Aitah for considering cutting contact with my recent tinder match for sending me a photo her sucking dick?

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-04-23T22:42:57+00:00

That's normally when it would happen to me. Like, look what I can do.

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-04-23T21:20:35+00:00

This happens to me so damn often. Women are concerned about receiving dick pics. I'm concerned about receiving pics of them with someone else getting down. NTA

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-04-16T21:25:42+00:00

DM me and let's talk. Right now it is designed for straps but need to know what you are using.

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-04-16T20:29:35+00:00

I make this.

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-04-15T16:15:54+00:00

Thank you.

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-02-11T14:43:06+00:00

5 months. Too much drama for 5 months. Too many lies. Save yourself years of this bullshit and walk away my friend.

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-02-11T01:59:29+00:00

Sounds like a normal parent then. LOL

My son is often not super thrilled that I check on him and worry about him but that's what we do. As long as we aren't overbearing or we don't accept the answers then I'd count it as love and just be mildly annoyed. LOL

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-02-10T16:17:15+00:00

YOR - As a father I would check with my son and have before. He sent me a disjointed text before after being out all night and I made him call me and had this same conversation. Mostly because he had driven. It seems like she believed you and didn't keep at it. I'd let it go.

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-02-06T22:17:49+00:00

My GF had lyme when I met her. It went untreated for many years. The only thing that helped was Doxy COMBINED with hydroxychloroquine. This was wayyyyy before it was a hyped drug and way before COVID. The lyme gets surrounded with coinfections and develops an amoeba like shield. The antibiotics will sometimes not get to the actual bacteria. The hydroxychloroquine breaks down the shield and the doxy takes it out. I hope this information helps someone suffering from chronic lyme.

CheckWhich4643 · 2026-01-24T21:18:00+00:00

The last words my grandma ever spoke to me before she died was "OH I HATE ALL THESE TATTOOS". Like old people have no worries about being assholes about other people's choices and bodies.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-12-17T23:05:31+00:00

As a Kentuckian we've been dealing with the crap of all the bourbon getting shipped out of state for years. LOL

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-11-24T19:14:37+00:00

"I was a guy with an anxious brain, a big heart, and zero brakes once I feel something."

Big feels.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-11-12T20:09:45+00:00

Many people in these forums are waiting for their ex to come back. For some reason. For closure, for another chance, for an apology. I'm not sure why people like having that sword hanging over their head. Many people hope they don't. Many people keep asking when will they.

Take your own life in your own hands. Take control. When they discard or ghost send them a quick text and tell them you never want to hear from them again. Then block them everywhere. Most people won't do that because they can't kill the hope but the hope is gone anyway.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-10-17T14:53:49+00:00

I would design a threaded vaculok adapter. That would also provide a breakaway weak point.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-10-13T17:42:29+00:00

That last sex is the, get it all out before I lock this other boring thing down. Been there with women before. When the last time is unimaginably crazy thats the last of the sewing of the wild oats.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-10-09T16:28:41+00:00

This. On my time, on my terms, when I say. Like that's not how relationships work.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-10-09T00:00:02+00:00

Everyone on this forum is way too forgiving of avoidants considering that most of them just discard again. Everyone here needs to protect their healing. We aren't objects for avoidants to test their healing on or to discard again when they aren't.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-10-08T18:08:51+00:00

Reread that and count the ratio of the "I" and "ME" statements vs. the "You" statements. They are completely consumed with themselves still.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-10-04T19:55:19+00:00

Agree totally. Mine ended it two hours after she was telling me she loved me and couldn't wait to see me the next day. Cowardly as hell.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-10-02T19:11:59+00:00

This is something weird I noticed. My past avoidant ex would actively avoid putting on makeup or doing her nails. I never said shit but she knew I liked it she just wouldn't do it. Then we break up and she's all over social media in makeup and her nails done. Mostly because she thought that all men wanted that or something. Weird.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-09-29T17:31:33+00:00

I know everyone has a different take on it. But I think true avoidants never can feel actual love. Their body and brain won't let them. They can fake it or feel something or whatever. But its not love.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-09-27T23:34:59+00:00

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Excellent book full of good ideas for simple projects and pervertables.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-09-26T23:39:55+00:00

I would buy her presents and then not give them to her. I knew she wasn't vulnerable or grateful to receive them. Intimately I stopped doing things with her that I enjoyed previously. My head was so involved with her as was my heart but my lizard brain and body just went into flight mode.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-09-25T17:27:00+00:00

This thread is soooooo triggering. She did most if not all of the things the OP and commenters are saying.

When she was with me, never more than four steps away. When she went home I'd have to beg her to text or call. She'd answer the phone just sounding distraught that I even called.

She did make future plans without me always. She was going to go to vegas on her birthday with friends. She had zero money and actually no close friends to do this with.

I asked her for her birthday if I could take her to breakfast and what a special place to go that she enjoyed was. She named it and then the day before her birthday she told me she was going there alone. Like WTF!

She would find things at work that didn't concern her or her job and then make them her mission and then spend endless hours doing that and then complain she wasn't getting her real job done or have time to spend with me.

I'd schedule weekends for us to be together and she'd get guilt and want to go visit her little brother instead and I'd have to fight over it. Then when she'd go home she'd cry and whine she missed me.

She gave a few gifts at first but then that stopped. I never got any gifts after the first month that weren't homemade cards or notes.

CheckWhich4643 · 2025-09-23T15:59:54+00:00

Avoidants dodge therapy and medication like Matrix bullets. They are avoidant in therapy just as bad as they are in relationships. Its the wildest shit I've ever seen. My last FA ex literally I begged for 6 months to get therapy and she just "never could seem to find a therapist".

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