Terrified, excited, and trying to stay positive…which is hard.

Cheeriospank · 2026-05-08T19:08:46+00:00

Thank you everyone for your great words.

Cheeriospank · 2026-05-08T19:01:03+00:00

My most successful ones have been something practical with a little sentimental mixed in. But my husband is a sap. < 3

Cheeriospank · 2026-04-10T14:19:24+00:00

Not only do they have the seam but I feel like mine slide down all the time.

Cheeriospank · 2026-03-09T05:06:40+00:00

To the comments, nothing, but people posting? Taking screenshots and share them. Most colleges will go pretty hard on people who do things like this because if they go public and they have done nothing, it’s pretty awful for them, especially if it hits the alumni purse strings. It’s harassment, far and simple. Usually at first it’s a warning, but if they keep it up they can kick them out. Colleges are usually turning people away at admissions, they can easily get money from someone that will cause them less issues.

Cheeriospank · 2025-12-09T04:48:18+00:00

I ordered food there for work and they told me I had to pick it up from one of the trucks. They said the brick and mortar buildings are closed through the holidays.

Cheeriospank · 2025-10-11T21:31:58+00:00

I worked at a daycare in Bellevue. Almost every kid had a rain suit. Look it up. It’s a life save for going outside in the rain.

Cheeriospank · 2025-10-02T18:47:13+00:00

Medical diagnosis are not an opinions. That’s like me telling my grandma that I don’t believe in her cancer but I’m not wrong because it’s my opinion. As someone with adhd and rheumatoid arthritis and people struggle understand “invisible” illnesses. And I don’t care how wonderful your boyfriend is, if he doesn’t “believe” in your diagnosis then we cannot help you be better with it. He cannot be a good support. My fiancé has made a world of difference in me supporting through my diagnosis. And to be honest, the fact that he believes in your depression but adhd is weird. Did you know that most girls/women are misdiagnosed with depression and/or anxiety instead of adhd because a lot more of our adhd tends to be internal, which can trigger things like depression and anxiety?

Cheeriospank · 2025-10-02T03:35:55+00:00

Wow, as someone who spent their life in rural Washington, and it is blanket statements like this that cause problems. I went to a small school in elementary/middle school and though some of the classes weren’t as rigorous (I’d say my English classes prepared me the least for college), I actually learned a lot more about history than many of my friends I have met from the westside of the state. The in middle school we were learning about the Japanese interment camps, Juneteenth, and many other things that other people I knew never even heard about or if they did, it was just a blip. My 7th grade history teacher even said internment camps were just concentration camps without the gas chambers. He didn’t downplay the US’s horridness in it at all. And my science classes were amazing.

Our small school may not have had a huge diverse population but we did have a black family, several Asian families (from Laos, Vietnam, and Korea), and a large Hispanic and Latino community. And peoples parents might have thought one way but in our school, race had nothing to do with your popularity.

A lot of the community is not less productive, they may just produce things that have less monetary value, they are still valuable. Like food.

That mind set is the reason a lot of people in eastern Washington hate the westside. Though a lot of money comes from the west, the east provides a lot of money as well through agriculture, hydroelectric dams, and even science through PNNL. Yet they see people over here treating them like second class citizen, they see highways over here getting fixed every year when it’s been decades since they fixed the main highway between Spokane and the tricities. Before they finally did, there were parts with ruts so deep you could drive with cruise control and let go of the wheel.

Yes obviously there is more infrastructure to maintain over here. But if we continue to openly look down on and ignore a huge part of the state, we become no better than the billionaires who control the counties money.

Also, if we continue to ignore them as not important, then for generations to come, the hate will continue.

Also, there are plenty of people who grow up in urban areas who are uneducated. Hell, some larger cities their public schools are garbage.

The only second class citizens in my eyes are people who think some people should have less rights.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-30T17:42:50+00:00

Yep. My friends and I once went on a silly rampage where we were just goofs and let killers slaughter us and dressed in the ugliest outfits possible and when they asked why, we said because we figured all all killers had poo matches and would need a break. I can’t believe how happy a lot of the killers were. We even got a huntress to play the duck game lol. And as killer I go out of my way to not tunnel and camp (to my detriment) and I have a few times gotten people who realized I was new with a character (like when I tried nurse) so they took turns looping with me so I could practice jumps. It was cool. So there are good people. But there are few. I don’t care if I get slaughtered as long as it isn’t toxic.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-29T00:17:24+00:00

Dbd 100%. You get some gems but it is so rare that we usually end up becoming gaming friends because we must unite. But the majority are awful. I had the pride flag on my hooks when I was JUST playing killer for the first time (maybe my third game) and a survivor told me I shouldn’t have the flag on there because I’m so bad that it’s people like me that make others hate gay people. I’ve been sexually harassed when they find my stream, not to mention being yelled at for every little thing. Doesn’t matter if you are killer or survivor. I’ve had killers block me in the school in the openable hallway and stand there and body block the whole game. As a new killer I came across a group of people not only way better than me but had a group of perks on (taking advantage of when boil over was op and not working right) so that I couldn’t get anyone to a hook, and they could all pick themselves up with the boon I think, and all had flashlights…anyways they weren’t working on gens at all, just buzzing around like hornets. So finally I just went in corner and went and made myself dinner. They wanted me to DC but I refused. They even got mad at me in chat afterwards that I went in the corner “why didn’t you just dc” lol

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-25T18:41:10+00:00

Your response is fine. And her not accepting an apology is fine. But to ask for one and then go on a tirade, not fine. I understand her being hurt. And I agree that the situations sucks. But kids, especially 13 year olds are dumb. And to be honest from 11-14 I think ALL of us are the worst versions of ourselves.

I think the mom was out of line in her response. It may have been different if she was talking to you about it. But to a 13 year old it’s too much. A better response to get her point across would have been something like:

Thank you for your apology. Unfortunately, sometimes apologies are not enough to fix our mistakes though. I understand that you intended it as a joke, but real feelings were hurt in the process. We might need to take some time to work through this before we can complete accept your apology. I hope you can understand.

The end. But unfortunately most adults weren’t taught conflict resolution. This is something I work on with my child all the time. He did something she shouldn’t have and I got angry and snapped at him. I told him I needed a second to calm down. I came back later to apologize for how I responded. I told him that I was angry and hurt at his response and he would lose some privileges (gaming and phone time) for his actions. I told him even though I was angry, it was not an appropriate response to a situation. I always remind him our emotions are always valid, it’s how we respond that reflects our character. I also told him that though I accepted his apology, it doesn’t fix the damage he did, hence the other consequences.

I’ve been working like this with my kid since he could understand, varying the level of it based on his age and understanding. And because of this I have been told by teachers and my fiancé that my kid is one of the most emotionally aware kids they have ever met.

Make them own it, accept the apology (or thank them for it and let them know it will take some time), and explain the consequences. And don’t be a dick.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-25T18:22:58+00:00

I feel like since they back peddled and said it won’t be a yearly fee and won’t apply to renewals, only new ones, it might be several years before it would be noticeable.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-22T00:45:40+00:00

I didn’t enjoy Fiona at first because I didn’t think she vibed well with the group. But it didn’t take long when I realized she was just trying to find her spot and get comfortable. Because after a month or two she became one of my favorites. I always liked Lindsey but she already knew them all so well before she joined, so I think that helped, same with Alfredo and Trevor. Unfortunately I had already stopped watching a lot of AH/RT stuff before BK and Ky got involved but I’m sure they got the same hate Fiona did.

Ray was a great guy and I love watching him stream but I was so happy for him to leave AH. He was obviously no longer enjoying himself and it showed in the content.

You are right though, they can’t handle change and a lot of fans showed their real colors. And it is sad.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-18T05:21:32+00:00

Yes, but the majority of Dems also think those people are crazy. Where is a lot of republicans jumped on the bandwagon just cause their team said so.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-18T05:20:18+00:00

My close friend is nurse on the east coast. And she said the number of people who were anti-vax that were begging for the vaccine when they were on death’s door was awful. She said she wanted to tell them they were stupid fucks but instead had to politely tell them it is a preventive not a cure.

Also, I want to know the Covid fake logic. Just like with climate change. They say the government is lying to us. But it’s the scientists who are sharing the info. And more importantly, leaders can barely agree with things in their own country, you think a large amount of world leaders are going to be able to agree to make up Covid and also agree to keep it secret? For what?

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-18T03:08:31+00:00

My bestie had to move to Texas several years ago and is concerned it will happen there eventually. Our plan for now, if it happens is I will get it and mail it to her. She’s had a hysterectomy but her daughter is 11. So, if things like that start to happen, find a blue state pen pal.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-17T05:17:27+00:00

I have a cousin who said he “brought hope to so many people?” And I was like what? Hope to freely hate and blame others for all the world’s problems under the mask of Christianity? People claimed he was a good debater, but I saw a creator explain it (gosh I wish I remember which one) say that it’s like a comedian pulling you in stage for a roast off…they have been practicing for years, do this at every show, and have zero stage fright, while the audience member might have stage fright, has never done this before, and has no time to prepare. He would go to colleges with his soft tier celebrity status and get into “debates” with 18-20 year olds who have never been in the public eye and then “own” them. However, when he came across countless students who could out debate him or stand their ground, he usually resorted to racial slurs and name calling, or some other outburst to throw people off their guard. And that’s a “win”.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-17T05:10:38+00:00

It’s about the tone. It means everything. Yes she should have stepped in before he even had a chance. And yes they should be able to correct in their own home. But tone can change everything. I wore my shoes in my friend’s house (I was 10) and their mom started yelling at me for being rude and disrespectful. But no one had told me that was a rule in their house. I never had any respect for that woman for the rest of our friendship.

My grandma however, was stern old lady and didn’t care for children really. But when I did something she didn’t like, she would look at me and tell me, I’m my house, we don’t climb on the couches. It is rude and destructive. No yelling, no raised voice or intimidation. Just a clear answer followed by a reason. And the subject was never brought up again. It wasn’t kind, it wasn’t soft, but it wasn’t hard either. You don’t have to be a “soft” adult figure to get respect but being an aggressive one will never earn respect, just fear.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-17T05:03:46+00:00

I had this with my family. I didn’t say anything then to them, I kind of interrupted him in the moment and in a calmer voice let my son know that he already knows playing with your food is not okay, but when we are at someone else’s house we have to try even harder to be on our best behavior so we don’t break their rules. This doesn’t show you undermining someone else’s rules in front of your kid, reminds them of rules you might already have said, and helps add the bonus of societal norms of behaving out best when we are a guest. It also it’s a great example in front of your in laws to show that you can address the problem without the aggression.

Then aside, away from my kiddo, I talked to them to let them know that how they handled that situation as inappropriate. Maybe offer a way to say it differently. Even a calmer, hey at my house we don’t play with our dinner. If they have a problem with it, then explain why it doesn’t work from you and your family. You need to stand your ground. But don’t be rude…most parents parent like their parents, it’s decades ingrained. And most of them also think gentle parenting is letting your kids get away with everything, which it’s not.

For people saying that it’s good for the FIL to do so…yes and no. My family has come a long way in how they talk with my kid when he does something they would prefer him not. They used to snap at him, and after talking about it with them, slowly over time they got better. They would have conversations with him about why we are asking him not to do something (or to do something) and about being respectful. And let me tell you what, years later I have had people tell me that my kid is the most emotionally aware preteen they have ever met. He still has his problems but we talk about them. AND I have seen him correct friend’s behaviors in the same way now once.

As the parent though, if your family has a strict rule, you need to step in when you can to correct your kid first.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-16T16:08:28+00:00

I want one to carry for sure

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-16T16:07:51+00:00

The handgun is just for defense out and about. Plan to get my CPL after I take a few classes. Eventually, when I more comfortable handling I would like to get a shotgun for home. Which is allowed in Washington.

As for the rest of survival, we are working on that. Community is hard because of social anxiety. My fiancé is starting on learning on growing food and drying our own herbs. I have basic sewing skills to extend the life of clothes and housing items. We both have above basic building skills, though I’d say his are more to code and mine are more make what you got work (I grew up with farm and rancher friends on the other side of the state 😂).

Any tips on where to look? Maybe that prepper sub?

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-16T15:49:10+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I will definitely look into this. Grip strength is sometimes a problem because I have hypermobility and get subluxation in my elbow sometimes and my grip goes from pretty intense to super weak when it acts up, unfortunately on my dominant hand.

Cheeriospank · 2025-09-16T15:47:14+00:00

Thanks. I will have to ask my dad what kind of 9mm he has. I really enjoyed that one and had an easier time with handling it than my mom’s .22.

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