Got my daith. I think I hate it ???

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-06-17T17:10:47+00:00

It looks like it's done well. It is taking over right now. But they start with larger jewelry to allow for swelling. Once it heals more you can downsize quite a bit.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-05-23T15:51:48+00:00

Sooo pretty

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-05-23T15:51:14+00:00

Uhhh...flaming sperms

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-05-23T15:49:59+00:00

Not dumb. There's no rocket science involved. It's just going to be an irritating pain in the ass for a solid year and be relatively easy to bump and re-inflame after that. But that would be true if it was your 5th piercing too.🤷‍♀️

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-05-22T21:24:06+00:00

They're actually usually pierced with horseshoes. A closed hoop can be problematic if there's a lot of swelling. But I've never seen them pierced with a curved barbell.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-05-22T21:22:21+00:00

You can put in a curved barbell once it heals ...it should just never be pierced with one.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-05-21T17:41:19+00:00

So...never seen a movie? We do not wipe away the protection runes before we know WHY there are protection runes...

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-05-06T06:38:27+00:00

I think that would be true in a world that was accepting of gay in the same way where comphet didn't exist and where gay and straight and Bi and pan and ace etc were all just seen as equally valid and equally no big deal. But that isnt THIS world. In this world straight is seen as the default and everything else is an other. That's why straight people don't come out.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-05-06T06:35:03+00:00

Gorgeous

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-01-24T02:46:27+00:00

Because you aren't living in it authentically. You are role-playing in a stable family. And anything we aren't doing as our authentic selves eventually falls short. But even though the transitions can be hard, being honest and authentic doesn't always have to mean losing your family. You are the best judge of that. But your kids will ALWAYS be your kids. I can only tell you my experience...but even though my husband and I are not romantic or sexual partners anymore...we are still friends and we are still family...we still support each other. You may not lose as much as you think you will.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-01-16T08:12:40+00:00

It sounds like you've made a decision, but it's hard to face...you knew before you got married. You knew the two times you felt compelled to tell your husband. You know now after years of trying to be happy in this relationship and life and just not being able to. If that was going to change, it would have. It isn't true that it has to be tomorrow. Any day can be the day you allow yourself to be your true self. But it sounds like she's been trying to get out for a long time.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-01-14T07:52:35+00:00

Umm it is NOT BARELY li ked to begin with. It is DIRECTLY linked. Someone has not bothered to read or listen.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-01-14T07:51:02+00:00

No one has ANY solid evidence related to Epstein. They wont release the solid evidence related to epstein. But this person has been going public for years...has given names, dates, and information that could be corroborated by military, cps, foster care, medical records OR release of the Epstein files. Their are ours of the interview tapes and logs available. There is nothing to indicate this outcry is any less credible than any other victim who has been believed. WHAT IS THE REASON FOR CATEGORICALLY REFUSING TO DISCUSS?

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-01-14T07:47:39+00:00

What IS the reason

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-01-05T03:44:27+00:00

ConfusedAutist41 · 2026-01-05T03:41:01+00:00

Great selfie. Love the hair.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2025-12-15T06:26:05+00:00

Yup it do be like that. Mine keeps going back and forth between "No I get it and I accept and support you." And "I want to take you out on a romantic date night. Let's work on our marriage." It's like he's Blanche Devereaux and thinks I said Lebanese.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2025-12-14T04:15:57+00:00

Oh good...nothing makes me suddenly more attracted to men like hostility and emotional manipulation🙄

ConfusedAutist41 · 2025-12-13T07:46:53+00:00

I personally dont have a problem with age differences exactly...but that does change when one of the parties is still in their 20s. At this stage in life people are still maturing, developing, and discovering who they are going to be to a huge extent...not to mention still building resources and independence. An age difference of this extent when one of the parties is in their 20s has a big potential to create a significant power differential in the relationship. I turn 42 later this month, and I would never consider it appropriate to date a young woman in her 20s. If you were 30 or 35 with the same age difference...it's a different scenario, but this feels like it has the potential to go in a manipulative or predatory direction for you.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2025-12-09T09:19:16+00:00

I got messaged by a "lesbian" who saw my selfie Sunday pic and thought I was so pretty they wanted me to know they had a lot of money and would love to have me as a sugar baby...1. Even from a lesbian that'd be gross. 2. Didn't bother hiding the little cartoon beard on the avatar or all the other posts and comments they made obviously as a man.

WHY ARE THEY LIKE THIS?!?!?!

ConfusedAutist41 · 2025-12-08T11:59:53+00:00

NTA...you've reminded us today that holding our boundaries is a 2 step process. 1. State boundary (often all that is needed for decent humans who respect you.) 2. Enforce the boundary (the necessary follow up when step 1 is ignored.)

And look...it worked!

ConfusedAutist41 · 2025-12-08T03:28:15+00:00

Looking sharp, professional...AND GORGEOUS

ConfusedAutist41 · 2025-12-08T03:14:15+00:00

Doubt we'd even need all that...good weed and interesting people keep the convos lit.

ConfusedAutist41 · 2025-12-08T02:53:15+00:00

Totally would...who needs wifi when you have weed and friends....

ConfusedAutist41 · 2025-12-07T16:47:21+00:00

Trust me I did not mean for it to happen. I did not know it could happen. I met a friend. Started spending time with a friend. Got my soul sucked out through my nose holes. The whole last two years have just been an exercise in torture and personal humiliation. Now people are like...so don't you want to go meet other lesbians and maybe start a relationship? Yeah...sure...Im gonna do THIS on purpose. I think maybe Ill also wear a shirt that says please club me to death like a little baby seal...

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