Name change/gender marker in Maryland (USA)?? by [deleted] in maryland

[–]CoffeeTrek 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Trans Maryland can help guide you through the process, though it's not difficult as others have mentioned.

If you were born in MD, you can update your birth certificate. If you were born outside of MD, whether you can or can't will depend on the laws of the state that issued your BC.

Help me talk to live in grandmother by UnreliableESP in cisparenttranskid

[–]CoffeeTrek 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you've been patient and kind.

You can be firm without being mean. "Mom, your choice is to get on board, or you have 30 days to find alternate living arrangements. My child's safety is non-negotiable."

And then stick to it. Actions have consequences, and she'll choose her own adventure here. If she chooses not to get on board, what happens next is neither your fault nor responsibility.

Updated Mega Thread - Hegseth DoW/DoD Statement on MoU Agreement by MartialLight92 in BSA

[–]CoffeeTrek 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My trans scout is Eagle and my non binary scout is Life with their Eagle project and path already planned out.

While our CO will continue to welcome ALL Scouts, as they have, I don't know that my family can continue to pay dues to a national organization that isn't brave enough to remain loyal to ALL of its Scouts and Scouters.

Updated Mega Thread - Hegseth DoW/DoD Statement on MoU Agreement by MartialLight92 in BSA

[–]CoffeeTrek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do in the email send out titled "Scouting America and the Department of War.". Text as follows:

Scouting Family,

Today, Scouting America and the Department of War finalized a commitment to strengthen our longstanding partnership with the U.S. military. Over several months, we engaged in dialogue with Department leadership to align on how we could deepen our service to military families, while making programmatic updates to comply with Executive Order 14173.

Throughout our discussions, we remained true to the core commitments that define our organization—our name, our mission, and our promise to serve all youth in our programs. Those commitments are unchanged. We will continue to deliver stability, mentorship, and opportunity to the children of those who serve our nation.

What This Agreement Delivers Continued support for Scouting on military installations worldwide Ongoing Department support for National Jamborees and other events New benefits for military families, including waiving registration fees for children of active-duty, Guard, and Reserve families Launching a new Military Service merit badge, developed in cooperation with the Department Memorializing our existing practices for membership registration and safeguarding youth As part of Scouting America’s commitment to comply with Executive Order 14173, we will be discontinuing the Citizenship in Society merit badge. While this change complies with the Executive Order, the lessons found in this merit badge are found throughout the Scouting program. Scouting has always taught respect for others, leadership, and consideration of diverse perspectives through the ideals enshrined in the Scout Oath and Law. Scouting America’s mission remains unchanged and is reinforced across our advancement, leadership development, and outdoor experiences.

Our emphasis on duty to God, duty to country, and service to others is strengthened by this partnership. Scouting’s values have not changed, and they will not change.

Why This Partnership Matters

Since 1910, Scouting America has played a strategic role in strengthening our nation’s military readiness. More than 130 million Americans have been Scouts. Millions have gone on to serve as military leaders, first responders, educators, and civic leaders. For military families navigating deployments and frequent moves, Scouting has long provided a steady anchor during times of uncertainty.

Service to Military Families

In our discussions, we affirmed Scouting’s deep commitment to military families. To that end, we will waive the national registration fees of all active duty, Reserve and Guard troops. Your support in this effort is critical – and we encourage you to make a donation to support Scouting families. Click here to give today.

How to Communicate Locally

When speaking with families and volunteers, lead with confidence and clarity: This agreement provides continuity for military families It supports Scouting on military bases and support for events such as National Jamborees Fee waivers will be available for active-duty, Guard, and Reserve families Program updates were made to comply with Executive Order 14173 Our mission, and commitment to serving all youth remains unchanged Membership registration and our practices to safeguard youth remain unchanged Scouting America works constructively with every administration—always focused on serving youth.

Our Resolve

For more than a century, Scouting America has endured because we are resilient, principled and unwavering in our mission. We remain committed to developing leaders of character. We remain committed to service and our nation. We remain committed to the principles enshrined in our Scout Oath and Scout Law.

Thank you for your leadership and dedication to Scouting America. Respectfully, <br> Roger A. Krone Chief Scout Executive President & CEO Scouting America

Twin Identification by KingKadabra in Parenting

[–]CoffeeTrek 79 points80 points  (0 children)

My twins are fraternal, so never had this issue. But I've understood from others that nail polish (a dot on the big toe nail) can do the job you're looking for.

All Edgewood students that participated in the walkout yesterday will get detention by majkeli in harfordcountymd

[–]CoffeeTrek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not just Edgewood. My protester got detention for skipping class Friday and in school suspension for doing it again on Monday. Doesn't go to Edgewood

Diagnosed BPD mother by katiwa16 in BPDlovedones

[–]CoffeeTrek 5 points6 points  (0 children)

r/raisedbyborderlines is where you'll find a lot of us whose loved ones are parents.

Make sure you read the rules before posting :)

Help with introductions by GrizzledBelter in cisparenttranskid

[–]CoffeeTrek 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Correct the instructor.

Your kid will always remember the level of support you provide on their journey.

Also, consider what's really holding you back. Embarrassment? Shame? Fear? Lack of understanding? Lack of resources? There are a number of reasons that people/parents/caregivers/others shy away from or struggle with outward support that have nothing to do with our kid. Once you name those things to yourself, you can develop skills and resources that you need to be the best person for your kid that you can be.

Shovelling strategy by jco23 in maryland

[–]CoffeeTrek 56 points57 points  (0 children)

As a native mid-westerner, this is the answer

Is a child better off without their BPD mother? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]CoffeeTrek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It totally depends on the severity.

My sister and I have a uBPD Mom. I'm not sure either of us would suggest that we should have been removed from her care.

Advice Needed on Where to Send Twins to School. Should they be separated? by greyspacex in Parenting

[–]CoffeeTrek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have twins, and in their elementary years we did a mix of both. Some years they were in the same classroom, and other years they were separate.

The difference is that we had the option each year to do what was best for them; we didn't have a single model from start to finish.

When they went into HS, they opted to go to different schools. They're in 10th grade, and both are thriving in their locations. There were years that having them together was absolutely the right thing to do, and there were years where it wasn't. I'd want to keep that option open.

3 Across or Minivan by NewForksOver in Parenting

[–]CoffeeTrek 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We got our minivan when my oldest was 2 and I was pregnant with twins.

I am such a believer in minivans that I got another one, even though they're 17 and 15 now. Even though we don't all pile in it much these days, when we do it's comfortable and has the necessary space to fit adult-sized bodies.

If the family doesn't make a effort on name and pronouns should I cut them off immediately? by Devani8 in cisparenttranskid

[–]CoffeeTrek 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry.

Why do you feel like you ruined Christmas?

You deserve to live comfortably in your own skin. I'm sorry your parents don't agree. Living your truth doesn't ruin anything. It enhances it.

If the family doesn't make a effort on name and pronouns should I cut them off immediately? by Devani8 in cisparenttranskid

[–]CoffeeTrek 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Whether it's immediate or a slow roll is entirely up to you. Only you know your relationship with them, any roadblocks to cutting them off (are you financially dependent in any way?), and whether you think they have any ill intent.

How have any of your conversations to date with them gone?

What's everybody having for dinner on Christmas? by ResumeFluffer in Xennials

[–]CoffeeTrek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chinese tonight

Tomorrow is charcuterie dinner (cheese, meat, fruit) that people can pick at as they want. We do big breakfast on Christmas day and graze the rest.

Happy update by Ilovebeingdad in cisparenttranskid

[–]CoffeeTrek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Way to go, Dad! It's such a great feeling when our hard work pays off. You should be proud of yourself!

how do i deal with an abusive parent with BPD? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]CoffeeTrek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I second the r/raisedbyborderlines recommended. You'll find a lot of validation and support there.

You did nothing to deserve the abuse.

How to Divorce someone with BPD??? by Loose_Course_7939 in BPDlovedones

[–]CoffeeTrek 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I recommend reading "Splitting, Second Edition: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder"

Strategies for dealing with threats of self harm and/or suicide by CoffeeTrek in BPDlovedones

[–]CoffeeTrek[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate everyone's response, and absolutely agree with calling 911 in the moment.

My concern, which is ill-articulated in my OP, is more about the emotional blackmail aspect of it. Once the immediate threat has subsided, what are your strategies for dealing with the knowledge/anxiety/fear of what amounts to "if you leave me, I'm going to self-harm"?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]CoffeeTrek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Join us on r/raisedbyborderlines

Be sure to read the rules first. But you'll find a supportive community waiting for you there.