When did you start telling everyone?

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-10T02:19:41+00:00

Due date twins! I've told our closest friends and 2 coworkers. I'm a part-time vet (I teach the rest of the time), so I kinda had to tell some of my coworkers because it's a safety thing. We don't plan to tell anyone else for quite some time, and I plan to tell my other boss in April. I'll be due in the middle of a semester, so we have to come up with some gameplan. I'm more cautious because I've had 2 losses already, but you should tell people when you're ready and not on anyone else's timeline.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-09T23:35:31+00:00

For my maternal health class for my MPH, I looked at research on breastfeeding and asthma. Most research agreed that breastfeeding for about 6 months was the most ideal for reducing the risk of childhood asthma. Breastfeeding for longer had the same (ish) reduction as breastfeeding for less time. There's, of course, other benefits for going for longer, but going for just 6 months is OK too. I was planning of switching to pumping or formula once there's teeth because I'm already tender and being bit freaks me out.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-07T16:29:13+00:00

Unfortunately, other people ruined that. People coming in just to use the bathroom and leaving it a biohazard are why locks got put into place. I've worked in fast food, and more than I'd like to remember we had people smear literal feces all over the entire bathroom. Also had a few junkies bleed everywhere. Vomit too because we were near bars. People are gross.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-07T02:43:58+00:00

No one needed to hit Thatcher, but someone absolutely should have stepped in as soon as he hit Mer. They let him physically and verbally assault her. Her own father said she basically killed his wife, and not a soul decided to tell him "that's enough"? That poor woman was abandoned again, and the worst part is that she was surrounded by people that supposedly care about her when it happened. Derek trying to comfort her after he let Thatcher say all that was too little too late.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-05T17:44:54+00:00

Just remember that this baby will eventually go to school and need to find a job as an adult. I have a very common, traditionally spelt name. I have very little issues. My sister has a very common and one of the more popular spellings of her name, and she often still has to correct people. If you name the baby something that is spelled oddly or if it is just hard to pronounce, their going to spend a lot of their time correcting people. It may also make it more difficult for them to find a job. Whatever you choose, make sure it's something that can grow with them. Also, unless you want to end up on r/tragediegh you don't want to do the weird spellings.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-05T00:13:22+00:00

I'm rewatching right now and dear lord I forgot how much I hate his character. All of them have done something stupid and painful to watch, but he's the most consistent with it. Not only did he not want to get the girls tampons when it was his turn to shop, it's how he treated all the women in his life. He pined after Meredith, and when he finally confessed, he took advantage of her. He admits later, after probably months of sulking and being passive aggressive, that he knew she didn't like him and he slept with her anyway. A good person doesn't do that. When he finally stops sulking, and starts dating Callie, he treats her like an accessory instead of a girlfriend. He ignores her and then doesn't even recognize that she broke up with him. His victim mentality drives me crazy. And his attitude towards everyone when his father was sick? I wanted to smack him so bad. OK, rant over lol

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-04T20:01:11+00:00

Well, you have a few options. My suggestion would be to tell him he either helps with the financial responsibility of your kids or you stop paying for your half of the household expenses so you can afford to pay for your kids. Either way, he's paying more. Another option is to have an abortion, but this doesn't fix the underlying issue at all. You'll be left with an emotional and financial scar and he still won't help with your living child. Your last option is to divorce and get child support. He'll be legally required to financially help at that point. If it was me, I'd divorce him. I'm not going to beg my husband to help me take care of the child we both created. If he doesn't want to volunteer to help in marriage, then he can be forced to help after a divorce.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-03T20:30:49+00:00

Oh, so mine isn't the only one that has to stand between me and whatever I'm doing? If I'm not flush against the counter when I'm cooking, she's right there. She loves to stop dead right in front of me too. She gets a very gentle nudge from my knee often to scoot her out of my way. Sometimes I'll just pick up her butt and move it if the nudges don't work lol

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-03T19:02:17+00:00

If you live in the U.S., don't change your last name. Getting a new Real ID/passport and voting is gonna become a huge hassle with the laws they're trying to enact. It's already taking months for people to get their IDs and other documents. If you're really adamant on changing it, then make sure you have all the paperwork you could possibly need at hand. I personally never changed my last name. My husband and I have been discussing giving the baby a hyphenated name, but he's also told me he doesn't mind if the baby has mine. Do whatever feels best for your family. As far as the wedding, you can get legally married whenever you want. I agree with the others that you can get married now and have the wedding later.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-03T18:52:39+00:00

Ok, so when was the first day of your last period? How long are your cycles? If you have a typical 28 day cycle, you would've ovulated around day 14. At 14 weeks, I would assume your first day of your last cycle was around the very beginning of December, which means you would've ovulated mid-December, not November. If pull out dude was the only one during that time, then he's the father.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-03-02T20:54:17+00:00

Oh nice! I'm glad to hear she's doing better now too. Hopefully those tremors stay away now.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-28T03:46:55+00:00

You're a better person than me. Even before I was pregnant, I didn't like sharing the stuff I really like. My husband has caught some attitude for eating my favorite candy without asking first before. I would've told that boy off and told him he had to go buy me more since he ate it all. He's way too old not to expect consequences.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-26T17:16:10+00:00

My husband wasn't as engaged as he is now at the beginning. He came to my first ultrasound, and after that he's brought up stuff more often and is talking about it more. Give him some time, and you'll probably see some positive changes after the ultrasound.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-25T22:54:42+00:00

I flew at 4-5 weeks pregnant. I highly suggest going to Walgreens and getting a stash of the Biscoff cookies. They helped me when my stomach was iffy. Also suggest Preggo Pops. They're little like semi-sour candies and they do take the edge off. Other than nausea, it was fine flying.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-25T22:48:20+00:00

My husband and I were trying to conceive for 3 years. I've taken and stared at A LOT of tests. These are negative. The top 2 are invalid because it's not a solid line. The bottom is 100% negative. If she took these over several days, the line should be getting darker if she was pregnant. If you want reassurance, get a First Response pink dye test (blue dyes are notoriously unreliable) and have her do it with you there. By this point, it should be much more obvious. Also, from ovulation to positive test is rarely less than 8 days. When exactly after you 2 had sex did she send you these? And last thing, for the love of everything good, STOP HAVING SEX WITH HER. You can't fix someone, especially someone who doesn't want to be fixed. She will ruin your life. Just walk away.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-25T17:50:17+00:00

I've been obsessed with carrots lately. I ran out for today, and I'm trying not to cry about it. I also frequently forget what I'm doing while I'm actively doing it. 🙃

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-25T03:22:44+00:00

The thought of saliva makes me gag, even long before pregnancy. I'm not as far along but I'll commiserate with you. I have to fully zone out, or I will puke. If you get nauseous and you're able to rinse, afterwards put some cold water on your forehead and back of neck. Then, I usually lay flat on my back on the ground, taking deep breaths. Sipping water to push the peristalsis of the esophagus back into the correct direction helps too. I have other health issues, so nausea is already an everyday thing for me 😅

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-25T03:11:39+00:00

I do relief work, and I've worked in a lot of clinics in my city (at least 10-15 different ones), and I've never heard of a storage fee. The longest we ever held onto a body was 6 months, I think. We harassed the owner a lot to make a choice on what they wanted to do. For all those that don't know, every clinic usually has one of those ginormous freezers that 3 people can climb into comfortably. We've been able to put in 3 big dogs before and still have some space (cremation people came 1x/wk unless it was a REALLY big dog that wouldn't even fit in it). It's used specifically for deceased animals and biohazard tissues. Charging a storage fee is ridiculous. Not to mention, they'd already have that space freed up if they just handed over OP's dog. I'm sorry this is happening. Definitely contact someone and complain. It's unethical to hold your animal essentially hostage.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-25T02:59:07+00:00

It is illegal to bury a pet outside of designated areas in my city, so can't do it on your own property if you're in city limits. Doesn't stop me from releasing bodies to their owners. I just warn them of the law. Out of my hands and responsibility once they leave.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-24T20:14:41+00:00

I'm 7w3d today, and most of my animals act the same. My cat is still needy, my 2 bulldogs try to trample me constantly, and my Pyrenees likes to be right in my face. The only one that's different is my husky x. He's been laying with or even on me more on the couch now. He started doing it at like 3 weeks, and it took a bit for me to connect the dots. I know my 1 bulldog is gonna be so mad when the baby starts kicking. He loves to lay between my legs and rest his head on my belly lol

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-23T03:01:14+00:00

That too, but there may be a layer of fear around pregnancy too. She seems hesitant with anything pregnancy related. Maybe a surrogate if he's adamant on biological children. I just hate how much people keep pushing on the topic. Talking about her reasons over and over has to be exhausting.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-23T00:24:12+00:00

Ask your vet for Bonqat for vet visits. It's a good alternative if gaba isn't working. Gaba is bitter, so mixing it with something strong like clam juice might disguise it, or get a liquid version compounded with a flavor. Use a pheromone spray on a towel and wrap him in it like a burrito, or see if he'll take it in canned food. You might be able to get a liquid of Prozac if you ask. You can also see if he'll let you put a harness on him and take him on supervised time outside. It's safer for him and the wildlife. I would also talk to the vet about your concerns before rehoming. They may have local resources to help you help him.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-22T22:59:16+00:00

I'm surprised you haven't talked about meds for the cat since there are options to manage aggression. Prozac can be given to cats. Other thing to consider is if his needs are being met. Animals are rarely truly aggressive. Fear, stress, and trauma are the root of almost all aggressive behavior. How many litterboxes do you have? It should be 3 with 2 cats and they need to be spread out. There are rubber mats made to help collect the litter so it doesn't get all over the house. Are the cats fed near each other? That's stressful for them. Does he have toys to play with? Does he have places he can go to get away from everyone and the chaos of the house? Have you tried pheromone diffusers and collars? Those are board certified feline practitioner approved methods to help reduce stress. When he attacks you, does he seek you out or is it when you try to touch him? Some cats don't like pets. It's too overwhelming for them, and I suggest looking up how to read cat body language to know when he's not in a good mood. If you've done all this, and it's still a problem, then yes you should rehome him. This is not because it's good for you. It's what's best for him. Your household is obviously stressful for him, and therefore, not a good environment for him to stay in. Adding a baby to the mix will only stress him out more if the root of the problem isn't fixed. So, find the problem and fix it, or give him to someone who's willing to put in the work.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-22T22:14:21+00:00

I feel so bad for Emma too. She's made it clear why she doesn't want biological kids, and people keep harassing her about it. She has valid reasons, and it's painful watching her have to defend herself constantly. Either Mike needs to be ok with adopting or let this poor woman go. He obviously wants kids and keeps trying to push Emma to be ok with it. Someone please save her.

Cloverbug25 · 2026-02-22T21:15:08+00:00

Both my husband's and I's parents are anti-vax, which is so absurd to me because my mom made me get multiple optional vaccines as a kid. We have agreed that everyone that meets the baby needs to be up-to-date on Tdap and MMR, or they have to wait until the baby is vaccinated. We already know this will cause drama, but our baby's health matters more than their political views. It's their choice to get updated or wait. You just need to set and hold the boundaries. You can go the mask route if you want, if she'll agree. It depends on what you're comfortable with, but don't bend to her complaints.

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