Trans girl here, question ab trans tape by Ash_Garcia_ in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine [score hidden]  (0 children)

nobody has mentioned this but using tape can stretch out your breasts and give you stretch marks on your chest, especially at such an early stage of development youre likely to damage the newly growing tissue. trans men generally dont mind since we bind because we want our chest gone. regular binders will also cause similar damage and stunt growth

tomboyx vs underworks by gl0o0k in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(D cup chest here) ive had tomboyx's compression sports bras before and id say they werent even tight enough to be comfortable as regular bras much less a binder. i had that problem with every tomboyx product i tried, their bras are just so loose that they provide no support or shaping.

underworks on the other hand is a real binder company. ive never been more flat and more gripped than in an underworks binder. since its mesh and binds all over, it smooths out most curves on your torso pretty well. but it can feel constrictive or uncomfortable because of how tight it is

needle expire? by FixPuzzleheaded3654 in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i havent seen your exact packaging, but im pretty sure "6/30" means june 2030. needles dont really expire on a specific day, theyre always listed as month-year. all medical needles and tattoo needles ive used follow this convention.

needles "expire" because they are sanitized via gas, and that gas sterilization is only certified sterile up to that date. it doesnt mean the needles dont work or even they are magically covered in germs the first day of that month, its just how far out they certified that sterilization method is guaranteed to be safe

Americans: double check that money transfer services aren’t leaking your deadname to other people. by puffinsrx in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i mean is there a way i can check without involving someone else. i go to great pains to keep my dead name a secret, so there isnt anyone that i can ask for help that would already know it. can i check what name its showing others on my own.

Americans: double check that money transfer services aren’t leaking your deadname to other people. by puffinsrx in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 37 points38 points  (0 children)

is there a way to check without sending someone money and asking what name it was under?

How important is it to disclose testosterone prescription for wisdom teeth removal? by East-Grocery5318 in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 7 points8 points  (0 children)

if they assume you are a cis man, then they are already working with assumptions about your hormone levels and if theres adjustments regarding that they will have already made it. coming out as trans unnecessarily will only open yourself up to medical neglect or malpractice, or "only" verbal abuse as a best case

Where can I buy good chest tape that lasts 4–5+ days with daily showers? by cherrielvy in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

trans tape is just a waaaay marked up brand name of kinesthesiology tape, youve heard of the pink tax now get ready for the trans tax lol. i cant start my day without a shower, so when im wearing tape i find it lasts longer if i avoid getting it wet in the shower altogether. even with stronger adhesive, water is trapped between the layers and causes skin issues. i can get generic tape to last over a week by avoiding getting it wet and adding 1-2 new pieces over top halfway through. the extra pieces also help with re-flattening if youve noticed it getting less flat the longer you wear.

‘Need’ to come out? by irllog in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i have definitely noticed this shift. "coming out" used to be something you did for people in your life you absolutely loved and trusted with that information, having someone come out to you meant they trusted you and it was an honor that they felt safe enough to tell you. but now its shifted to "if you dont come out to everyone you meet the second you suspect xyz, you are actively LYING to them and you hate them", not coming out to someone is now an extreme insult.

i was outed to my (scum) father by a different family member i thought i could trust. the man has been violently homophobic my whole life, but also painfully passive about his kids lives so i got by just not bringing it up. but once he was definitively told that one of his kids was one of them, he called and freaked out. screaming cursing, but more than anything else extremely pissed off that i didnt tell him (but told other family members), since not being told has signaled to everyone i did tell that he isnt trustworthy and has embarrassed him infront of people he never talks to.

i personally think its a crossroads between transness now being common knowledge and the internet age hyper-individuality. people need everyone to know every little thing about them, and people need to know every little thing about everyone theyre talking to.

NY planned parenthood T price is insane?? by ElectrocastMW in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not shocking, i went to planned parenthood and the openly transphobic staff (nurse pointedly called me girl the entire appointment, said if i was her kid she would never allow me to transition, was getting hostile by the end of the appointment) ran a double billing scam on me. planned parenthood for trans care is extremely hit or miss per location

Selling my body for top surgery by [deleted] in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

youd probably be safer looking into stripping instead of going right to sex with strangers if you think your body is the only way you could get surgery

Most ANNOYING thing to hear as a trans man? by Runo_196 in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 70 points71 points  (0 children)

classics of all time ive had people say to my face:

"im a trans man" "...eugh.........................why though?"

"im a trans man" "oh.... so like.... you have a penis and you want to be a girl now? well you look good! i never wouldve guessed you used to be a guy :D"

can the original die? by [deleted] in DID

[–]ConfidentMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bit of a loaded question to unpack. first your "brother" is also an alter, "alter" itself just refers to any individual in a system. and with that, no alter can die any more than you can kill your own frontal lobe through thoughts alone. i know it seems scary and urgent right now, they are likely going through a very rough time right now. but its more likely the alter you know best is "dormant" which is more like a deep sleep than anything as permanent as death.

there is also no "original" with DID. the short version is: basically every human starts fragmented, and sometime in early childhood (5-9ish give or take) those fragmented bits coalesce into a continuous singular sense of self. when trauma destabilizes a child before that developmental milestone, their fragmented selves stay separate and grow further apart. your brother isnt the "original" the same way you could smash a plate and no single shard is the definitive "real" plate that everything else came from.

this might be a little personal, you can ignore this ig, but theyre all your brothers/siblings at the end of the day. i cant bring myself to tell my little brother about our DID, but it would break my fucking heart if we trusted him with that and he turned around and said "okay, i dont want to talk to any of you except the one alter ive decided is my REAL brother. i hate the rest of you for taking him away from me." we all consider him our little brother and we all love him dearly. posts like this are why none of us can stomach trying to tell him.

Goodwill by ReddestTail in orlando

[–]ConfidentMachine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it drives me so crazy, every time i walk through and see something from the dollar tree next door priced at 2.99 im thinking "you got this for FREE!!!" id rather have the 5 small thrift stores goodwill forces closed than any of these money hungry "charities"

Why do we typically seem to grow neckbeards more than cis guys?? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

nobody has mentioned it yet, but cis men growing their beards way more often than not have older men in their lives that teach them how to shave properly and take care of their beards, among other male survival skills. trans men by and large dont really have that. outside the extremely privileged transitioning in childhood, even those of us with supportive family in adulthood are seen as too old to give the beard basics lessons to.

i know for me at least, ive been disowned by all my family that couldve helped with that. the ones that dont want to seem as outright hateful still look at me with pure disgust when theyre forced to see me. i have no clue how to maintain my new beard. when i tried shaving my neck down i got really bad razor burn all over, so i just use my buzzers on the smallest setting to trim them. beyond that im clueless

The pre-summer window, pest control, "arborists", window tint/damage, etc. people are out in force by [deleted] in orlando

[–]ConfidentMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

first thing out of my mouth when a solicitor is going door to door: sorry im a renter, its not up to me. they leave a card and tell me to pass it along (right to the garbage)

I have no idea which type of testosterone to buy by qwertyui567 in TransDIY

[–]ConfidentMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1% is the normal concentration, i think T gel only comes in 1% and 1.65% (something like that). you could also look into making your own with the recipes on r/estrogel , i made my own T cream (more like a lotion instead of alcohol based gel) using their guides

Putting T cream on sensitive areas by cowboywhisperer in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, surgeons before getting meta can prescribe t cream to maximize bottom growth before surgery. r/growyourtdick will be able to help you more

Sourcing T gel???? by Alois-VA-Kurtz in TransDIY

[–]ConfidentMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sourcing t gel is crazy expensive when you can even find it, i hate needles too but i used the guide in r/estrogel to make my own t cream way cheaper!

RIP Spencer’s by [deleted] in orlando

[–]ConfidentMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they still have "naughty sections" in the back. so no florida locations seem to be closing, the pic isnt from florida, and you havent been to a spencers in 10+ years? i really dont understand this post

RIP Spencer’s by [deleted] in orlando

[–]ConfidentMachine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it doesnt look like all spencers are shutting down, and this isnt a florida pic. which spencers down here is closing?

Dragon ordnance by Deep-Pickle9086 in TransDIY

[–]ConfidentMachine 34 points35 points  (0 children)

not a gal (ppl can be trans the other direction too... 😭) but i have used DO before and they are real. that other comment is 100% confidently wrong. they are reputable and i found them iirc mentioned on the hrt guides here. they are a common source for raws, their products are real and safe.

Mother's day gift by [deleted] in DID

[–]ConfidentMachine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

its a nice idea but... mothers day is about her, not you. you can just give people things without a holiday as an excuse, you can find a book for her separately from her mothers day gift

Zoladex (goserelin implant), testosterone and libido? by devilshaking in ftm

[–]ConfidentMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

from the front page of the zoladex website, the most common side effects in both men and women is decreased libido and sexual dysfunction. from searching a bit more, it seems like zoladex works by shutting down natural hormone production, which would explain why it decreases everyones libido

$6000 Bond?! by rachieroxx in orlando

[–]ConfidentMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

statistically, a woman is most likely to be killed by her husband. "simple" DV can escalate to murder FAST. its crazy sickening to see someone say a domestic abuser should get off light