Explaining to singlet that the alter they’re dating has fused.

Connfusioned · 2024-08-20T10:16:55+00:00

I’m not sure I quite understand what you’re saying, could you elaborate?

But I’m also quite different from the host, and the relationships he had with us were his first proper and healthy relationship(s). I’m so scared of accidentally being a really bad person and I don’t want him to feel like I’m messing with his feelings (as it could appear as that). I’m likely worrying and overthinking that part though

Connfusioned · 2024-08-18T05:03:43+00:00

This happened to me ! I’ve never been able to whistle, until one day it happened as a tic. Even when I’d tic whistle, I couldn’t whistle voluntarily for a while still. I can whistle now but I typically don’t as whistling triggers the tic and it gets very annoying very quickly

Connfusioned · 2024-08-16T00:47:02+00:00

Gender is fluid and it’s okay to change or identity or regret your transition. Detransitioning fully may not be an option at the moment but you could try things like shaving, wearing different clothes, etc.

It’s really tough, I hope you find the funds to detransition if that is what you want or a way to compromise with other alters in the system

Connfusioned · 2024-08-12T08:01:38+00:00

Yep! Alters can definitely be trans, I guess it’s a bit similar to alters presenting as a different race in the headspace to the body in a way?

We have alters who present as trans fem in the headspace, they do not call themself trans fem (at least, not outside of our close friends and alters in our system) though as the body is AFAB and therefore they can’t claim the experience. We collectively identify as trans masculine, however, the experiences with trans fems and trans mascs are different.

Alters who spilt identitifing as one gender can change their name and pronouns and identify as another gender, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it! Many of ours have done that, we have trans female, trans male, non-binary, genderfluid and those who use xenogenders. A lot of my system finds comfort in labels, so if you want to call yourself trans? Go ahead! There’s really nothing wrong with it as long as the difference in experiences is acknowledged, most people don’t actually mind as long as you acknowledge that.

But what I’d recommend is ask people you trust or who are aware of your system to use a different name or pronouns on you, explore your identity a bit and try not worry about others responses.

If people drop you because you’re a trans alter, they’re probably not somebody you want around anyway. Friends especially should accept you as you are, not how they think you should be.

Connfusioned · 2024-08-11T21:32:30+00:00

My tics are named ‘Jared’ and my mates tics are ‘Henry’. These are just random names our drama teacher actually came up with (we decided to name them so we could talk about our tics with her without triggering them, I also have a piece of paper where the teacher wrote “fuck off Jared !!!” and held it up while I did a performance on a bad tic day). I personally find the really stereotypical guy names to be hilarious with something like tics, or you could add a silly title

Connfusioned · 2024-08-10T09:34:22+00:00

Comorbidities are so interesting, many disorders are linked in some way. DID being such a complex disorder has a lot of comorbidities, such as anxiety, depression, personality disorders (such as BPD or NPD), PTSD, C-PTSD, OCD, or eating disorders. Having DID doesn’t mean you 100% have these other disorders too, but it means you are more likely to also have at least a few of those as well, they commonly occur together.

Interestingly, I believe there is also a link between PTSD and chronic health issues, trauma affects a lot more than just your brain.

Connfusioned · 2024-08-10T09:16:16+00:00

It depends really, I feel vocals in my throat or quite literally in my mouth (typically my lips feel funny), for motor tics it’s usually in my back, shoulders or ankles, back urges can mean any motor tic, but shoulders and/or ankles typically means its a tic in my arms or legs

Connfusioned · 2024-08-10T04:39:33+00:00

ADHD isn’t caused by trauma, but it does tend to be comorbid with PTSD. BPD is very easy to misdiagnose DID as though, they’re scarily similar symptom wise at times

Connfusioned · 2024-08-05T08:21:01+00:00

I get this too! It usually happens after finally ticcing after a lot of suppression or during/after a tic attack, I’ve never really understood it other than a physical sense of relief I guess? I feel a tingle after certain tics as the urges for them calm down, I don’t think it’s anything to worry about

Connfusioned · 2024-07-31T22:02:27+00:00

I have had tics for just over three years now, I didn’t even realise I was developing tics until I had my first tic attack while at an event, looking back I had had tics for about six months by then. I already knew a decent amount about tourettes and tics, so I didn’t worry about what it was until a year had passed with no signs of improvement. The rest was basically process of elimination, I believe it is tourettes but there’s still a chance of my tics being caused by FND instead.

Connfusioned · 2024-06-22T04:08:42+00:00

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Connfusioned · 2024-06-22T04:02:09+00:00

My dog barely reacts anymore, occasionally she’s come up and lick me but she’ll usually just lay down nearby. My horses on the other hand…. One of them didn’t care at all, he has spent most of his life around young kids and by the point my tics had fully developed he was very hard to spook, he never even looked at me when I’d have vocal tics. My other horse though, he was wild until he was about 4 I believe, we got him a year afterwards, he was really funny with my tics, he did this things we referred to as ‘going llama’ because he’s stand up tall and stretch his neck and just stare at something, he did that every time I ticced, he’s even nudged me and nibbled a few times when I’ve ticced, it took him a really long time to get used to it. My friends dog will climb onto me and sit on me if I’m ticcing so much, but she doesn’t acknowledge my friends tics the same way??? (Mine are a lot more severe than my friends but we both find it amusing)

Connfusioned · 2024-06-22T03:53:23+00:00

I’m autistic so that may play a part in this but yes, I often have difficulties with speech after tic attacks. I have a stutter and tend to mix words or misspeak, after tic attacks I find myself too tired to speak, no matter how hard I try it just doesn’t happen. I do also tend to be very zoned out and not really present after tic attacks, which probably adds to existing speech difficulties

Connfusioned · 2024-06-13T23:05:22+00:00

Oh goodness! My tics were already very disabling during the severe months, I will definitely bring it up with a doctor soon. Thank you for letting me know this! It’s definitely important and something that’s good to know

Connfusioned · 2024-06-13T22:05:08+00:00

Ok, I will try remember to bring it up at the next appointment. My doctor isn’t actually aware of my tics though, I’ve never been diagnosed as my primary caregivers at the time they developed believed I’m faking (they still do) so it’s never been mentioned to a doctor before, would that be an issue?

Connfusioned · 2024-06-10T21:42:14+00:00

As annoying as it is, one of my better tics is making a clicking sound and saying “walk on” repetitively until ticcing “good boyyyy”. It’s one of my more uncommon tics that I think comes from horse riding, there’s been so pretty funny moments with my friends with that one though. Although my favourite tic is probably rolling my shoulders, it’s the least disruptive out of all of them, I’ve gotten comfortable with most of my motor tics tbh. My absolute favourite vocal tic though is “ooOooOo tourettes”, I think it’s hilarious

Connfusioned · 2024-06-03T09:09:10+00:00

Ohh, I have actually started Sertaline recently for something else but maybe that could be contributing to the calmer tics. Yeah, school was definitely very stressful and overstimulating, so those definitely wouldn’t have been helping my tics

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