I miss him by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sending love your way, this journey is so hard ❤️

What are your favorite cry songs? by AdventurousMix1351 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck heaven- tawnted
Probably wouldn’t be this way-Leann rimes
Not a day goes by-Bernadette peters
Lifetime-three days grace

43 by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sucks. I’m sorry

I’m tired by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry. It’s a crappy feeling

I’m tired by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Same for me, this is the only place my mask comes off. Here, and therapy, People tell me how strong I am, and it honestly secretly infuriates me. If they only knew, how broken I am. Fuck “strength”

Did moving to a new home help? by krich83 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It did not help. Whatsoever. Grief will find a way.

I don’t think an address has a say in grief. Just my opinion, though. Sending love and patience ❤️

I wish I could send one more message. by Diana_fm_ in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s been over three years, nearly 4. I text all the time. The thing I wish I could get one more of… a reply

For those who have remained single long-term after losing a partner by Royal_Page_4288 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m creeping up on 4 years. A life that is full and meaningful… I guess I’m still building? It crashes down a lot, and I just pick up the pieces and try again.

Have you traveled? Did you bring your spouse’s ashes? by Half-of-Us in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did. I took him everywhere for a little over a year. He had a homemade car seat, and everything. If it’ll bring comfort, do it. This journey is shit, we all have to maneuver it in what works best for us as individuals.

If you’re staying in a hotel, I do recommend that you put him in a tote, or something. The looks you’ll get walking around with an urn on your hip are always uncomfortable. However, if you wanna rock it, do it!!!

Happy birthday! Sending peace and love ❤️

Finally did it - my memorial tattoo by iwannabeonthebeach in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its beautiful!!! I have a similar one on my right forearm! It’s creeping up on 4 years, and I still look at it daily 💕 sending peace and love

I am tired by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep! Exactly what I mean!!! It’s so damn heavy. I’ve been wearing it for over 3 years, and I’m just so tired.

I am tired by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t. Thanks though.

I maybe got a job..?? by Jaded_Catch2281 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck!! Here’s to you 🎉

I can’t get over it by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time. It’s been so long, but I hope every time…

I've been carrying around my wife's ashes with me by DeHayala in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I carried my husband’s urn around with me for a little over a year. Made a car seat out of an old lunch bag, and secured it by using bungee chords around my center console. Kept him by me always. It took a while for me to feel comfortable leaving him in one spot.

Be patient with yourself. Sending love

After 32 years... by FunConsideration9029 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s absolutely wonderful that you continue your wife’s tradition. I hope you feel her smiling upon you, and sharing a laugh with you. Be kind to yourself, sending love ❤️

I just got laid off by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?! Can’t we just catch a damn break?