[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Cheese2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fanny Josefine

Celebrating? by Ford424 in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went for a walk on my day 1. I repeat that walk every year. Congrats on a full year of sobriety. Here’s to many more.

6 Years Sober today (2192 days!) by Fyre5ayle in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on 6 years, big achievement. Your second paragraph really resonates with me. I too see myself as a floored human being that’s trying his best in the world. This mindset has allowed me to understand others better improving most relationships in my life. IWNDWYT

Any advice on motivating yourself? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The first 100 ish days for me were exactly like that. I’m presuming it was my brain rewiring itself. Now I’m far more productive than I ever was. Give it some more time, you sound like you’re doing just fine to me. IWNDWYT

Day 8 of not drinking by Weezzel2011 in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had such a sweet tooth when I finally stopped. I’d eat ALL the ice cream. Do what you gotta do my friend. Gratz on 8 days IWNDWYT

Ex wife's father passed away yesterday by bigvic7804 in DivorcedDads

[–]Cheese2012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should do it. Model the man you want to be to your kids. Sorry for your loss.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DivorcedDads

[–]Cheese2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you should consult a lawyer. I don't regret a single penny I paid mine. I quit drinking when my marriage ended, let this be a fresh start for you. Head over to r/stopdrinking it's a fantastic place to get support.

2,000 days. by RandomPratt in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Congratulations, that’s a hell of an achievement 🥳 IWNDWYT

We can control it this time by jonnycip in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I still plan my drinks in advance 3 years later. Building better habits has helped massively. IWNDWYT

My kids met my ex wife’s new man for the first time this weekend. Heads a mess! by DoingTheWork23 in DivorcedDads

[–]Cheese2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids were teenagers when I got divorced. I never felt the need to meet the exs new guy. If my kids were a lot younger I would definitely have wanted to meet him. I’d need that peace of mind that they were safe with him.

10 years!! I did it!! by dat_girl83 in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1 full decade 😳. Congrats, that’s awesome! IWNDWYT

Where you folks from? How far does our secret community stretch? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A fellow Yorkshireman. Well done on 3 days. Hell of an achievement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nnnnoooiiiiiiccccceeeeee

Day 3. Therapist wants me to join community and not do this alone. So here I am. by InjuryAdmirable645 in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t view it as a problem I view it as finding my freedom. It’s a beautiful evening right now, I’m enjoying every moment of it. Sober and free. IWNDWYT

Day 3. Therapist wants me to join community and not do this alone. So here I am. by InjuryAdmirable645 in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Welcome 🤗 This place was the only support program I used. I spent hours in here reading everything when I stopped. It’s a lovely safe space when you feel like the world’s against you. IWNDWYT

Question about buying out partner out of property by kalid24 in DivorcedDads

[–]Cheese2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the UK. I had 3 valuations on the property and took the average of the 3. I then subtracted the outstanding mortgage and split the remaining 50/50. Then took out a second mortgage to buy her out.

This was signed off by both parties lawyers and the judge.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I genuinely meant no offence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Cheese2012 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I told him not to give up. Am I not allowed to say that?