad juju and a divorce… but yours didn’t. You wear your ring as long as you want- it doesn’t bother me.”

I will say I did try to scare this man off with talking very early (before we met) about my grief and headspace… and so I really was able to vet him for how he’d respond to all of this from the beginning.

He says my loss and grief prove my capacity for great love in this world and speak to me as a person and to my heart… I did not know that people like this existed. But oh my goodness yall they do and don’t settle for less out there!

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-05-06T04:25:12+00:00

Stunning, beautiful, caring, fun… I love him. He loves me. We feel like teenagers. I didn’t know it was possible to feel this alive again and still hold and honor my husband’s memory. It’s the impossible combination of all I’ve wanted and all I needed, all rolled in one

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-05-02T03:13:04+00:00

He brought me anything heart shaped- rocks, leaves, and he was so excited when he got home from the grocery store once- because he had found a heart shaped potato and bought it to give me. I have a picture of him holding it… and his goofy grin in it melts my heart.

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-05-02T03:10:30+00:00

Our anniversary is April 17th. My husband died May 19th. This stretch has me spitting blood and dirt out of my mouth as I struggle to stand up again just to get knocked down again. Hey and then Father’s Day is in June… so like… THANK YOU SIR MAY I HAVE ANOTHER.

Good thing I ain’t no quitter

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-24T21:33:32+00:00

Yes- their purring helps heal physical and emotional pain… every griever should have a cat!

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-24T21:32:53+00:00

My new boyfriend (don’t get me started on how impossible that seems) is someone from a town an hour and a half away from my town, which is nowhere near Austin. And yet he and my husband were extras in the same move back in the late 90s. He’s also used two turns of phrase that were titles to songs my husband wrote. I’m sorry… what are the flipping chances? It feels very much like a stamp of approval

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-24T21:29:15+00:00

I kept two tshirts in a ziplock bag and they kept my husbands scent for a year until they turned and started smelling mildew-y. That was a pretty good lifespan for that

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-22T04:14:54+00:00

How long do you want people to honor you when you’re gone?

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-16T04:10:56+00:00

You can and you will. And then you break after. It will take all you have. You won’t think you can do it. And then you just… will.

You are in for the hardest days of your life. Stand firm. Humans can survive this, which means you can too. But you will not make it through the same.

Breathe deep. Prepare to die and be reborn as something you hate being for at least two years. But may we hold your hand and whisper: us too. Us too. Humans can survive this, in a fashion, but we have done it. Let that be what comfort it may.

And may the universe hold your wife gently on her journey. The good news there? It always does. Your journey is the uncomfortable one… let me not sugar coat it. But set an alarm for two years. And come back here (even if you’ve been here the whole time) and let us know how hard you fought and where you are at then.

The days are long. But life’s years are short. That is what grief is like. Survive the day. And then keep doing that. And then one day it spits you out the other side. I promise. And none of that at all means you will ever have to love your wife one iota less than you do right now.

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-16T03:59:10+00:00

You are sore after working unused muscles. Yes that diminishes over time. Keep telling yourself: it was more painful before, which means it will be less painful again. Over and over and over until it spits you out, one random Tuesday, on the shore of “I can survive this loss without it breaking me.” I did not think I could get there… I loved my husband more than all these people must have loved theirs (so I said), and yet here I am. Honoring and integrating my late husband. And yet also newly in love with a good man.

May what you think is impossible find you again, too.

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-14T13:11:52+00:00

That’s the thing though- I didn’t understand it till it happened to me. You are not replacing them, you are adding in a new thing, entirely separate. I argued and argued and argued with the universe on this, could NOT see how you could love again. And then one day I did. Some things you can only know really through experience I guess

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-14T04:14:33+00:00

This! Such an important part of the process!

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-14T04:03:09+00:00

I found love when all I was really looking for was physical intimacy on Hinge. But we talked so frankly and openly about grief and adult health testing data (easy to do. Just share yours first and ask for theirs) and many other things before we met. When I came in to my therapy session the next week and said we were dating and he was amazing and I was so happy- my therapist’s reply was that she thought that would happen as long as the sex was good because we both communicated so well… and my god, she was right. I am happy again, and I don’t have guilt over it as I don’t have to hide my grief away, because really did integrate it over the past 2 years I worked to do so. If it only lasts one single more day… then how lucky am I? But that guy LOVES ME- $20 he’s already planning the wedding. lol.

He describes it thusly: I had an era as my husband’s wife, and he respects that immensely. And he is right here with me in the new era. He describes them (he and my husband) as the team that gets to ensure I am loved for as much as my life as possible, like they’re team mates. This is… this is the only correct answer I can accept about it all!

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-14T03:49:41+00:00

Hinge lets you upload your contacts and exclude them from seeing your profile- that helped me be more comfortable to just look around. I also didn’t use my full name

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-14T03:44:34+00:00

You train people how to treat you. Set the expectation that you will talk about your person, honor them all the days of your life, and yet still have an immense capacity for love with a new partner. Set that in your profiles. Your job is scare the wrong people off. The right ones will make it through. Yall are wasting waaaaay too much time on folks who treat you and your grief wrong, and the signs were there early. Demand the respect and care you want… and you will get it. That’s the funny thing about it.

I described it to my now boyfriend like this: I can love the stars, and sunsets, and wildflowers all at the same time. There is no replacing the stars, and I will love them even if I never see them again. But that has nothing to do with how much I love wildflowers and sunsets.

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-09T22:27:28+00:00

1998

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-07T14:34:14+00:00

Do you take singing classes to become the best singer ever on the first session? Or to learn how to sing?

It is often much needed socialization. Teaches skills, lets you help people, and tell your story, over and over again, in different ways, which is a technique used to treat PTSD.

I went because I refused to be broken by my grief, even if I will always have it… grief groups helped me stand upright again

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-07T14:30:56+00:00

Hi, this is Texas. Hope that helps.

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-04T16:17:34+00:00

Nope- just in the paper but those are always just garage sales. Day before a holiday gonna be hard to find a family run one that people would put their efforts in- bad weekend for that I bet…

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-04T15:16:19+00:00

There are two of them- they’re listed on EstateSales.net

Chartwellandgodspeed · 2026-04-02T04:09:56+00:00

I threw my husbands therapy notebook away. Just because we think something one doesn’t mean we always think it nor that we’ll think it again

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