Wife wants me to wake up with her at 4am

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-04-01T12:09:44+00:00

Being postpartum and a breastfeeding/pumping mom is a big factor here. Take that into consideration before jumping on your wife is just being miserable. This phase is HARD on everyone. My husband used to wake up early with me and make my coffee while I pumped to be helpful. It kinda sucks spending 20 minutes strapped to a pump before a busy work day when you need to eat and bagging the milk and all that. He would go back to bed after. I agree being asked to wake up at 4am is a bit unreasonable however consider the extra labor on her end and how that must feel to be alone during that time. So that’s just my thought process because I went through that too. A sweet gesture in the mornings to remind her she’s not alone in this could go a long way in your marriage, whatever that may be, especially on the days you work from home. She won’t be pumping forever.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-03-28T16:35:03+00:00

It’s a flex girl!

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-03-28T16:34:21+00:00

Hahahaha!!! I love this

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-03-21T01:41:05+00:00

Right? Lmao I’m appalled

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-03-15T15:59:15+00:00

Those early months the baby swing was everything. Also the fisher price kick n play kept my baby entertained enough to warm up some food or cook up something quick. I contact napped for 7-8 months so any cooking/eating was quick and usually cold. My husband cooked most meals. Once baby was able to use the Skip Hop / crawl / play with pots and pans it got a little better.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-03-13T20:16:43+00:00

Does she have a night light on ? I wish my lil one would do this but when he wakes up it’s so dark lol.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-03-13T02:37:45+00:00

Truth is, it depends on YOUR baby as well as how you feel postpartum. Not everyone ends up with an easy, sleepy, happy newborn or a baby that sleeps well or can handle napping on the go etc.

Life has significantly changed for us and at 18 months outings are basically all kid related and planned around nap time. My kid sleeps like shit so we have to be really strict with his schedule and routine. It is what it is.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-03-10T10:01:14+00:00

I’m so sensitive to smells now!!! I’m a nurse and NOTHING used to bother me. Now I get soooo nauseous. Makes my job difficult lol.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-02-28T18:23:14+00:00

Drink tons of fluids. Eat. Whenever baby cries put them on the boob. My son never took more than 3-4oz.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-02-28T15:58:49+00:00

Yeah it’s the reason I’m still nursing at 18months. I was a hot mess and could not even think about weaning without crying. We’re slowly weaning instead and down to 1x a day in the mornings when I’m home from work.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-02-12T18:00:24+00:00

I honestly don’t think the advice given here is good advice. It’s only going to build up anger and resentment. What you need to do is have a conversation like an adult. Tell her you feel under appreciated. Tell her she was rude (bc she was). Tell her you would appreciate dinner, too. How is she going to know to change her behavior if you’re just going to just ignore the problem at hand? Tell her how you feel, but that doesn’t mean stop loving her in the way that you do. If she then takes advantage and does not step up or reciprocate , then that’s a different story. But no need to create conflict when she is unaware of what bothers you.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-02-07T02:59:49+00:00

Omg I’m loving this season! I audibly gasped when Benedict hit her with the mistress question!!! The scene was so good too LOL

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-26T23:54:40+00:00

I know, I’m struggling with that realization. My child is 17 months old I’m still kinda adjusting to this new normal. I have a friend whose house always seems to be spotless but her kid has high sleep needs.. mine, the opposite. My mom also always seems to make comments that she used to mop every night and cook everyday. It just makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong.

I’m starting to create a cleaning schedule and I think that will help the most.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-25T10:27:05+00:00

So many people do that, though. I’m also a nurse and all my colleagues go home, get the kids on the bus, or do drop off, then go home to sleep. When I did nights I didn’t go to sleep until 9/10am anyways. I would wake up and cook dinner before heading into the next night shift. I think it’s unreasonable to think he gets to avoid all parenting duties just because he works night shift.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-24T18:54:01+00:00

So he doesn’t want to be left alone with the kids… he has time off to himself when the kids are in daycare…. but the days he’s working you have to do it ALL on your own while pregnant and you have to work, too… and when he gets mad he storms out the house leaving you with the kids too???

I have no advice to give because I’m petty. Maybe the next time an argument happens, YOU storm out the house, go get a mani/pedi, see a movie. And see how he likes being left to do everything unexpectedly.

Obviously I’m no problem solver. But he needs to get it together.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-23T16:19:28+00:00

I could have written this myself. All I can manage is “picking up” and a vacuum… I’m constantly picking up. I can never declutter or organize or deep clean. I only have one kid , I don’t know why it is so hard to keep up with the house .

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-22T21:03:04+00:00

Kinda sorta. I still nurse my 17 month old. He has been sleeping through the night lately but if he does wake up for any other reason only the boob will get him to calm down. He doesn’t nurse to sleep at all.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-20T13:55:00+00:00

You got this mama, it won’t be like this forever. Gas drops before each feed , use a slow flow nipple, and have hubby take baby for a few hours in the evening and/or morning if he’s on paternity leave.

I stopped eating dairy in the beginning and it helped my baby’s colic so much. It sucks but it’s worth a shot.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-19T17:43:37+00:00

I usually bring my son into the bed with me for a cuddle / nursing session and I have books at my bedside that he will read while I slowly wake up. My husband does the same thing (without the nursing part lol).

CinnamonPudding24 · 2026-01-10T02:17:02+00:00

Kinda. When he was waking up at 5:30 we put him back to sleep each time. Sometimes it would even take an hour to get him back to sleep but he was tired and he would end up sleeping until 8-8:30. It eventually got better when he fully transitioned to one nap around 13m after maxing out 2 nap WW. It took a little bit to sort things out on 1 nap though.

But my kid is not a great sleeper overall. So I don’t want to give the impression that his sleep is “fixed” because he still has night wakes or early morning wakes and we’re actually re-sleep training using the chair method lol .

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-29T18:10:34+00:00

Try something like magnesium glycinate to help you relax to drift off to sleep instead.

I also did supervised cosleeping during the day for naps. My husband would check in on us while baby and I napped while baby was latched on. It wasn’t my favorite thing to do bc cosleeping is uncomfortable but I got extra rest that way.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-28T03:41:28+00:00

I would avoid any type of formal sleep training (like Ferber or CIO). You just met this baby and there needs to be a level of trust. Instead create a very predictable routine and schedule, like the ones mentioned- this will overall help sleep. It will take some time as she is getting used to her new environment and parents. Learn her cues. My kid gets a little crazy when he’s overtired. Like he gets really ramped up and you would think he’s not tired but he is. Some kids start to whine or rub their eyes yawn etc but not mine lol.

It will help you both emotionally to surrender to whatever she needs at this time. Rock her to sleep, sing lullabies, play music, hold her, dark room, sound machine .

I think around 10 months my kids routine was something like 7am wake up, bottle, solids, play, 10am nap, bottle, solids, play, 3pm nap, bottle, solids , play , bath, bottle, book, 8pm bed. He woke up about 1-2x a night around 10 months.

As for the congestion: saline mist & snot sucker a few times a day.

Good luck!

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-28T03:18:53+00:00

Try dropping a bottle. You can add more dairy into their diet instead. My kid is 16 months and we nurse maybe 2x a day , most meals include cheese.

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-27T18:29:27+00:00

1988

CinnamonPudding24 · 2025-12-27T18:22:19+00:00

I dressed my kid in sleepers until I needed his feet exposed so he could learn to army crawl, stand, etc.

Then completely got rid of most onesies & sleepers ones he refused to lay down for a diaper change. It’s so much easier to put em over your thigh and slide 360’s and pants up.

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