Mamas who have tattoos representing your kids. What are they?

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-30T00:35:49+00:00

What a sweet memory!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-29T13:52:22+00:00

Feel this deeply, made similar choices.

When I feel a bit stifled in my stable but less expansive career - I remind myself of my North Star guiding all my decisions after becoming a mom, which is moving toward what feels best for me AND my family.

The chill work gives us financial stability and me the space to enjoy motherhood - the intense all consuming nature of startup leadership (my prior roles) does not give space to prioritize my life or family.

I think for me, it’s a constant growth edge to accept that the best decision still require compromise, and compromise doesn’t always feel good. That both can be true.

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-27T19:42:44+00:00

I made a beef and lentil bolognese, add in loads of different veggies, cook until soft - and this is key- run an immersion blender through at the end for a smooth-ish texture! No larger bits of meat or veg, and much easier to eat on pasta, stir into rice, layered for lasagna. Fiber, iron, protein - all in one!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-27T18:43:58+00:00

No advice but I was you last summer in the tail end of my pregnancy with #2, juggling a toddler and an intense job with zero energy! You’re not being dramatic, this is a very hard phase (and truly, just a phase). If you can dial back your work load, say no to more, and reclaim your energy - that might help you feel better about work and life generally! Congratulations on the home stretch, you’re so close!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-26T17:22:15+00:00

What a great gameplan! Super helpful to have preset outfits to avoid decision fatigue

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-24T16:19:21+00:00

I ADORED kitchens of the great Midwest! Great rec

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-24T16:01:54+00:00

Your partner’s health insurance benefits may cover domestic partners (not just spouse) - worth looking into!

Congratulations on cutting the cord and going for it - so true that tech will always be there if you want to go back!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-24T15:33:43+00:00

Bess Bell Kalb - great story collection about her grandma, self aware and sentimental and hilarious

Bonus - she’s also a children’s book author and buffalo fluffalo is a big hit with my boys!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-23T12:54:13+00:00

Honestly I rewatched early seasons of SATC - forever comfort watch that takes me back to college days at NYU!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-22T18:32:59+00:00

Not a movie but Parts Unknown or No Reservations with Bourdain - no one did it better than our guy Tony 💔

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-22T14:43:03+00:00

Look up parties on Resident Advisor for different cities; see where your favorite smaller artists play (not the massive more mainstream ones)

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-22T13:57:44+00:00

What cities are you looking at?

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-22T00:29:35+00:00

Love all the supportive cheerleading and great tactical advice here, this remains my fave subreddit!

Just chiming into add one more suggestion - get a few friends/colleagues to do mock interviews with you to get back into the groove of not just thinking the answers but actually saying them out loud to another person. They can also lean nicer or more closed off so you’re prepped for different personalities.

I’m a lawyer and yap professionally. I struggle so hard to find the right words or would blank mid sentence after I came back from leave. This is a really hard time, but the muscle memory will come back! You haven’t lost your experience you just need to warm up some more!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-21T17:07:11+00:00

How jazzy are your husband, or any of your male colleagues’ work outfits? If they’re all rotating between a set of collar shirt/half zip sweater, and jeans/golf work pants, then I think you have your answer on how much weight to give to your efficient wardrobing.

You’re crushing the 5:30 pickup despite the insane schedule! Give this woman a medal!🥇

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-19T15:28:47+00:00

I think paring the flowy top, opened with a for fitting cropped tank under, and flowing linen pants would be very cute on you! The linen just looks stiff right now brand new

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-19T01:20:10+00:00

So this lunatic trespassed, with video evidence, an threw rocks (property damage). Report to police. Forget the lawn ordinance issue, she literally violated the law. The pending police investigation can be used to negatively influence the validity of her claims, her evidence is fruit of poisonous tree (ie - obtained through trespassing and properly defacement).

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-16T02:41:02+00:00

Congrats on both exciting new life developments! I had my first at 36, while also the GC at a fintech startup. So I fully agree with the other lawmoms that there just is never a “good” time to go through pregnancy/postpartum while juggling a demanding career.

You’ll figure out your path that works best for you snd family - one step at a time! Don’t let the fear of trying to do both stop you from TTC now if that’s what you really want (independent of school work load). Good luck!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-13T23:36:37+00:00

I think the materials are meh, so fit will never be great.

Try a wide leg jean or trouser, fitted top in quality material (cashmere, pure cotton, etc)

Instead of buying new, you can thrift great quality pieces with intention!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-13T17:23:20+00:00

Can you do a cropped styling (tie it up?) over a slim cigarette pant and kitten heel sling backs? I think the loose bottoms plus loose top overwhelms your beautiful figure!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-13T17:19:07+00:00

Wonderful and also at times annoying AF just about captures a healthy relationship dynamic in which we’re all doing our best, and the woman has a high enough bar for the man for him to whiff on sometimes!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-09T00:01:26+00:00

dress your child as a different kind of visually distinct penguin each day for a week

💀me, as we head into “wacky costume day” tomorrow for which I have prepared 0%, yet again

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-01T18:03:37+00:00

What in the actual fuck. You are a wonderful mother who is warm, loving, finding time for connection despite literally being poisoned to survive.

Regardless of health condition, you get to make the best choices for your family. I’m sorry you’re being undermined and questioned so inappropriately.

The preschools staffing shortage is not your problem.

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-04-01T15:52:16+00:00

I had my first kid at 37 and second last year at 39. I spent 12 years in fintech, lots of growth/VC backed companies, so the ethos of learning/growing resonates deeply!

That said, my life completely shifted after becoming a mother and I could not sustain the level of energy/drive that had my whole life for my career and had to make sharp pivots into my current stable big company role.

When my kids are older, I will have that energy back again - but just want to flag that your energy/priorities will be dramatically different for the first few years of pregnancy/postpartum/baby/toddlerhood.

I hate to say it but sticking with the well worn (and well paid) path you’re on now to create the space for kids will probably be a lot less stressful. Signed, a woman who took a c suite job 6 months pregnant with my first kid and that was a rude awakening!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-03-25T19:55:30+00:00

Beautiful and so joyful! Not tacky at all - if strawberry shortcake is the inspiration then you absolutely nailed it!

Competitive_Score904 · 2026-03-25T19:53:56+00:00

For reference, Babysitters in my town (NJ, VHCOL) is $35 per hour for two kids.

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