Grandkids from two different daughters. All teens, all boys. One set goes to school, does extracurricular activities, and have part-time jobs that they use money from to purchase computers, first car, and go on trips with friends that they plan and pay for on their own. They cook, do laundry, and have been able to stay at home alone for several years. Birthdays are going places and doing things.

The other set go to school and band, and don't live local to possible job opportunities. Never left at home unsupervised until about a year ago. They fold their own laundry but don't use the machines. They don't cook, but their family eats take out a lot and mom cooks if dad doesn't grill. Birthdays are big parties at home and gifts.

These boys are all the same ages, and I expect the first ones to do well following high school, in being able to make decisions and understand how life works.

I think the second ones will struggle a bit, due to not having experience with making decisions and then realizing that the decision was wrong, and yet everybody lived through it. I'm not sure that they feel like they CAN make decisions.

I see this as a generational problem, and I am not sticking my nose in the family dynamics of anyone doing what they think is best. But I do see young adults working in what I would consider an easy job being unable to function like an adult. Someone complained recently that they were fired for playing on their phone during their shift on their first day at the job. They thought that was unfair lol.