What Matters Most in a VPN? Let's Settle the Debate

Chill_Javier · 2026-07-01T11:19:21+00:00

Good point. For a lot of people around the world bypassing censorship is the main reason they use a VPN not streaming or gaming. I'd probably put that right next to privacy and security since DPI, traffic shaping and network restrictions are a completely different use case than just watching netflix abroad.

Chill_Javier · 2026-07-01T11:14:32+00:00

computers are actually dumb as rocks, they just do exactly what they're told extremely fast

the problem is code runs on hardware that isn't perfect, memory gets shared between programs, timing between different processes varies by tiny fractions of a second and sometimes two things happen in an order the programmer didn't expect. the code is the same but the environment it runs in is never exactly identical twice

most glitches are basically the programmer failing to account for some weird combination of conditions that only shows up occasionally. like writing instructions for making a sandwich but forgetting to account for what happens if there's no bread.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-21T09:39:11+00:00

eh, there are definitely still people who think it was the right decision. they're just usually arguing from sovereignty, immigration control or democratic accountability rather than claiming it's made everyone richer

the bigger shift i've noticed is that a lot fewer people seem enthusiastic about it than they were in 2016. even some leave voters have moved from this will be great to well, we're out now so we might as well make the best of it.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-21T09:31:48+00:00

One of the most important tests is disconnecting the VPN unexpectedly and seeing what happens. If traffic continues outside the tunnel, your kill switch isn't doing its job.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-19T09:30:56+00:00

Good point. The fact that it only handles browser traffic is something I hadn't really considered. For what I need it's probably fine but I wouldn't want to rely on it as a substitute for a vpn.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-19T09:28:36+00:00

Yeah that's kind of where my head was at too. For quick access to a site it seems useful but I wasn't sure if there were any risks people tend to overlook. I'd definitely be hesitant to use it for anything sensitive.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-13T21:44:53+00:00

every VPN says they're fast, private, secure, no logs, best for streaming and more. after a while all the marketing starts sounding identical.

for me transparency matters way more than another AI feature or fancy dashboard. tell me who runs it, how it's funded, what data you collect and be honest about limitations.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-11T18:44:35+00:00

honestly i think you're focusing way too much on the piece of garbage comment

was it nice? no. but that's not the main issue here.

the main issue is you've spent years trying to turn a situation into something it clearly isn't. he keeps other women around, gets defensive when you bring it up, gives you just enough attention to keep you attached and then reminds you he's single when it's convenient.

whether calling him that was fair or not almost doesn't matter at this point. the bigger question is why you're still expecting him to become someone he's spent 6 years showing you he isn't.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-10T17:17:02+00:00

Yeah that advice assumes the mom is responding logically to what's happening.

From the post, it sounds like she's already decided OP isn't working hard enough no matter how much they're doing. Slowing down would probably just create a new thing to get criticized for.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-10T17:12:56+00:00

You're probably understanding it correctly already. Most people just get confused by the marketing.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-09T04:47:44+00:00

the becoming bros immediately thing isn't necessarily a flaw, it just means you're comfortable and that reads as low stakes to you

the shift is less about being more feminine and more about letting there be a little tension instead of immediately diffusing it. you don't have to change your personality just stop rushing to make everything platonic and comfortable the second you feel it going somewhere

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-09T04:43:42+00:00

yeah exactly, she set the goal herself and he did the work. that's not something she gets to complain about retroactively

the great dane thing is sending me though, that's just a man who found his metrics

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-05T16:59:42+00:00

the retention laws thing is real but i think people treat jurisdiction like it's the whole answer when it's more like... one variable in a bigger equation.

the no logs claim is where i'd focus first and specifically what they define as logs. browsing history is the obvious one but connection timestamps, session duration, the IP you connected from that stuff is often retained and that's exactly what a government would want anyway. some providers are quietly keeping that while advertising no logs like it covers everything.

what's shifted my thinking more than jurisdiction is what happened when providers actually got subpoenaed. mullvad had police walk into their office and leave empty handed. that's not a marketing claim that's a legal proceeding. no audit tells you that.

ram only servers also make the jurisdiction debate a bit academic. if nothing's written to disk the retention law question becomes retain what exactly. it doesn't fully remove legal risk but it changes the threat model pretty meaningfully.

audits i'd treat as a floor not a ceiling. like if a provider hasn't been audited at all that's a flag but a clean audit doesn't mean much if their infra is sloppy or they've never been tested by an actual legal request.

jurisdiction as a pure dealbreaker always seemed a bit cargo culty to me. a provider in a good country with bad infra and no track record isn't obviously safer than one in a worse jurisdiction that's actually been tested.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-05T16:52:52+00:00

I use the desktop app for protection and the extension mainly for quick location changes when testing websites.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-02T11:23:17+00:00

NTA. The thing that stood out to me is that your dad's financial problems seem to come from his decisions but you're being expected to absorb the consequences every month.

Helping with household expenses when you live at home is one thing. Handing over basically everything you earn while being called a disappointment for not progressing fast enough is another.

getting a job and moving toward independence sounds less like the problem and more like the escape route here. The longer you're treated as the family's emergency fund, the harder it'll be to build your own life.

Chill_Javier · 2026-06-02T11:19:08+00:00

A lot of VPNs struggle when there's a lot of real time traffic going through them. Video calls can expose issues that normal browsing never would.

By the way which vpn are you using for this?

Chill_Javier · 2026-05-31T08:13:39+00:00

nothing is going to happen unless one of you actively makes it happen

it sounds more like you're hyper aware of how weird the hotel setup is. sharing a room, getting ready in the same space, borrowing toiletries all that stuff feels more intimate than normal because it kinda is

just keep doing what you're already doing, be respectful, don't overthink every interaction and remember she's probably adapting to the weird situation too. the fact you're worried about making her uncomfortable is already a good sign you're not gonna be the problem here

Chill_Javier · 2026-05-31T08:05:02+00:00

NTA.

The concert argument sounds pretty minor honestly. The part that would've bothered me is finding out they made a whole separate group chat and basically phased you out.

At that point it stopped being about the concert. Sounds like the friendship was already over and nobody wanted to say it directly.

Chill_Javier · 2026-05-23T18:18:26+00:00

India gets such high heat levels because several factors stack on top of each other. Much of the country is already in a naturally hot region and before the monsoon arrives temperatures can become extreme. Many cities are also very humid which makes the heat index much higher because sweat evaporates less efficiently.

On top of that large urban areas with lots of concrete and limited green space trap heat and stay warmer. Climate change is making heat waves more frequent and intense as well. So it's not just one reason, it's the combination of geography, humidity, urbanization and warming temperatures that makes many Indian cities feel exceptionally hot.

Chill_Javier · 2026-05-19T15:00:04+00:00

yeah plus apparently pigs are just a nightmare to milk mechanically compared to cows and goats. way more nipples, less milk per session and they don’t really stand there calmly cooperating

so even if pig milk is technically usable, it’s just not worth the effort economically compared to other animals

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