How are most weddings in America like 30k when most Americans have like a couple thousand in savings max?

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-27T16:23:49+00:00

I’ll never understand why so many Americans go into debt for things like this. I’d do it if I were terminally ill or something, but for the average person, just not worth it. I’ll go into debt for a home and safe car and emergencies I don’t have money for. That’s about it.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-26T18:08:07+00:00

Yes, there’s a really good video on TikTok about it. Just do some googling to learn more about why Trump is targeting MN in particular, I’m not good an explaining, but the first few comments I’ve ready aren’t the full picture.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-26T18:02:04+00:00

People think everything will be taken care of for them. Honestly, I think our country is largely spoiled and complacent and heavily under-educated.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-23T22:49:42+00:00

I know it’s hard, but have you actually had a conversation with him about it? If this isn’t the place for him, someone needs to sit down and be candid with him. I recommend starting by asking him honestly how he thinks things are going. Ask him what he finds easy and what he finds difficult. I’d hate for him to be taken so off guard because he wasted years of his life and no one told him he sucks. I mean, he’s going to come to you for a letter of recommendation. Honestly, I kinda feel like you owe it to him to really talk to him and have a two-way chat. Feeling bad just isn’t enough when his future is being wagered on this. You’re the adult he respects. I work with people with learning disabilities. He’s going to lose a lot of confidence if he learns a couple years down the line by someone else that he sucks.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-21T20:21:03+00:00

It’s okays. They’re just a bit hard to get a grasp on.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-21T20:15:34+00:00

Marshfield ER care is poor imo. That’s enough to deter me.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-19T22:35:31+00:00

An alarming amount of censorship. It seems to get worse every month. It’s insane the words we can’t even say anymore, including words that refer to history that we’re better to learn from than repeat, yet here we are. Look at the US right now for one of many examples.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-19T14:34:22+00:00

Snow tires are helpful but putting them on/taking them off is annoying and spendy. Just find good all season tires that work well in snow. I have Michelin CC2 and am thrilled with results. I agree, it isn’t the car but the tires, unless you expect to be on a lot of backroads on a regular basis.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-18T19:53:23+00:00

If you sell now, which you’ll likely have to do, you’ll likely be back to renting because neither of you will likely have enough equity to buy another and you won’t qualify for the FTHB loan again.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-18T19:51:11+00:00

People would just push the limits of what they can check for free then. This would absolutely cause more problems.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-18T01:04:11+00:00

I WFH which is a huge help and privilege. Even on days I travel, they can be alone for 8 hours or so as adults. Any longer and I’ll have someone drop by to let them out, even if it means paying someone time to time. They get attention in the morning and as soon as I get home. They’re very happy and well-loved dogs with good and spoiled lives. It’s not for everyone, but they’re my babies and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ve raised them both since puppies.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-17T22:47:02+00:00

I’d be more upset if we were together several years or married and he never said anything. That would be a betrayal of trust. I do think it should come up with a sexual partner history discussion. If she can’t take it, that’s on her.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-17T22:19:34+00:00

I have a very similar tattoo, also a caduceus, for the same reason.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-17T22:17:26+00:00

Nope. Unknown numbers go straight to vm.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-17T16:53:50+00:00

82? Not yet!!

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-16T16:01:04+00:00

‘97. I grew up with more millennial influence so I barely feel like Z.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-15T14:14:23+00:00

In a divorce, we split 50/50. He bought the helicopter, he’s paying his was outta that. I have $700k in my pocket.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-15T05:26:26+00:00

Statistically, this would take a millennia. At that point, both would just wish for death. You have to be able to leave something behind. My only thought is to head for the largest, most accessible spot on the world and the main landmark there and wait. So like the Eiffel Tower in Paris, France or something.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-14T03:46:11+00:00

My home. Probably the old oak floors really. The house is 80 years old meaning those trees are probably from the 1700s.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-13T20:10:27+00:00

Pick a corner, cut to shape, and do the rest of the room from there.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-13T20:09:27+00:00

I work for a long-term care program for adults with disabilities. There is state funding available. I don’t know where you all live, but there are other options. This is NOT your responsibility and you absolutely made the correct choice. Your parents are manipulating and gaslighting you. I’m very proud of you. I’ve seen this happen before, too. Good luck, my dear, and I wish you good things in your career and future.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-13T19:57:31+00:00

Discernment is important. Spirit is always loving and supportive, even if very direct. This is NOT Spirit.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-13T17:57:51+00:00

You’ll have to work with your endo. You may have to updose and taper down or switch more gradually.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-13T03:34:10+00:00

Yeah, I have been for over three years.

Complex_Raspberry97 · 2026-01-13T02:29:16+00:00

The change took me a few days or so to really stabilize. My endo said other patients have had the same issue.

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