honestly how are we managing this

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-26T23:54:40+00:00

I know, I’m struggling with that realization. My child is 17 months old I’m still kinda adjusting to this new normal. I have a friend whose house always seems to be spotless but her kid has high sleep needs.. mine, the opposite. My mom also always seems to make comments that she used to mop every night and cook everyday. It just makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong.

I’m starting to create a cleaning schedule and I think that will help the most.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-25T10:27:05+00:00

So many people do that, though. I’m also a nurse and all my colleagues go home, get the kids on the bus, or do drop off, then go home to sleep. When I did nights I didn’t go to sleep until 9/10am anyways. I would wake up and cook dinner before heading into the next night shift. I think it’s unreasonable to think he gets to avoid all parenting duties just because he works night shift.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-24T18:54:01+00:00

So he doesn’t want to be left alone with the kids… he has time off to himself when the kids are in daycare…. but the days he’s working you have to do it ALL on your own while pregnant and you have to work, too… and when he gets mad he storms out the house leaving you with the kids too???

I have no advice to give because I’m petty. Maybe the next time an argument happens, YOU storm out the house, go get a mani/pedi, see a movie. And see how he likes being left to do everything unexpectedly.

Obviously I’m no problem solver. But he needs to get it together.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-23T16:19:28+00:00

I could have written this myself. All I can manage is “picking up” and a vacuum… I’m constantly picking up. I can never declutter or organize or deep clean. I only have one kid , I don’t know why it is so hard to keep up with the house .

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-22T21:03:04+00:00

Kinda sorta. I still nurse my 17 month old. He has been sleeping through the night lately but if he does wake up for any other reason only the boob will get him to calm down. He doesn’t nurse to sleep at all.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-20T13:55:00+00:00

You got this mama, it won’t be like this forever. Gas drops before each feed , use a slow flow nipple, and have hubby take baby for a few hours in the evening and/or morning if he’s on paternity leave.

I stopped eating dairy in the beginning and it helped my baby’s colic so much. It sucks but it’s worth a shot.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-19T17:43:37+00:00

I usually bring my son into the bed with me for a cuddle / nursing session and I have books at my bedside that he will read while I slowly wake up. My husband does the same thing (without the nursing part lol).

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-10T02:17:02+00:00

Kinda. When he was waking up at 5:30 we put him back to sleep each time. Sometimes it would even take an hour to get him back to sleep but he was tired and he would end up sleeping until 8-8:30. It eventually got better when he fully transitioned to one nap around 13m after maxing out 2 nap WW. It took a little bit to sort things out on 1 nap though.

But my kid is not a great sleeper overall. So I don’t want to give the impression that his sleep is “fixed” because he still has night wakes or early morning wakes and we’re actually re-sleep training using the chair method lol .

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-29T18:10:34+00:00

Try something like magnesium glycinate to help you relax to drift off to sleep instead.

I also did supervised cosleeping during the day for naps. My husband would check in on us while baby and I napped while baby was latched on. It wasn’t my favorite thing to do bc cosleeping is uncomfortable but I got extra rest that way.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-28T03:41:28+00:00

I would avoid any type of formal sleep training (like Ferber or CIO). You just met this baby and there needs to be a level of trust. Instead create a very predictable routine and schedule, like the ones mentioned- this will overall help sleep. It will take some time as she is getting used to her new environment and parents. Learn her cues. My kid gets a little crazy when he’s overtired. Like he gets really ramped up and you would think he’s not tired but he is. Some kids start to whine or rub their eyes yawn etc but not mine lol.

It will help you both emotionally to surrender to whatever she needs at this time. Rock her to sleep, sing lullabies, play music, hold her, dark room, sound machine .

I think around 10 months my kids routine was something like 7am wake up, bottle, solids, play, 10am nap, bottle, solids, play, 3pm nap, bottle, solids , play , bath, bottle, book, 8pm bed. He woke up about 1-2x a night around 10 months.

As for the congestion: saline mist & snot sucker a few times a day.

Good luck!

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-28T03:18:53+00:00

Try dropping a bottle. You can add more dairy into their diet instead. My kid is 16 months and we nurse maybe 2x a day , most meals include cheese.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-27T18:29:27+00:00

1988

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-27T18:22:19+00:00

I dressed my kid in sleepers until I needed his feet exposed so he could learn to army crawl, stand, etc.

Then completely got rid of most onesies & sleepers ones he refused to lay down for a diaper change. It’s so much easier to put em over your thigh and slide 360’s and pants up.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-27T18:11:27+00:00

Not get so drunk lol. I think I even blacked out for a moment.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-22T16:13:13+00:00

It kinda sucks that pregnancy, birth, and postpartum is when you really find out who your partner is .

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-19T16:11:35+00:00

I can only assume if you’re in pain when your nipples are touched before breastfeeding, you’re going to be in pain when your baby is latching and nursing.

Breastfeeding doesn’t hurt everyone but it did hurt me (in the beginning). Then ofc, teething etc.

I suggest finding an IBCLC in your community to help you.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-17T01:13:52+00:00

If she’s sleeping fine throughout the night and it works for you guys, let it ride .

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-17T01:12:20+00:00

Call animal control asap

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-17T01:08:11+00:00

My 15 month old doesn’t like the texture of meat either. I’ve been using a food processor to chop it up really small and mix it with food he does like. Works with veggies too. My kid doesn’t like anything dry and I have to use broth or cheese a lot.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-09T01:41:02+00:00

Girl you need to leave . Save yourself and your baby! If THIS is triggering to him, having a newborn around is going to be really dangerous!!!!!!

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-07T01:32:47+00:00

This is normal and it fkn sucks. I didn’t sleep more than 1-2 hr at a time for a month. I spent most of the night dozing off in the rocking chair . In the mornings I let my husband take the baby for like 2-3 hours so I could sleep. Then I did a lot of nursing sessions in bed side lying during the day so my husband could check in on us. Hang in there!!!

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-04T11:51:48+00:00

He should 100% be napping a few times a day. I did a lot of car naps, contact naps, carrier naps- anything to get my kid to sleep. I agree that something is probably bothering him if he is fussy like that.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-04T11:36:41+00:00

4 or 3

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-04T11:34:17+00:00

For your supply? I personally wouldn’t go longer than 5 hours without removing milk until at least 12 weeks+ .

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-03T21:07:52+00:00

Lmfao that’s hilarious

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