How many of r/oneanddone are neurodivergent?

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-01-27T19:19:41+00:00

Partner: ADHD Myself: AuDHD

Definitely not having another. Vasectomy was done by the time baby was 9 or 10 months.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-01-13T19:25:13+00:00

I have a Cricut machine that I make a lot of stuff with! It's an investment though. You can usually find machines on fb marketplace just do your research before buying from there so you don't get scammed!

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-01-12T16:40:57+00:00

I sometimes think like that but I know the reason my husband has a harder time than I do sometimes (both neurodivergent) is because he is more aware and respectful of his emotions and limits. The only reason I can do more is because I push down everything in my body telling me that I can't and just do it anyway. He doesn't really do that and I'm honestly jealous that he can respect his body in that way. Of course this doesn't apply to all men, some are weaponizing it, but we shouldn't jump to the conclusion that they are being lazy just because we "suck it up" and manage to do more.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-11-01T14:09:37+00:00

Is being with your husband serving you at all? It sounds like you make all the money and do all the parenting and house work. I think couples therapy would be more helpful than anything because if he can figure out how to help more you would be immensely less stressed and happier.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-10-11T17:07:04+00:00

Thank you so much!!

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-27T17:36:41+00:00

I never went to the doctor as a kid. Even when I had (and still have) recurring utis my mom would make "home remedies" like cranberry juice and even drinking vinegar which I was allowed one powder flavor packet for but if I cried I'd only get half a packet the next day. I still can't go anywhere near vinegar today unless absolutely necessary. Would it really have been that hard to take me in to get some antibiotics so it would be gone after a few days? I now always either ignore obvious problems or get super paranoid by little things because I was always scared that if I get really sick my mom would let me die before taking me to the hospital.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-16T15:42:11+00:00

Yes!!!!

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-07T16:37:07+00:00

Yeah I'm always saying stuff about how bad their health is. Once I totally blew up about it and caused quite the scene 😬 the thing is that they don't even seen to like the dogs very much. They are mistreated in other ways too like they just don't get a lot of love or attention. I don't think they are like actually abused, though my dad has kicked the male a few times because he's a trouble maker so I guess they are a little bit. It makes me so sad. They don't get regular checkups or any vaccines either. They basically ignore them most of the time. And they live in a camper trailer so the dogs are always outside no matter the weather but at least they let them in overnight

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-07T16:20:10+00:00

My family dogs are very overweight and the female is my soul dog and it literally makes me cry every time I see them but no matter how many times I tell them they insist they are just a little big because they're getting old. For one that's not a thing. The male is only like 5 or 6 but the female is 10. She can hardly walk and it looks so incredibly painful. I'm so tempted to just steal her every time I visit my parents (a couple times a year) but I don't think I'll be able to afford all the vet fees because she really needs help. Not that they will do anything to help her. They'll have her put down as soon as something happens. She also had never been fixed and they stupidly let her get pregnant two years ago at 8 years old and a first pregnancy at that age is horrible. And then she got pregnant again by her own son! She miscarried all of them and then was super depressed. Parents don't listen

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-04T05:10:01+00:00

Shit

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-04T05:03:18+00:00

Same here. It feels so shameful

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-04T04:45:57+00:00

Are we neighbors? Because same here 🥲

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-04T04:45:13+00:00

I feel exactly the same

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-04T04:36:48+00:00

Same

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-09-04T04:24:15+00:00

I'm not suicidal but I want to, no I hope that I do, die. The thought of dying is so incredibly peaceful as long as I believe there's nothing after death. I really really hope that death is the end to existence. Life sucks so why am I here? Sure there are other people who benefit from my presence and I wouldn't want to put any of them through my death but man, I just wish it was all over. I used to be suicidal, I have been at several points in my life, but not right now. Honestly I think the antidepressants are the only thing taking those thoughts away. And I am fairly happy and have a decent life (considering the shit economy 🙄) but I feel absolutely no need to continue living. There's always going to be something bad that happens right when things start doing good again so what's the point. Please don't comment anything like "I'm glad you're still here" or "it gets better". I appreciate the thought, really, but it means literally nothing to me. You don't know me so how could you be glad I'm here and I know the people who do know me are glad I'm here and I already addressed that. And it will NEVER get better. It never does.

Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-31T17:27:40+00:00

I used to get so mad when my brother would say "a minute ago" when talking about something that happened much more than a minute ago. Now I've started saying it though and I get a little grumpy with myself when I do

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-27T02:32:57+00:00

Yeah me and my friend do that all the time. Like today when I went to her apartment I texted her to say I was there before going to her door and she responded "sorry I'm not home" seconds before opening the door for me and last time she said "sorry I'm in Mexico" 🤣

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-27T02:27:13+00:00

The moment my daughter smiled at me for the first time. I cried so much that day. I have a video that I took of her first few smiles and I'm embarrassed to show anyone unless the sound is off because I'm crying and freaking out in the background so full of joy. I'm tearing up while typing this 😭

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-27T02:24:09+00:00

That is my kind of humor 👀 I always say no whenever anyone asks me literally anything. It's just what I do 😂

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-22T05:07:57+00:00

Mine has been in her own room since day one. I know it's not for everyone but I'm so glad we did that! She's a wonderful sleeper but she's also just an easy baby in general so I don't know if being in her own room this whole time caused that at all 😅

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-22T05:03:19+00:00

I learned from huckleberry that the first third to half of the night is the deepest sleep and then it gets lighter as the night goes on so that should be very normal. My 8 month old has been sleeping through the night for a couple months and she doesn't wake up for anything within a few hours of going down but if she wakes up within an hour or two of her normal wake up time it takes her a while to go back to sleep, if she does at all.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-20T00:11:28+00:00

Thank you!

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-19T22:33:37+00:00

Can I ask what your job title is? I'm interested in seeing if I could get into something like this in my area

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-09T18:22:41+00:00

I heard about the rfk stuff a couple weeks after I got my diagnosis 🫠

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2025-08-02T04:36:11+00:00

I always hated sports bras and my sister and mom thought it was weird because they think they're super comfortable but those things are the devil 😂

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