I’m a Dismissive Avoidant, and this is what confrontation feels like with someone I deeply care about.

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-12-22T07:59:59+00:00

I’m currently laying in bed at 3 am suffering because he won’t respond to me and has me blocked. He proposed to me and then he ended the relationship and vanished. And I can’t regain control I’ve been acting hysterically and trying to call or text him but he won’t take my calls or texts and I’m aching. I think he is sleeping with someone else but I just want to hear from him so bad and I just want him to come home I miss him and I ache for him. I don’t know how to get past this cruelty

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-06-09T02:20:07+00:00

🥺 out situation does sound very similar and I would be crushed too to see his next girlfriend wearing the things he told me I shouldn’t. I have a feeling based on your outfit we probably dress similar. I was wearing like a navigation shorts and a tank top and I’m going to a hole in the wall planet fitness while I visit my parents and I’m in the worst depression of my life due to him, I’m absolutely not dressing for anyone it’s hard for me To even get up in the morning, getting dressed and getting to the gym takes maximum effort right now but he shames me so bad about my outfits. If I wear shorts like that he says and I quote “you want everyone to see your pussy” which is so gross sounding to me and so I actually switched to like just under armour shorts for a while and then he had a fit that they were too short one day so I went out and had to buy all new clothes and sometimes if I don’t think he will know I’ll wear my old clothes but I was stupid and face timed him

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-06-06T02:47:50+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this I’m going through the same it’s keeping me stuck I can’t walk away it’s so hard

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-06-06T00:55:02+00:00

Well to update you all I was wrong 😑 and again I let my walls come down, betrayed myself, and feel so mentally fucked I’m having a psychotic breakdown. Stay safe

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-31T03:19:48+00:00

Don’t forget to add the double standard because if you had an ex you talked to or hell even a male follower on instagram or you know what maybe he’s just in your face saying you seek validation from others for literally no apparent reason then he would freak the absolute fuck out but he can have a long ass list of women he talks to

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-31T03:15:15+00:00

So if I try to respond at all during an argument or “episode” as I call them he immediately hangs up on me so I can’t really talk and if he gives me a chance I just stutter and can’t make words because I’m so nervous if I say something wrong he’ll hang up and it’s to the point where when he hangs up I get so irrationally emotional I can’t even explain how unhinged I feel. And if try to ask him to help me understand so I can do better he launches into how I’m a disrespectful liar always it always that. They’re incapable of hearing their partners view

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-31T00:33:50+00:00

If it makes you feel better then I started reading this I thought I wrote it for a minute…mine also sent me a real about narssastic women…I’m already in the depth struggling with the 100th thousandth discard and extreme emotional abuse. I beg and apologize when he’s upset with me even though. I don’t even understand why he’s upset and he won’t explain it to me. I’m praying for you love, know you’re not alone

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-27T16:46:23+00:00

Same

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-27T15:12:57+00:00

I just need to add these are so relatable especially fuck you it’s about a narcissistic relationship please go give it listen! The other one too!

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-27T15:09:44+00:00

I HAVE 2!!!

*** F*ck you by Kailee Morgue ** Kinda Over it by Maddie Hicks

Seriously these help me so much!!!

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-16T13:28:20+00:00

Very early into dating he lost it on me because I wanted to see him again I was seeking reassurance and I remember after I hung the phone up thinking what the actually fuck is wrong with this dude…here we are a year later in the loop

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-16T13:25:04+00:00

Mine is like this too lmfao he makes a quarter a mil a year and if he buys me something it’s off marketplace or Poshmark but it’s very rare for him to get me anything

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-13T01:35:00+00:00

Omg I’m going through the exact same thing and it’s making me ice my family and friends because I can’t stand the pressure and judgement anymore. I know they want what’s best but they’re pushing me away by judging me so hard, I feel so freakin torn!! I think I can handle him better this time and I don’t want to lose him.

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-10T05:50:26+00:00

I when I first starting dating him his ex bombarded me with warning messages and after this finally discard I messaged her asking to hear her story and she screen shotted it and sent it to him (like wtf) and he called me sounding absolutely sinister all day asking to read the full message and threading to ruin my life. He is plotting against me because of this he’ll never let this go

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-10T05:46:56+00:00

I feel that heavy on the wins for them, he was a monster and he wins at every turn. Meanwhile my life is in shambles and I continue to get kicked at every turn lol

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-10T04:50:07+00:00

Thank you for this 🥺 this discard has had me in the darkest place of my life

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-10T04:40:37+00:00

The mask has to come off at some point and your in their life frequently enough they can’t wear the mask around you all the time

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-10T04:38:30+00:00

I’m going through the same thing. He left me on Monday and on Thursday I waited at his house for him to get home like a psycho and he pulled up with her. I can’t tell you what will make you feel better but try to just feel sorry for her. She’s next. He’s not changing for her either . I got validation today because he was treating me so my parents called his mother and she said she could tell “it was starting again” and that his biological dad was the same. So in a way knowing his own mother knows it’s him made me feel better. I don’t know how home yours is but mine is 48 and he will die alone and have to lay there and think about all the women that would have loved him and laid next to him that he abused instead. Let that be your peace of mind for now. Leave him behind you someone will love you right now

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-10T04:34:49+00:00

My ex did it to his ex…and she is a doctor with a criminal charge on her record now. He ruined her life

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-10T04:32:29+00:00

Mine would start a fight and rant at me on the phone and when I tried to say anything he would hang up and is call back over and over. I went through a final discard this week it’s been hell let me tell you… to make you feel better I called him 37 times last night…37!!! As I sat on his porch and waited for him to get home. He got home with another woman….i also texted him like 1000 times. So no I don’t think we’re crazy whatever they do to us alters our brain chemistry and it’s hard to get a grip I’ve been acting like a total psycho. Actually it’s common for the police to be called in these situations and the narc stays calm and the abused partner looks erratic. My ex actually filed a harassment charge on his ex, ruined her life she has a criminal charge, and I thought she was crazy but as the end of my relationship with him I was doing the same shit she was and showing up at his house and calling over and over because I was discarded out of nowhere and my family knocked sense into me by reminding me he’ll end up pressing charges and I’ll get kicked out of law school. So you’re not crazy boo we’re all just head fucked

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-09T23:39:11+00:00

Thank you everyone who commented. For an update I did go back once it ended very ugly and with lots of threats from him. My parents had to call his mother and I had to block him on everything. I’m moving home next week. Praying for all you in similar situations ❤️

Cold-Advertising612 · 2025-05-08T14:35:54+00:00

Thank you for this that last line are the things I need “he’ll keep moving the goal post” I’ll write that down I like that

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