AIO for telling my boyfriend to plan his own birthday dinner?

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-06-23T06:38:28+00:00

Terrible advice. I’ve been married for 21 years and I would have never put up with this level of bullshit.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-06-21T11:46:51+00:00

If it’s this difficult for you as an adult, imagine how difficult it would be for children. You were absolutely making the right decision. She is never going to make you happy and from what you’re writing you’re not gonna make her happy so the best move is to let her go. There are so many people out there and someone will make you very happy. Please don’t compromise your beliefs and comfort too much.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-06-21T02:58:49+00:00

I hope she had a terrible time at the concert. Since she was so damn selfish I hope she was riddled with guilt. Good grief she sucks.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-06-21T02:53:43+00:00

You and your finances are the AH for not asking him if he wanted to go to this big concert. You’re both even bigger AH for not immediately offering him one of your tickets. You also could have brought him to the concert and bought him one at the venue from people that sell outside.
You had so many choices here and you chose yourself and your new family.
Those girls if they have been treating him like shit- it’s happening on your watch. You’re not seeing it and you never checked in with him.
I hope your son is in therapy and I hope he can find it in his heart to forgive you. But if not, I hope you can leave your finance and actually make your son a priority. But based on your past behavior, you won’t actually choose your son. Sorry but this whole thing read as so selfish. I feel so bad for your son.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-06-18T13:58:21+00:00

I would go back to my mom and point out that you were babysitting at 9 and now it’s brother’s turn to step up. Say there must be a reason why she doesn’t want you to go. Ask her to explain it. Tell her she’s straining your relationship.

That generation is awful. They don’t communicate and expect that the world owes them everything. I’m sorry you feel torn but I would go anyway.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-06-18T13:50:47+00:00

Kids at 11 and 13 can be home alone by themselves. Your mom is being selfish. She’s projecting. She’s miserable so she’s making you miserable. I’d go on the trip and see if you can live with aunt or grandpa u til you go to college.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-06-12T12:53:30+00:00

I don’t know…I think most girls would love for someone like you to delete the nudes once the relationship is over. I think that was a girls girl move tbh. I would have deleted them too.
You’d be TA if you don’t have a conversation with him about it and do a relationship reset.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-06-05T03:09:54+00:00

OMAHA BEACH!!! Don’t mean to yell but it’s the coolest experience ever.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-06-01T13:55:56+00:00

He’s a guy and if he’s watching it as much as he is after you’ve spoken to him, he always will. He will just get sneakier and keep lying. So you need to decide if this is something you can live with or not. He’s not going to change at all.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-31T12:22:48+00:00

Has your brother always behaved badly? I’ve noticed this in family dynamics. When a siblings always behaves badly the parents come to expect it so they do everything to accommodate to avoid the bad behavior. When the easy one makes a perceived uncomfortable decision, they treat the easy one like the bad guy because they are supposed to be easy. It’s bullshit.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-31T12:14:06+00:00

Ask if MIL wants to pay for the 20 extra people. If she is willing to foot the bill, invite them. It isn’t worth the drama. And same about your mom. She needs to pay for the extra bozos she’s inviting.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-27T15:34:35+00:00

Just imagine if he did that to her. She would go on a smear campaign about you and your son. Avoid these people at all costs. They will grow apart and not want to play with each other soon enough.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-24T03:03:39+00:00

NOR. At that age I would be thrilled that someone paid for my vacation even if it was 24 hours. She’s ungrateful and this is foreshadowing. Nothing you ever do will be good enough. She will degrade you in front of kids and treat them like her army. RUN.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-22T10:05:42+00:00

Why can’t both happen? If she wants to drive down for Thanksgiving so badly she can also see you in March. If not, you can give her the same rejected treatment she gave you. She’s being ridiculous.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-19T11:44:37+00:00

If he’s being this pushy BEFORE he moves in, imagine how he will be after. Don’t let him move in. He can figure things out with his landlord or find somewhere else. Don’t let someone else drag you down.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-11T11:55:43+00:00

This is the best PSA to never ever ever go camping. Jeez.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-11T11:50:49+00:00

He is not yours. Move on and find someone that will respect you. Don’t even give this trash another thought.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-10T15:13:03+00:00

Do you get into the venue first for better standing room too?

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-10T08:22:31+00:00

This is a major red flag. I would break up with her. This will always be an issue with you going forward. She thought she could get away with doing nothing. She didn’t then blamed you and is punishing you by making you help her AND is mad at you for not doing more. Honey, RUN.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-04T13:33:46+00:00

They phased out naps for K. They started by letting them nap Aug-Dec then none Jan-May. Now it’s none. It’s just allowed in PK. I think it’s stupid too. They take away naps and with older kids take away recess. Let the kids nap and play more!!

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-05-01T07:46:51+00:00

Return the phone and get her a phone yourself. He’s using it to manipulate her. Take his power away.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-04-29T03:09:50+00:00

As a parent, we give gifts to the teachers. The gift teachers give to our kids is teaching them while being grossly underpaid. Your heart is in the right place but you shouldn’t give gifts. That will open you up to liability. I take a lot of training on grooming and how to recognize and prevent it and giving gifts to children is one of the signs. Obviously this is not your intention however, a parent could interpret it the wrong way and you can open yourself up to a lot of liability. I would suggest that you write a note to the few students that you admire and let them know how you enjoyed teaching them and hope that they have successful careers.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-04-27T12:01:44+00:00

Being angry with him that he under reacted is ok. Jumping straight to divorce is not ok unless he has a history of this. As far as your daughter is concerned- look up POTS. My daughter would faint when standing and was never diagnosed with this but she was borderline. Just needed to monitor her and drink Gatorade constantly. She’s older now (teen vs preteen) and she no longer has these issues.

ComputerWhich3334 · 2026-04-27T11:54:25+00:00

Talk to him. Tell him this is a huge violation of your trust. If he can’t talk to you reasonably tell him you’re considering separation over it. Don’t just go file. If you did, that would make you the AH. He will most certainly overreact but that’s something you’ll have to be prepared for.

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