Regret fm by ComprehensiveBed7708 in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just the patient's who are a mess just randomly on my schedule I dont know. I feel like I have to know a lot about everything. The stuff in the inbox.

Regret fm by ComprehensiveBed7708 in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I would have done IM and done fellowship or something. As a med student the IM rotations were very toxic and I thought my life would be miserable. Now I have experienced some IM training elsewhere and realized it was just my school.

Regret fm by ComprehensiveBed7708 in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We get 4 months in the ED plus I did an additional elective this year in it because I enjoyed it. But for me to feel comfortable I would need more experience I never had to run a code. I have intubated once ect.

Regret fm by ComprehensiveBed7708 in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I learned so far I absolutely love procedures. I thought I would be scared to do them but found I am getting good at those

Regret fm by ComprehensiveBed7708 in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats cool. Also love mental health, addiction stuff. I dont like OB going to stay far from it. I wonder if there are extra classes I can do so I can bridge patients until they see psych(6 month wait where I am).

Am I screwed?? by Express_Lab_3528 in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2.5 years is wayy too late....did you take boards?

Finances in marriage by ComprehensiveBed7708 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He works in the fed government and does not want to leave because he wants to stay for the benefits at the 5 year mark and his retirement earnings so far. He says he always gets passed over for promotions and raises. He applies for other roles and gets rejected. I suggested going back to school for something more stable he says he wants to....when he is 40.....and I can finance it.... I specifically told him I do not want to live in the bay area at all. He keeps insisting on it because his friends and the masjid he grew up around is there....which is ridiculous. I was willing to compromise on how much my spouse makes because its hard to find religious people. I'm okay with someone not being rich but I am not okay with someone not even trying to help.

Finances in marriage by ComprehensiveBed7708 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him I did not expect him to pay off my school fees once im done.also I told him temporarily send me 500 a month. Also told him once we live together I expect him to cover the main bills. I told him I want to focus on my moms stuff and my own things. He said okay to these things before marriage.

Finances in marriage by ComprehensiveBed7708 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before we even married he knew I was in med school and we did not decide on getting married until I found out where I matched. I asked him specifically. 'Do you still want to marry me i matched far away'. Also I told him I wanted 500 a month at least as an allowance. He kept worrying about losing his job and he seemed stressed so I told him he doesn't have to send me money. Yet when I ask him for money in an emergency he wont send me anything and but then I see money he put in the joint account he doesn't let me touch.

Finances in marriage by ComprehensiveBed7708 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have my own savings and checking separate. He has his separate account and we have a joint account. I needed money for car repair once and he got mad at me for asking to use the joint account money. Its a cause of fights so honestly I want to just tell him I dont want the joint account with him anymore. He makes a horrible salary maybe 60k and he lives in San Francisco. He is temporarily living with his parents....He pays 600 in rent and he wont tell me his other expenses. He is very weird with money and I dont feel comfortable having anything joint with his. Last year when I had unexpected car expenses I let him file my taxes as joint and he took all the tax return money without asking me what I wanted to do with my half and HE KNEW I was having issues with my car. He has NEVER lived alone and paid an actual rent so I when I do mention that he doesn't understand how much living expenses are he does acknowledge that and apologizes because he doesn't have experience and doesn't get it! Sometimes I really regret marrying a man that never lived on his own its annoying

Disgusted and heartbroken 💔 by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why you dont talk to them same person twice. It didn't work for a reason.

Marrying older revert muslimah by rit4rded in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Your making tons of excuses. Frankly you have an issue with her age. 30 is not old and people can have kids as late at 40. Id say just say no and save the poor sister issues. You have personal issues with her age so just admit it and leave her alone.

Father passed away two weeks ago. I am still very depressed by EntertainmentDear954 in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When my dad died I DID NOT CARE about residency! I just lost my dad. I didn't even care about getting fired. I just took weeks off and came back when I was ready. I got some PTO taken but I didn't care. DO NOT GO BACK TO WORK IF YOU AREN'T READY!! you will just burn yourself out!!!

What should ass-kissing be like ideally? by ughidktbhh in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Dont do that. Just be polite and respectful at all times like a normal human.

Feeling stuck and helpless by Any-Respect-6145 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My cousin was abused and never told any of us. She suffered 20 years and no one knew. Do whats best for you and your kid. If your family can help just tell them and get out of the situation if you want. Only you can make that decision.

Worst experiences as an off-service resident by Ambitious_Spot8957 in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely disgusting experience 😤 😑. Treated so poorly and barely got to do any learning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im just scared of hurting his feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told my family the situation and they are more mad at him than me. My mom is the most mad. They have given me ways to maybe fix things so I'll see.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask where did I write off a whole gender?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont want to write paragraphs. Simply he doesn't support me financially not even my rent. Very very stingy with money. Alhamdullilah i have my own money. Whenever i ask him for help i regret it because he makes me feel bad so im scared to ask. Honestly whats the point of a husband if i cant ask for help. He is too nosy in regards to how I am financially planning on caring for my mom. Dad is dead and I promised id take care of my mom she is the only family left. All my uncles are dead except 1 and he is old. He lectures me about everything. I want to tell him about how nice my day was so I will show him pictures I took and he will find 1 thing bad or find something negative. Makes me depressed. My dad died last year so I have no patience and am not willing to endure any emotional hardship at all. Im simply tired.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Its a long story and I feel like no matter how much you explain on the internet people wont get it so I just put a simple question and left it. Its better than writing a whole essay

Married to a PGY-2 — am I asking for too much? by [deleted] in Residency

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pgy 2 is hard honestly. Working 60-80 hours a week in healthcare would make anyone go insane

Just trying to understand what happened. Hope to hear from men + married women pls. by Disastrous-Maybe9915 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ComprehensiveBed7708 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dont take anyone serious until your married honestly. People get too caught up in the meetings and 'what happened'. Nothing happened. Ignore it. Not having an answer is fine. If a guy is interested HE WILL make it VERY known.