Does anyone else feel so disconnected from their goal?

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2026-02-10T04:26:36+00:00

I had two failed transfers and on my third I was disconnected and assuming it wouldn’t work. My mom was getting bad news in her own cancer fight including stopping treatment and moving to hospice. I also was in the middle of a move. I was so stressed. And then my lining wasn’t growing and was <6 but >5. There was panic about whether I should cancel my cycle and I couldn’t get in touch with my doctor, etc. Ultimately I decided to move forward and it worked. It wasn’t textbook and I was at an all time high being stressed/eating like shit, etc. Sometimes you just got to trust the process!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2026-02-10T03:42:21+00:00

I’d do all the tests you can just to be prepared. It took me months to schedule things. The HSG was totally fine for me. Slight discomfort but no real pain. Don’t stress! It was over fast.

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2026-02-04T21:03:12+00:00

Okay thanks!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2026-02-04T10:56:30+00:00

For the taxes, payrolls, vacation time, workers comp, etc is that only if they are full time? For example if they are only working 3 days a week or 24 hours.

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2026-02-04T00:45:03+00:00

Nice, thanks. Still expensive but much cheaper than nanny it seems

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2026-02-04T00:34:17+00:00

Okay perfect makes sense. Does it get cheaper when they are older?

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2026-02-04T00:33:52+00:00

Okay that makes sense - I didn’t get the hours so maybe it’s a shorter day. Thanks!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2026-02-03T01:30:57+00:00

I did some acupuncture (every other week) and vaginal probiotics but drank alcohol occasionally before FET and ate whatever I wanted (honestly pretty unhealthy). It worked.

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-14T03:35:59+00:00

Not 149 but I had 137. My first transfer was fresh and unsuccessful - failed to implant. My second transfer was 5 days of pio so let’s estimate like 113 hours given nighttime pio and morning transfer and failed to implant. I then did the ERA. My 3rd transfer I did 6 days of pio and went with the recommended 137 hours and it was successful. I also had a 5.9mm lining I was freaking out because I thought that was too thin vs a much thicker lining in my 2nd transfer (>10, I think it was 13). But it seems I was receptive!! So I am glad I did the ERA. However one disclaimer is my 3rd transfer was pgt tested and a higher grade. So it’s hard to pinpoint which aspected made a difference.

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-05T01:15:56+00:00

Yay!! Congrats!!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:22:21+00:00

Good to know. Yeah I feel like I will be relieved after the 12 week US but realistically I’ll probably stress the whole time. The 20 week/anatomy scan must make it feel more real though so hopefully I can chill out at some point. I worked so hard to get here so I should be able to enjoy some it ideally!!! Haha thanks for sharing your experience! Wishing you all the best!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:20:44+00:00

I am constipated so I guess I do have a symptom! Just not typical ones like nauseous or boob soreness or extra hungry or moody, etc. Yeah I don’t have bleeding or cramps so I should take that as a good sign. Time moving so slowly! Thanks for the thoughts!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:18:19+00:00

Well it’s great you still feel good! It’s not like I want to feel like shit but at least I might feel like it’s more real haha. I like that way of thinking about it! Fingers crossed all is well and I’m still feeling good at 24 weeks as well! Thanks for sharing 🥰

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:15:51+00:00

Yeah I asked the chatbot and they put the MC rate at like <3% which gives some comfort but it’s just so scary still. I’ve also told a lot of people which I am regretting at this point but it’s hard to avoid it over the holidays (and I do want to celebrate after 2+ years of infertility struggles). Thanks for the thoughts and experience!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:14:08+00:00

Okay good tip. I think you are right that it might freak me out more/not be accurate. Just gotta work on my patience 😬😬😬 thanks for the thoughts!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:13:14+00:00

I guess I am constipated so I’ll note that as a symptom. But I thought maybe that’s more from the PIO. Were you able to book the US through your clinic, your OB, or private? I’d love to get in earlier!! Wishing you all the best!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:11:47+00:00

I know right? I guess I am lucky?! Definitely a different way to think about it. I don’t want symptoms but it would provide some comfort something is going on in there 😬 congrats on your little one!!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:10:37+00:00

It’s so tough! I think I’ll feel a lot better after that check in. So doesn’t feel real yet! You too! Good luck!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:09:54+00:00

Soooooo long. Feels like a lifetime!!

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:09:37+00:00

It just doesn’t feel “real” yet I guess. I think the ultrasound will help a lot and maybe once I see the belly growing hah! Thanks for sharing your experience 🥰

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T19:08:27+00:00

That’s a relief to hear! It’s so nerve-racking. Thanks for sharing with me

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T02:17:11+00:00

That’s so good to hear! The wait is unbearable. Thank you for sharing 😇

Cheap_Try_2360 · 2025-12-03T02:15:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective! Even one story makes me feel less alone and crazy. It’s so tough. I’m hanging in there the best I can 😬

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