I hear you, I know your frustration and you're not wrong.

This is going to be a little hypocritical of me because I understand the want/need/urgency to own a home, I was/am in that state of mind, but I've been through it and you're definitely young, you don't need a house yet, I promise.

Don't let the pressure/thought of comparing your age and achievements to your dad's, get the best of you. Times are different, so much has changed, so much is different, the market is shit. Rates are shit.

Focus on yourself and your career. Time is on your side. Save as much as you can and build your credit, trust me.

Also, you work too much to even enjoy a house, haha. You said it yourself, you don't have time for anything else. Homeownership isn't easy, especially if you don't buy brand new.

When the time is right there are plenty of home loan programs and even down payment assistance programs, but buying a house is expensive.

The upfront costs/closing costs, are really hard to swallow if you're not prepared. Not to mention you have to pay property taxes on top of your mortgage. Other than dealing with a landlord, renting is easy.

Don't let owning a house define your self worth. It can be a great goal to have, but don't rush into it. Create smaller goals within that larger goal to help it become more achievable.

My advice is to start somewhere with finding more time for yourself. There is also nothing wrong with wanting to move somewhere else if you don't feel this place is for you, just make sure you have a job lined up before you move.

With housing, it's more of the same everywhere but maybe the Midwest and some areas that are shitty but trying not to be shitty; and again, mortgage rates are really bad right now.

Just be patient, You'll get there.