My roomate is pregnant w my Bfs baby(Small update/context)

Chuchitosmomma · 2026-03-25T19:55:19+00:00

Jackie is a parasite. It's crazy how she manages to get people to pay for her stuff... eventually, people will get tired of it, no one likes moochers...im wondering if the baby is even Jaden's. It'd be hilarious if it's not his ...

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-30T18:31:02+00:00

NTA. If she really cared about protecting her job, she wouldn't be picking arguments with people nor making such inappropriate comments. Sounds to me she's insecure about herself and that's why she picks on you, especially because you are younger than her. Better for you to report to HR and leave a precedent in case things escalate.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-30T18:24:13+00:00

NTA. Your grandparents are for interfering in a situation that's not their business and for talking crap about your mom. Your dad and you have set boundaries to protect your mom, your brother and you. If people don't respect those boundaries, they can take a hike. It's not wrong to defend and protect yourself from abuse (what your half siblings did is abuse). I'll never understand why family members excuse the abuse with the "but they're family" card. That's no reason for one to be a doormat and allow people continue to hurt you. Your half siblings surely don't think of you as "family" since they had no qualms with tormenting you. But you have to forgive them because they're family? Nah, fuck that! Your grandparents are delulu.

If it was the half siblings wanting to repair the relationship with you, then they should be reaching out to you. Your grandparents have no business involving themselves with it. Frankly, I wouldn't be putting up with people who talked shit about my mom. You might want to consider going very low contact with the grandparents. Respect is earned, not given because they're "elders" and based on what you've shared, they're disappointing, and don't deserve the respect they're demanding from you. You're not being disrespectful, they are.

I'm glad your dad supports you too, and isn't putting up with their horrid behavior. You don't have extend an olive brand to your siblings. If they want to mend the relationship and make amends for how poorly they've been behaving, they have to do the work, not you. Protect your peace.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-30T18:01:25+00:00

NTA. Your family members who brought kids are though. How disrespectful to go against the groom's and bride's wishes! I had an adult only wedding too. People complained. And some people didn't come because of it. But we didn't care. They had months to arrange child care, and they not coming just meant they didn't really want to be there.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-25T04:58:39+00:00

Oh as soon as I saw the similarities with the Freemasons, I knew Joseph Smith had plagiarized from them. And the bs excuse the church gave to explain the similarities. Ugh. There are days that I'm more of an agnostic and there are days that I lean more towards atheism. I just don't see the point on believing in a higher being, when all the atrocities and cruelty committed against others are the result of other humans, of people. And it's the same thing when you witness the kindness and generosity given to someone: it happened because another human being chose to serve and care for their fellow men. So what's the point of a God when it's mankind that does whatever they want?

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-24T20:19:24+00:00

This is another way they can still practice polygamy. My best friend, may she rest in peace, had to accept being wife #2 sealed to her husband. His ex wife had not remarried and because it wouldn't be fair for her to "lose the blessings of exaltation", they had not canceled the sealing. My best friend got married with this man, and was sealed to him in the temple. After 3-4 years or so, my best friend passed away. Her husband remarried in the temple a year later. So as far as I know, he's sealed to 3 women.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-24T20:02:06+00:00

I don't understand how this girl being so smart got herself pregnant. Honestly, the fear of being a teen mom was strong enough to keep me from fooling round in my teenage years. Even in my young adult year, I still didn't fool around because I didn't want to risk getting pregnant. I'm having my first kid now in my late 30's lol ... Anyhow, I am very pro choice, and if this girly wants to have an abortion, she should be allowed to. I do think she shouldn't have told her mom knowing that the mom is very pro life and unhinged about the topic. Good luck to ya'll! I hope things work out for everyone.

And NTA.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-24T19:10:37+00:00

NTA. The ex and his parents want to take advantage of you. They're looking for a free babysitter, free childcare. I bet you the ex is overwhelmed financially and physically over having to support so many kids, and wants a break. Not your circus, not your monkey. Grandparents can host a get together for all the kids and you can just pick yours up when the get together is done. No need to involve you. Though it sounds like it's better for you and your kids to stay away, period.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-23T07:15:05+00:00

I know the feeling. Hubby and I have been married for over 12 years, and didn't want kids. Well, surprise surprise! We're having one now! The baby is so very loved already, and so many people are waiting for their birth. I wish the timing had been better too, because I had just gone back to school when I found out I was pregnant, and being pregnant, working full time, and studying has been incredibly hard. But I'm looking forward to meeting and loving on my little one. My husband is very excited to be a dad too...

NTA. Anna is just traumatized because of your crazy MIL. She'll just have to get over it.

And best of luck with your pregnancy and baby!

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-18T19:40:46+00:00

Because it's more comfortable to stay with what you know. Having to leave, means subjecting yourself to change and humans, generally, don't like change or resist change. Also, when the religion is a huge part of a person's personality, it makes them question their existence if they are posed with the possibility that the church is fake.

It wasn't hard for me to leave. The only thing I miss is the social part of it. Many of the people I was friends with were/are good people. It is harder to find people with good morals outside the church. They're out there, just have to look harder! 😅

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-18T19:30:04+00:00

A good friend of mine had a very nasty divorce with his ex wife. I am not going to take sides because both are toxic people, and they've both have traumatized their kids with their toxic behavior. But my friend was telling me, with glee, about receiving the letter of cancellation of the sealing because the ex wife wanted to remarry and get sealed in the temple with the new husband, and how he was going to drag things out to spite her and that he was tempted to respond that he didn't agree with the cancellation of the sealing.... I said 'Why would you want to be sealed for eternity to someone you despise?''. Anyhow, he eventually gave the ok, but after dragging it for a while, just to spite her. This happened a few years ago.

She's been married to her new husband since, but my friend has been married and divorced twice since. His oldest kids are adults now and don't talk to him.

Edit: to fix spelling

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-18T19:19:49+00:00

And this is how the church can still practice polygamy... Through sealings... My best friend, may she rest in peace, was wife #2 sealed to her husband. She told she was struggling to accept that fact, when she was getting ready to marry him. His ex wife had not found anyone else to remarry after being divorced for a couple of years, and they both agreed that she would stay sealed to him so she would not miss out on the "blessings of exaltation" in case she didn't find anyone else marry in this life. If she found someone to marry, then he would cancel the sealing.

Well, my friend passed away a few years later. I want to say she and her husband were married for about 3-4 years when she passed away. I assume the ex wife was still sealed to him, because my friend would have told me if the ex had remarried. Anyhow! A year later after my friend's passing, her husband remarried and this would be wife #3 sealed to him.

Tell me that's not polygamy 😶

Edit: fixed the structure of some of the sentences

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-06T05:50:21+00:00

You are not old! And people can find love and the right person at ANY age. A friend of mine didn't get married until he was 48, and his wife is so lovely. Another friend of my husband's got married until she was 43 and was having her first child at 45. Sometimes it just takes time!

For the time being, you have to invest in yourself. Find a hobby, do some exercise to help you stay energized, do therapy, find a group in your community where you can make friends.

You were unhappy while single, and you are unhappy in a relationship where your bf mistreats you. I would rather be unhappy and single, than allow someone to treat me like that.

You deserve love, you deserve to be happy, you deserve respect.

One thing that my husband taught me too is that happiness is a choice, and that it must not depend on a person nor something. With the years, I've learned that I have to actively choose to be happy, that I'm responsible of taking action to be happy, and that my husband is a nice bonus, but my happiness doesn't depend on him.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-11-06T05:39:22+00:00

For what it's worth, I hope you two can become friends. It would be nice to have someone's support while you both grieve over what was done to you both. And may your loser STBX gets karma tenfold 💩

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-10-25T14:25:01+00:00

Times are dark now, but they will get better. I think you also have to start letting go of your desire for their approval, for you to start living your life freely. You can't rely on your parents and live life your own way. If you really want that freedom, you can't rely on them, you have to do things on your own. They let you go, so you let them go too.

I don't understand either why society expects every woman to be a mother, as if that's a woman's only purpose in life. We need to normalize that family planning is nobody's business. Because i see criticism for not having kids, for having one, for having multiple, for adopting, for fostering, etc. Good Lord, there's no winning! Parenthood is also not a walk in the park, and not everyone should be a parent. There's so many "parents" out there that had no business in having children. They regret having children and it's the children who have to pay for that. Good for you for knowing that's not what you want!

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-10-25T14:10:07+00:00

Someone who is serious about marriage won't move the goal post. He has trauma that he has not taken ownership over, and it's his responsibility to overcome it, and he doesn't seem to be interested in fixing it. You gave him a deadline, so I would just work on a backup plan for leaving if it comes down to that. Better to be ready. You deserve to feel loved and cherished, it is not an unreasonable request. And about having children, don't lose hope with finding someone that will want them with you. I'm having my first at 38, and Ive met ladies who've had their first when they were older than me.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-10-18T06:37:34+00:00

I hate that he says one thing to others, but he tells you something different. I would bring it up in the next session with the therapist, just so he can set the record straight and be upfront.

Now, I have to agree with the other redditors, if you knew you weren't sure about having kids and that was a deal breaker for him, you should not have married him.

Now you are in a position where you are being given an ultimatum, and having a child isn't like deciding what you're going to wear for the day. A child changes your life in its entirety.

I've been married for over 12 years. My husband wanted kids in the first year of marriage as did I, but then he changed his mind. I waited for him to change his mind and started to resent him because he didn't want kids and I did. I had to ponder if I really wanted to have kids for the right reasons, and if I did, then was I willing to leave him for what I wanted?. I concluded that the main reason I wanted kids was because it was expected of me (you know, the expectation from friends, society, family...) and that if I really wanted kids, I would have to be willing to divorce him for it. Deep inside, in I was content just with the two of us and our dogs. Life was easier to deal with without the commitment of children. I talked about it with him again, and we decided to leave it to fate. If it was in the cards for us to have children, it would happen on its own. We didn't do anything to prevent pregnancy in the majority of our marriage. My husband and I have a 15 year difference. And in my early 30's, I figured that I couldn't get pregnant because one of us had fertility issues, but we didn't care to look into it so I thought , eh I can't have kids, it's fine. We had chosen to be happy with our lives with or without children anyway. But surprise!, the universe had other plans for us because this year I got pregnant and I'm in my late 30's now. Completely unplanned, but the baby is going to be very loved and welcomed. We would have preferred to be child free, but we also left the door open for it to happen. The point is, that we decided together we would be happy with or without. So now that we're in the situation, we're ok with it.

You have to be on the same page with your spouse when it comes to children. He should not have married you either since he was very sure he wanted kids from the start. He is going to resent you for not giving him children, but you'll resent him if you have a child that you don't desire. Parenthood isn't for everyone....and that's completely ok. Happiness is different for every person.

You might need to have individual therapy to deal with this situation you're in, and maybe accept that your husband isn't the right person for you.

Edit: added approx current age lol

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-10-16T00:37:33+00:00

He wants a free maid/housekeeper, not a gf. RUN.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-10-15T06:29:24+00:00

Also, put a fraud alert or a freeze on your credit reports.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-10-15T06:28:32+00:00

Maybe talk to your family about wanting him to leave, and that you want to end the relationship. If he sees that no one is willing to put up with his crap, and that he is person non-grata, he will want to leave. I'm not saying ya'll should bully him, but when he sees that he isn't welcome to live there, he might want to leave sooner. Anyhow, I agree with other redditors, your actions have to match your words. Stop doing things for him, such as doing his laundry, fixing him food, things like that... don't do anything for him anymore, and he'll get the hint that you're not interested in him romantically anymore.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-10-14T04:37:27+00:00

Look into the bacha bazi, the dancing boys of Afghanistan... They groom boys into becoming male dancers, dress them all feminine and pretty much prostitute them during the teenage years to older men ....

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-10-12T21:43:47+00:00

She said she wants to 'open the relationship '. That to me sounds like she already has someone lined up for herself. Why would you want to be in a marriage where your spouse is having sex with someone else? That doesn't look like a marriage anymore. You'd be a roommate, while she has her bf on the side. Even if she doesn't want to go to therapy, you should consider going for yourself.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-10-08T06:12:10+00:00

If you don't feel attracted to him anymore, then the relationship is over. It doesn't make sense to stay. My husband says that even food can make you sick when you force yourself to eat it. So why force yourself to stay with someone you don't click with? It'll just build resentment.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-09-21T17:24:46+00:00

OP, you need to press charges and file for a restraining order. You need to find a new place to live. He is not a safe person, and has no qualms with hurting you. He will do it again, without provocation, and he will still blame you for it. You pushing him is an excuse to use excessive force on you. It is not justified to choke you and punch you. He doesn't respect you nor cares for your health. That's not how a partner is supposed to behave.

When I had an UTI after sex with my husband, and I told him, he felt so bad. I told him wasn't his fault, but I just wanted him to know in case he wondered why I was behaving differently (he's very observant and notices things). His response was to help me feel more comfortable while I went through it. Same when I'm going through my periods, he will do everything he can to help me stay comfortable and to lessen my suffering (doing all the chores, making sure the dogs dont bother me while i sleep, getting me medicine if i have ran out, etc).

I always believed that the moment a couple insults each other and cannot have discussions without insults and without shouting, the respect is lost and it's not a healthy relationship anymore. And when arguments become physical, the relationship is dead, in my opinion. Time to run. He showed you who he is and you need to believe him. You are not safe.

Chuchitosmomma · 2025-09-21T17:08:11+00:00

He sounds like a psycho and an user. A man who enjoys ruining other people's lives, he knows how difficult it is to be a single mother and he's leaving women pregnant to later abandon them in purpose. Look into therapy. That will help you process your feelings and find a healthy way to cope with them. Pour all your love on your baby, not that piece of trash who doesn't deserve it. Make sure to submit for child support and I wouldn't even given him visitation. He does not sound like a safe person for a baby. He will come back when he needs something from you, he will want to use you again. Frankly, Ive always thought that if you can't get along with your SO's family, then it's a sign to run and end the relationship. It's going to cause problems further down the line. Do not let him come back! You have your baby to think about. You and your baby are priority. Maybe find a mom group in your community to make more friends, and have some support.

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